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Great things about our Ts

Posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

I can see that we have a few good therapy related threads started to help the TOV club through this rough week (where 3/4 of us are without Ts). I thought I'd add another that I feel like talking about: what do you just love about your T?

For me, speaking about my current T, I love her hearty laugh. Sometimes she surprises me by just busting out with a big old laugh. Fortunately, it's usually when I said something that I thought was slightly humorous or at least ironic. :)

I also like how gracefully she sometimes facilitates getting me onto or off of a difficult topic. She's so gentle and attentive.

For my old T (of whom I still think very warmly and still feel attached), I loved his silly laugh. He didn't have the big laughs, but he had a quite goofy sense of humor, which I usually loved. I also loved how he'd half smile at me sometimes when he was trying to get me to see the humor in something.

pegasus

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by gardenergirl on August 15, 2004, at 18:59:29

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

I love his fascination with words. I have this too, and we use great words sometimes. But other times, this bites me in the butt if I "slip", because he always seems to catch it.

I love that we can laugh about things, especially psych related things.

I love that he can take my seemingly unrelated ramblings and turn them into something so significant that I am speechless. Or just wrap it up so it makes sense at least.

And I love that he's psychodynamic. That's what I need.

gg

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by shrinking violet on August 15, 2004, at 20:14:27

In reply to Re: Great things about our Ts, posted by gardenergirl on August 15, 2004, at 18:59:29

Good topic.

There are probably more, but here's what I can come up with right now:

I like my T's laugh, too.....it's, well, it's indescribable really, but infectious.

I like my T's voice....it's soothing and motherly (in that it isn't high pitched or too low, and it has an innate nurturing tone to it).

I like that my T knows how to care for herself as well as she does other people; her home is very private to her, and she knows when she needs to be alone or meditate.

I like that my T shares my connection with animals and nature.

I like that my T doesn't put on a persona...she is just as nice and sincere and interesting and honest in session as she is outside.

I like that my T is human.....she doesn't try to be anything other than who she is, even if that means she self-discloses in session, or admits being hurt by or frustrated with me, or tells me something I tell her makes her sad, or takes a moment to silently reflect on her sick mother, for example.

I like that my T is patient (sometimes I think she acts it more than she feels it, but I hope I'm wrong)....especially working with me, she'd have to be. I put her through a lot, the poor woman.

I like that my T talks when I can't.

I love and admire that my T has had the courage and conviction to accept and work with her disability instead of giving up, even though it must be extroadinarily hard as its something she lives with every day (she was in an accident when she was a teenager which left her unable to walk and in a wheelchair). I get teary whenever I think about it. :(

The greatest thing about my T, though, is that she's there and that I was lucky enough to meet her. <3 (ok that was corny...*lol*).

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by daisym on August 15, 2004, at 22:24:17

In reply to Re: Great things about our Ts, posted by shrinking violet on August 15, 2004, at 20:14:27

I love his voice. It is soothing and just deep enough to carry well over the phone. He does great phone sessions.

I like that he feels free to tease me about things. It makes me feel connected to him in easy way that isn't as loaded as the other stuff.

I love his office! It is in the top of an old victorian and the windows go all the way around surrounded by trees. He calls it his "tree house" and that is how it feels.

And I really like that he pushes me to let myself need him. I told him once I needed him to beat down the executive door and find the real, sad me. He respects my work load, so he knows when not to do this. But he never lets me stay in this mode too long.

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by rubenstein on August 16, 2004, at 12:51:59

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

I love the way my therapist can make me laugh, even about the most serious of issues

I love the way that he makes an attempt to learn about classical music, so that he can try to relate better to me

I love the way that he is able to make sense of my inner struggle

I love how he empowers me to be a better person

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by Pfinstegg on August 16, 2004, at 19:16:17

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

The laughter really is important! Mine sometimes suddenly goes off into a real peal of laughter- and I often do at the same time- those are great.

Because I'm in analysis, lying down, feelings of intense remembered loneliness are one of the frequent themes. If it gets too unbearable, he'll say, " you know, we've got a *re-connection* chair right over there". Then I get up and sit in it, and have a chance to look at his kind, attentive face and eyes and beautiful hands- talk about them- he's able to tolerate, in fact welcomes, a lot of childlike commenting on every detail of his appearance- I think perhaps that helps the child part of me know better exactly who he is- and it definitely helps to fill in the well of loneliness.

I also really like it that he doesn't treat me as if I'm *sick* and he's *well*, although one could make a good case for that. He wants to be sure that he feels that we are equals in the work we are doing.

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by thewrite1 on August 16, 2004, at 23:51:12

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

I think I'll quote what I wrote in a card to her for this one. "I came here tired, depressed, lonely and suicidal. You helped me with all that and with more patience and kindness than I've ever known."

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by Dinah on August 18, 2004, at 10:11:29

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

He apologizes when he's wrong and admits to the possibility of being wrong even when he thinks he's right.

He's enormously flexible. Sometimes I say he is trainable. :) Sometimes I think he's a bit too flexible.

He stuck with me when I wasn't being so nice to him. He's not patient, exactly, but he's committed.

 

Re: Great things about our Ts

Posted by shortelise on August 20, 2004, at 1:46:02

In reply to Great things about our Ts, posted by pegasus on August 15, 2004, at 16:27:49

His humility

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