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Posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 14:18:10
Maybe still will, want to cancel my appt. with college counsellor, feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it.
Posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 15:05:49
In reply to Almost Cancelled, posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 14:18:10
Well I did. I cancelled. Unable to face another therapist. Goodbye, male species. You're teases, and you're not even valid. Invalid. Stamp it, baby.
Posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 16:13:04
In reply to Re: Almost Cancelled, posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 15:05:49
I would never go to a male therapist hereafter either. Good Job. Females are much better.
Posted by Dinah on April 18, 2005, at 17:19:35
In reply to Re: Almost Cancelled » Susan47, posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 16:13:04
Well, maybe for some people. But mine is just right.
Posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 17:54:20
In reply to Nuh uh! » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on April 18, 2005, at 17:19:35
They work well for us, but just too much stress about the liking stuff.. And it is extremely hard to stop therapy with them. There is too much emotions.
I am going to a new T now, and i think about her pretty much only during those 50 mins. Rest of the time, I am not even aware she exists.. And it is such a relief. With my previous T (who was a male) I was all the time constantly thinking about him, wishing he would like me etc etc.. It was just too much stress.
Posted by Dinah on April 18, 2005, at 18:09:11
In reply to Re: Nuh uh! » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 17:54:20
Well, for some people I'll concede that it's better. But for some reason I can't imagine a woman having the same feel as my therapist does. And I couldn't have therapy, no matter how competent it was, without that feel.
Of course, my mother issues are also far more ingrained than my father issues. And overall I feel more positively toward men than women as a result of that. With obvious personal exceptions, my dear female friends.
Hmmm... Has anyone ever noticed that I generally refer to you as females rather than women? I have this huge fear of women.
Posted by annierose on April 18, 2005, at 19:29:56
In reply to Re: Nuh uh! » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 17:54:20
I am a straight female, married w/kids and see a female T. I do like her and think about her between sessions. It's not sexual, but there's a longing to feel close to her. I think a good T can make those feelings develop regardless of sex.
Posted by pinkeye on April 18, 2005, at 19:57:35
In reply to Re: Nuh uh! » pinkeye, posted by annierose on April 18, 2005, at 19:29:56
yeah.. I know it could be that way also. My new T is especially cold. In fact I haven't seen anyone so cold much in my life. But I like it this way, because otherwise I will end up liking her and it will hurt in the end. Now even a tiny bit if I try to like her, she kind of shuts me down.. the ohter day I told her she was a pretty good therapist and that she kind of understood my emotions, but her face was completely blank and she went on to the next topic. I have never seen anyone who could be so inhuman - not even a smile to acknowledge what I said, and I was saying it genuinely. She is pretty strange. But she is very good in her insight and that is why I like her.
Posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 20:26:54
In reply to Re: Nuh uh! » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on April 18, 2005, at 18:09:11
It's partly the feel that's the problem. I just want to feel him all over.
Posted by Tamar on April 19, 2005, at 6:09:11
In reply to Re: Nuh uh! » Dinah, posted by Susan47 on April 18, 2005, at 20:26:54
I wonder if it has more to do with the therapist's theoretical orientation than with their biology. It's probably harder to feel close to a blank slate T of either sex, whereas a more touchy-feely T, whether male or female, might elicit feelings of closeness and longing.
Certainly it's common for straight women to develop sexual feelings for a female T, and it can be quite confusing. So I don't think there's any guarantee that seeing a female T will be the solution to those pesky transference issues!
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