Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 422613

Shown: posts 1 to 14 of 14. This is the beginning of the thread.

 

Feeling sad or something like it..T session

Posted by Fallen4MyT on November 30, 2004, at 23:01:57

My session today has to last two weeks and it just left me feeling like he didn't hear, see or know me :( I am having issues with holidays and usually he answers you on things and so on but today he seemed distant and blah and left me feeing..unseen :*(

 

I HATE those sessions » Fallen4MyT

Posted by Dinah on December 1, 2004, at 9:44:11

In reply to Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by Fallen4MyT on November 30, 2004, at 23:01:57

Fortunately the very bad ones don't come that often. Unfortunately, neither do the very good ones.

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Fallen4MyT

Posted by Daisym on December 1, 2004, at 10:31:11

In reply to Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by Fallen4MyT on November 30, 2004, at 23:01:57

I hate those sessions, Fallen, especially before a break. I feel like I'm psychically darting around desperately trying to plug into something to hang on to. I think it is the little kid parts of us that wants them to come right out and say, "I will miss you and I promise to come back" while the adult parts push us to be strong and graceful in our good wishes for a nice holiday. I think it must be hard on a therapist to deal with 6 or 8 "weepy" clients in the day before they are leaving. They must have a way to get through the day, but still...in this case it is THEM that is causing the weepy...so maybe you were at the end of a long day?

You will find a way to reconnect, even if it is over the conversation of how you felt during the session. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Do something fun or soothing. I usually go shoe shopping. :)

And keep posting. It helps.
Hugs from me. Really tight. I know this is hard.
Daisy

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session

Posted by BigFish on December 1, 2004, at 13:26:15

In reply to Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by Fallen4MyT on November 30, 2004, at 23:01:57

I can completely relate, Fallen. Every session before break has been bad over the 10 months I've been seeing my T. Once he even shut the door in my face right as I was saying "bye." [I didn't imagine it either]. He looked sad so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. I am always left feeling empty, lonely, and unliked. Daisy is right, it's no reflection on his feelings for you. If I remember correctly, didn't you have a big crush on/were in love with your T? Is that still true?
Hang in there and know it's not about you.

BigFish

> My session today has to last two weeks and it just left me feeling like he didn't hear, see or know me :( I am having issues with holidays and usually he answers you on things and so on but today he seemed distant and blah and left me feeing..unseen :*(

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » BigFish

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 21:57:19

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by BigFish on December 1, 2004, at 13:26:15

Hi BigFish and thank you....Most of the time my T will say the usual junk on how to reach him and when he will be back and so on, this time he was just blah and acted it the whole session kind of. He also opened the window and it is like cold here :) maybe he is ill but :*( He also just ended kind of abruptly he usually allows me to go way over if we feel like it other clients or not. I had to wait a half hour he is like that. And yes, you recall correcty I am in love still with T and he know and well :D still this was a huge bummer...If he had shut the door in my face I would have freaked out at him but that sad face woud help lol....I half thought of emailing him we keep in touch or of cancelling and not going back it just seemed like he was bored with me or hates me or don't want to see me or something...maybe cause I cut my sessions way back but :(

> I can completely relate, Fallen. Every session before break has been bad over the 10 months I've been seeing my T. Once he even shut the door in my face right as I was saying "bye." [I didn't imagine it either]. He looked sad so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. I am always left feeling empty, lonely, and unliked. Daisy is right, it's no reflection on his feelings for you. If I remember correctly, didn't you have a big crush on/were in love with your T? Is that still true?
> Hang in there and know it's not about you.
>
> BigFish
>
> > My session today has to last two weeks and it just left me feeling like he didn't hear, see or know me :( I am having issues with holidays and usually he answers you on things and so on but today he seemed distant and blah and left me feeing..unseen :*(
>

 

Re: I HATE those sessions » Dinah

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 22:00:34

In reply to I HATE those sessions » Fallen4MyT, posted by Dinah on December 1, 2004, at 9:44:11

> Fortunately the very bad ones don't come that often. Unfortunately, neither do the very good ones.

Thank you Dinah, I agree on the bad sessions I am glad to say I get more really good ones then bad but this had nothing I could put my finger on..I know he has personal issues but this was a bad session and a very bad way to leave me.

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Daisym

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 22:10:07

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Fallen4MyT, posted by Daisym on December 1, 2004, at 10:31:11

Thanks Daisy and so true, thing is I do not weep or even show it bugs me but I imagine he has clients who do, I just kept doing my therapy talking and all....but yes it would be nice if he said something that didn't make me feel like he doesn't want to see me again. I have cut my sessions down to about 3 times a month from 7-10 (I wanted a new car and got it lol) and then all his trips now...this is all very hard as it is and to just be all blah to me it's going to be bad in the end for me somehow. I feel a black cloud looming and almost wrote him but then said screw it maybe I won't go back. I cannot explain this very well but I feel like he just don't want to see me at all :(

> I hate those sessions, Fallen, especially before a break. I feel like I'm psychically darting around desperately trying to plug into something to hang on to. I think it is the little kid parts of us that wants them to come right out and say, "I will miss you and I promise to come back" while the adult parts push us to be strong and graceful in our good wishes for a nice holiday. I think it must be hard on a therapist to deal with 6 or 8 "weepy" clients in the day before they are leaving. They must have a way to get through the day, but still...in this case it is THEM that is causing the weepy...so maybe you were at the end of a long day?
>
> You will find a way to reconnect, even if it is over the conversation of how you felt during the session. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Do something fun or soothing. I usually go shoe shopping. :)
>
> And keep posting. It helps.
> Hugs from me. Really tight. I know this is hard.
> Daisy

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session

Posted by BigFish on December 1, 2004, at 23:33:16

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » BigFish, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 21:57:19

Fallen,

This sounds like a long story - one with which I can commiserate. I started that thread "is the attraction mutual?" back in april. Do you know how babble email works? I don't, but I'd like to hear your story...

BigFish

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » BigFish

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 23:43:03

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by BigFish on December 1, 2004, at 23:33:16

BigFish hey ya :) YES I did recall you I am sorry I didn't say that when I posted....and the thread I think I was one of FEW who was PRO on the issue. I seldom post on the specifics with me as not be feel put down we had a few threads back then on that kind of subjects and I took a lot of heat.
Sadly I do not know how Babble Mail works either and do not know if we get an account automatically or not but would write you if I do have one and someone tells us how to use it :)
> Fallen,
>
> This sounds like a long story - one with which I can commiserate. I started that thread "is the attraction mutual?" back in april. Do you know how babble email works? I don't, but I'd like to hear your story...
>
> BigFish
>
>

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Fallen4MyT

Posted by Poet on December 2, 2004, at 0:26:13

In reply to Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by Fallen4MyT on November 30, 2004, at 23:01:57

Hi Fallen4MyT,

Don't sessions like this make you just want to scream out *pay attention to me, you're not on vacation, yet.* Trying to be the perfect therapy patient, I'd never actually say it, but sometimes I wish my inner child would come out and throw a tantrum.

Try to keep yourself busy doing something that you enjoy and hopefully the weeks will seem like they pass quickly.

Poet

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Poet

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 2, 2004, at 0:40:01

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Fallen4MyT, posted by Poet on December 2, 2004, at 0:26:13

Poet I have to say I busted out LOLING when I read this post cause I cannot IMAGINE saying that to T and wish I had hahaha..."YOU'RE NOT ON VACATION YET" lol I may use that in the future. I am like you, I try so hard to be a good client and am generaly a nice mellow person. It is going to be a hard week well 2 weeks I hate to leave it this way...but you made me lol so much ...I will try to keep busy.....but :( still :D on YOU'RE NOT ON VACATION YET...that's so visceal and so true I should ask him for my money back :P

> Hi Fallen4MyT,
>
> Don't sessions like this make you just want to scream out *pay attention to me, you're not on vacation, yet.* Trying to be the perfect therapy patient, I'd never actually say it, but sometimes I wish my inner child would come out and throw a tantrum.
>
> Try to keep yourself busy doing something that you enjoy and hopefully the weeks will seem like they pass quickly.
>
> Poet

 

Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session

Posted by BigFish on December 2, 2004, at 10:23:56

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » BigFish, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 1, 2004, at 23:43:03

Hi Fallen,

If you'd like to send me a babblemail, go to the FAQ page and search on "babblemail" [it's a long page and the info is somewhere in the middle]. Follow the instructions. I just turned mine on. Write me if you'd like.

BigFish

> BigFish hey ya :) YES I did recall you I am sorry I didn't say that when I posted....and the thread I think I was one of FEW who was PRO on the issue. I seldom post on the specifics with me as not be feel put down we had a few threads back then on that kind of subjects and I took a lot of heat.
> Sadly I do not know how Babble Mail works either and do not know if we get an account automatically or not but would write you if I do have one and someone tells us how to use it :)
> > Fallen,
> >
> > This sounds like a long story - one with which I can commiserate. I started that thread "is the attraction mutual?" back in april. Do you know how babble email works? I don't, but I'd like to hear your story...
> >
> > BigFish
> >
> >
>
>

 

BIGFISH.....I set it up pls write when you can :) (nm) » BigFish

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 2, 2004, at 23:00:17

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session, posted by BigFish on December 2, 2004, at 10:23:56

 

still feeling very down just think he hates me

Posted by Fallen4MyT on December 3, 2004, at 17:01:42

In reply to Re: Feeling sad or something like it..T session » Fallen4MyT, posted by Poet on December 2, 2004, at 0:26:13

sigh :*(


This is the end of the thread.


Show another thread

URL of post in thread:


Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ


[dr. bob] Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD, bob@dr-bob.org

Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.