Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 531515

Shown: posts 19 to 43 of 63. Go back in thread:

 

Re: How about coloring? fallsfall

Posted by daisym on July 29, 2005, at 10:21:31

In reply to Re: How about coloring? gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on July 29, 2005, at 8:52:19

I'm sorry you had a tough night. I think we need lincoln logs to help us practice organized thought patterns.

I also think we should do diaramas (I'm sure I spelled that wrong) of our therapist's office(s). You know those shoe box things that are mini models of what you are depicting. We could use doll house furniture and stuff. That way we could really get a feel for where we all sit and how different everything is. And then we could take them home and when we were having a bad day, put ourselves there!

OK, yeah, bad night, I'm tired.

 

Re: I can Barbeque

Posted by AuntieMel on July 29, 2005, at 12:19:11

In reply to Re: How about coloring? fallsfall, posted by daisym on July 29, 2005, at 10:21:31

I love to cook BBQ - the slow all day type. I can do a mean brisket and pretty good ribs and chicken.

And better still, I find it soothing, and I love the smell. So I can do it all week long if you like.

 

I'll tend the garden

Posted by gardenergirl on July 29, 2005, at 14:04:13

In reply to Re: I can Barbeque, posted by AuntieMel on July 29, 2005, at 12:19:11

And grow fresh herbs for yummy food.

gg

 

Re: I'll tend the garden gardenergirl

Posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 8:12:07

In reply to I'll tend the garden, posted by gardenergirl on July 29, 2005, at 14:04:13

I held the picture all night last night...

 

Re: I'll tend the garden fallsfall

Posted by AuntieMel on July 30, 2005, at 11:46:02

In reply to Re: I'll tend the garden gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 8:12:07

Are you ok today?

 

(((((falls))))) (nm)

Posted by gardenergirl on July 30, 2005, at 12:09:35

In reply to Re: I'll tend the garden gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 8:12:07

 

Camp Comfort AuntieMel

Posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 16:21:42

In reply to Re: I'll tend the garden fallsfall, posted by AuntieMel on July 30, 2005, at 11:46:02

I'll be OK. It's just that things have been a little stressful at work, and I count on my therapist to keep me seeing things in a reasonable light. So when he's gone, I know that I go off course, but I don't know exactly how I'm off course of what to do about it. So I guess I feel like I need him (more than miss him).

Tomorrow I'll go to my parent's cottage on the lake. I'm not going to read Library Administration books, and I'm not going to read Psych books (except, I'll bring "In Session", of course). I'm going to read adult fiction (usually I only read kids' books...). I'm going to bring a string art project I started many years ago. If my daughter's car stops overheating, I'll bring my sewing machine and finish the seat covers I started at Xmas for her.

So, hopefully, being away from my usual environment will make it so that I need him less.

Except my daughter just told me that her friend is planning to come with us for the whole week (I had told her she could have friends come to visit - but I was thinking a day or two). We've compromised that if her friend needs to go home, and one of my daughter's other friends isn't going to be going that way, that my daughter will drive her home (I'll pay for the gas). So I guess that she won't stay longer than I want her to, because when I want her to go I'll send her home. But this is stress I wasn't counting on. And my parents will be there through Monday morning because the plumber is coming on Monday to make the shower work (a shower is a good thing). So now I'll have daughter's friend AND my parents at the same time. Daughter's friend is a very picky eater. My mother asked what we should eat on Sunday night and when I told her that friend was picky she said "So should we just serve what we want and force her to be polite?". ARGH!

I *was* looking forward to next week.

I don't know how much internet access I'll be able to find. The library limit is 15 minutes where I'm going.

 

Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall

Posted by daisym on July 30, 2005, at 20:00:08

In reply to Camp Comfort AuntieMel, posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 16:21:42

Have you decided what you are going to read while you are gone? I hope something light and funny...

Go off by yourself and find a quiet spot to read. Or meditate. Or just daydream. Leave the girls to themselves and eat what YOU want. Bring a jar of PB and some jam and white bread. Everyone will survive. Vacation dinners are supposed to be informal affairs, whoever wants to eat does and others can just skip it...a lot less stress that way.

Go to bed early and sleep late on Sunday and Monday. Makes the visiting time shorter.

And even if you don't have internet access much, when things are really quiet and peaceful, open your mind to the cosmos and hear the good thoughts coming your way. That will be me, thinking about you.
((((Falls))))

 

Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall

Posted by AuntieMel on August 1, 2005, at 16:37:59

In reply to Camp Comfort AuntieMel, posted by fallsfall on July 30, 2005, at 16:21:42

I know what you mean. It stresses me when I think things will go one way and it changes. It never used to bother me.

I'm sending email

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by fallsfall on August 4, 2005, at 11:56:35

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall, posted by AuntieMel on August 1, 2005, at 16:37:59

Thanks Daisy and AuntieMel,

The friend lasted until Wed afternoon and then called her mom to come get her. Friend wanted to "do" things. Daughter wanted to "hang out".

It would have been nice if friend hadn't disintegrated into tears for hours until her mom came... But things are peaceful now.

I'm having a good, restful time. Miss my therapist a little. Just starting to get a little bored - what a concept. Trying to not solve all of my work problems while I'm on vacation.

Catch you later!
Falls.

 

Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall

Posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2005, at 12:38:38

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by fallsfall on August 4, 2005, at 11:56:35

Sounds like a good plan about not solving work problems. I hope the rest of your week goes well. I'm not missing my T just yet, but we did have a really good session yesterday, and now he's off for two weeks. :(

I guess it's better than having a bad session just before he goes, but darn. I feel like I should have said something about how I feel about him. Hmmm, I'm not anxious about him...Not me!

Book me a room at Camp Comfort,please. I'll be there all next week.

gg

 

Re: Camp Comfort gardenergirl

Posted by AuntieMel on August 5, 2005, at 14:26:14

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall, posted by gardenergirl on August 4, 2005, at 12:38:38

We'll be here.

Funny, I usually don't miss mine when he's away, but waiting for news of my friend this week really stressed me and I thought of calling him and - he's not there.

Not that I *would* have called, but it woulda been nice to know I could.

 

Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall

Posted by fallsfall on August 7, 2005, at 19:05:42

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by fallsfall on August 4, 2005, at 11:56:35

I'm back from vacation. I see my therapist tomorrow.

I had a really good time on vacation. I definately recommend scheduling your own vacation while your therapist is away. Everybody needs some time to try something different. And I surely needed him less when I was in a "foreign" environment.

But now I'm ready to see him again, and start the hard work back up again. I'm glad that I'm not worried that he won't come back, or that he'll decide to retire etc. He'll come back ready to work, and so will I.

Camp Comfort was a nice place to wait the vacation out. I'm so glad it was here.

 

Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall

Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2005, at 19:17:50

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort fallsfall, posted by fallsfall on August 7, 2005, at 19:05:42

I'm glad the last week went well.

My appt isn't until a week from tomorrow, at 8 am.

But I've already forgotten my therapist and wonder why on earth I go see him.

Dratted object impermanence.

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by madeline on August 8, 2005, at 21:26:15

In reply to Camp Comfort, posted by fallsfall on July 22, 2005, at 10:57:40

My T is on vacation, so I am very glad camp comfort is here. I guess I should have taken a vacation this week as well.

Why is this so hard. I only see him for 45 minutes once a week. You'd think that I could handle it better.


> I'll be at Camp Comfort for the next two weeks. Who will be there with me? AnnieRose, you can come for these last 5 days. Dinah, you can come even though your therapist isn't on vacation. Daisy, you could come and then maybe you wouldn't feel so alone. Who else has a therapist on vacation?
>
> Last session we talked about how inadequate I am when it comes to vacations. I like to do nothing. He was trying to convince me that that was OK. And encouraging me to do things in the next two weeks that I don't usually do (i.e. read adult fiction).
>
> Today he wore a bowtie!!! I know he is sailing (on the ocean) for one of the two weeks, and doing things around his house for the other. I asked which week he was sailing, so I could watch out for hurricanes. He said that he would have plenty of warning and would come to shore if there was bad weather. I did mention to him that people here were concerned for their therapists who were on vacation when the bombs went off in London.
>
> 2 years ago he gave me his cell phone number. He isn't always in range (I guess some parts of the ocean don't have coverage... go figure!), but he says that if I call he will call back when he does have coverage (within a few days). But I lost his cell phone number. I can't imagine how I could lose something as important as that. I struggled through the session trying to decide if I should ask for the number again. I decided I wouldn't ask for it. I think I'll be OK. But at the very end he said "You have my cell phone number, right?" and I said "I've lost it". So he wrote it down for me. That meant a lot.
>
> I think I'll be OK for two weeks. I'll be really glad when he comes back, though. I don't want to quit! I just hope I can tolerate his well deserved vacation.

 

Re: Camp Comfort madeline

Posted by fallsfall on August 8, 2005, at 23:01:30

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by madeline on August 8, 2005, at 21:26:15

Welcome to Camp Comfort! Vacations are the worst - I used to say that therapists shouldn't be allowed to take them. But I do find that they can be "therapeutic opportunities". And as I feel better, I tolerate them better. How long is your therapist away?

 

Re: Camp Comfort madeline

Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2005, at 23:12:26

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by madeline on August 8, 2005, at 21:26:15

I'm glad you found Camp Comfort. Come on in and relax.

It's not just that fortyfive minutes, you know. You always know they're there if you really need them, at least during office hours. Sitting there in their office, available for emergencies.

It's sort of like when I had the kidney stones. I didn't actually use any of the pain pills, but the pain felt less bad because I had the pain pills ready to take.

So you don't see them for fortyfive minutes. But they aren't *there* for their entire vacation.

Well, mine isn't on vacation. He's working. And he says I can call him, if I realize he can't get back to me right away. But he's bad on the phone at the best of times, so I never do. Well, I did when my best friend died while he was out of town. And he actually answered when I rang. It was break or something. I don't recall it helping overmuch though.

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2005, at 23:22:26

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort madeline, posted by Dinah on August 8, 2005, at 23:12:26

I'm glad to be here. I think I need to schedule a massage. Can I get one in-room, please, so I can use my own shower after?

sigh

gg

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by madeline on August 9, 2005, at 7:35:26

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort madeline, posted by fallsfall on August 8, 2005, at 23:01:30

he is away for one week, but it will be two weeks before I see him. Tomorrow would be therapy day so I have to wait until next wednesday.
I'm going through a lot right now and I guess it is tougher than ever to be separated from him.

Good to know that I am not the only one that has issues with this.

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by madeline on August 9, 2005, at 7:38:09

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort madeline, posted by Dinah on August 8, 2005, at 23:12:26

Yeah, my therapist doesn't help much on the phone either. In fact, I actually heard a timer go off one time indicating he was finished talking to me.
On one hand, I understand that he has other patients, but on the other hand, that's just kind of rude.
Not perfect, but all I have.

 

Re: Camp Comfort madeline

Posted by fallsfall on August 9, 2005, at 9:34:09

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by madeline on August 9, 2005, at 7:38:09

Here at Camp Comfort we don't have to put up with "rude". Things are arranged however you need them to be to make you the most comfortable. You can do things to distract yourself, or not do things to feel peaceful. You can talk to us, or there are special staff members who will talk to you if you want.

I think I'll go swing on the swings for a bit. Wanna come?

My therapist is back, but somehow, I don't really want to leave Camp Comfort yet.

 

Re: Camp Comfort gardenergirl

Posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 9:45:19

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort, posted by gardenergirl on August 8, 2005, at 23:22:26

One hot stone massage on it's way. Complete with aromatherapy. Do you like fresh lavender buds?

 

Re: Camp Comfort AuntieMel

Posted by gardenergirl on August 9, 2005, at 15:29:52

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort gardenergirl, posted by AuntieMel on August 9, 2005, at 9:45:19

Oh my, yes.

Thanks,
gg

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by madeline on August 9, 2005, at 19:40:38

In reply to Re: Camp Comfort madeline, posted by fallsfall on August 9, 2005, at 9:34:09

I would love to go on the swings with you. WHEE!

I think one of the reasons that I miss my T so much is that he makes me feel a little less like a freak. I had lunch with two of my peers today and they were just chatting away about their lives, online dating etc...

I felt so alone. I mean what could I contribute "Crushing depression and borderline personality disorder" don't really look that great on an online profile. But i can go to my therapist and just for a little bit, talk about things that I want to talk about and not be judged or ridiculed.

I miss that.

 

Re: Camp Comfort

Posted by madeline on August 10, 2005, at 20:16:59

In reply to Camp Comfort, posted by fallsfall on July 22, 2005, at 10:57:40

well, today would have been therapy day and I'm sad. I really miss my doc and wish he were here, but I know he deserves a vacation from all of us demanding patients.
He has gone out of town before - including a 3 week trip to Italy - and I haven't missed him at all, but this time for a one week trip I'm just really sad.
I just found out that my insurance is going to cover part of my therapy and I know he will be thrilled, but I guess I have to wait to tell him.

Anyway, I'm just listening to some music and trying to keep my chin up.

I guess it is good that I feel SOMETHING about his absence.


Go forward in thread:


Show another thread

URL of post in thread:


Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ


[dr. bob] Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD, bob@dr-bob.org

Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.