Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 374008

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Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution

Posted by Cinderella on August 4, 2004, at 12:56:25

Hey yall. Guess what? I think I found a therapist who sounds pretty good over the phone. He actually gave me 15 min. of his time to ask questions first and get to know him. He listened and didn't interrupt. He then called back and left a message on how early to get there and which switch to push for him when I get to the building. Of course I was up front with him about the bad experience I had with the last therapist. My appt. is this Friday. We'll see how it goes. Thanks everyone for your advise. It really helped.
C

 

Re: Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution

Posted by pegasus on August 4, 2004, at 14:05:57

In reply to Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution, posted by Cinderella on August 4, 2004, at 12:56:25

I'll be thinking about you on Friday. It's great that you were able to be direct about the problems with the other T. Sounds like this guy is in the same office?

Much luck with this T! I'm so glad that you didn't give up. You deserve much better treatment than you got.

pegasus

 

Re: Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution

Posted by Cinderella on August 4, 2004, at 16:22:00

In reply to Re: Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution, posted by pegasus on August 4, 2004, at 14:05:57

Thanks Peg. No. This guy is in a different office. When I called my insurance co. and told them about the bad therapist, they asked if I wanted to file a complaint. I said yes of course and when I told the lady about how the bad T was answering her phone during the session and talking about herself, she remarked that therapists sometimes do this and sounded like she was playing devil's advocate! She made it sound like my dissatisfaction was insignificant. I reminded her THAT I was the patient and the one who had been wronged! I am sick of being the victim and the scapegoat...in all areas of my life. I told her to forget the complaint claim and hung up. Sheeeeeshhhhh....
C

 

For Cinderella

Posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2004, at 19:14:23

In reply to Re: Bad Therapists: Hopefully a Resolution, posted by Cinderella on August 4, 2004, at 16:22:00

I'm really sorry about the receptionist's apparent attitude. Quite honestly, I don't think these people are trained properly. It's an "anything's acceptable, what's your problem?" thing that happens everywhere it's not supposed to. We put up with way too much rudeness; and I think sometimes we're rude too.
Ah well.

 

Re: For Cinderella

Posted by Cinderella on August 5, 2004, at 7:40:08

In reply to For Cinderella, posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2004, at 19:14:23

Yah...you're right, Susan. But rudeness sometimes begats rudeness, anxiety is communicated etc etc? It is just the state things are in right now I guess.
C

 

Rudeness

Posted by Susan47 on August 5, 2004, at 11:48:02

In reply to Re: For Cinderella, posted by Cinderella on August 5, 2004, at 7:40:08

I agree, but it's fun sometimes to totally defuse someone's rudeness. If I'm in the right mood, and I usually try to be (sometimes that's a lot of work) it's a good feeling to be able to turn someone's negative attitude right around, in 30 seconds or less. People are so *different* when you can do that, it's really amazing, and a wonderful experience. Just my 2 cents.

 

Re: Rudeness

Posted by shortelise on August 5, 2004, at 12:33:56

In reply to Rudeness, posted by Susan47 on August 5, 2004, at 11:48:02

Susan, I couldn't agree more - to be in the right mood, to know just how to turn a person's attitude around - it feels great. I also like it when people are able to do that for me.

I am sorry for Cinderella, though. There are times when it's so so nice to hear someone say, that's really lousy: let me send you a form so we can report that woman.

Cinderella, I would write a note to the company, say simply that you found the therapist unprofessional and your concerns were dismissed by their receptionist. No recriminations, nothing nasty, just a quick, simple note that they might find helpful in providing service to their clients.

Just my opnion. SOmetimes it's not worth it to "complain" and other times it is. Only you know.

Shorte

 

Re: Rudeness

Posted by Cinderella on August 5, 2004, at 16:18:07

In reply to Re: Rudeness, posted by shortelise on August 5, 2004, at 12:33:56

TY. Good advise.

 

Re: Rudeness

Posted by JenStar on August 8, 2004, at 12:32:49

In reply to Rudeness, posted by Susan47 on August 5, 2004, at 11:48:02


I think it's definitely a skill (and a good one!) to be able to diffuse bad moods. And it's cool that you do this on occasion!

Sometimes I try it too -- if someone is rude to me in a checkout line or some kind of office, I just smile and make some kind of friendly comment, even if I have satisfying mental visions of machine guns and heads coming off. [**would never, of course, actually act on this - don't worry. **] Often it has the effect of totally disarming the person, who then smiles and acts rueful and more human again.

Of course some people seem completely immune to this and take further offense at the friendly overture, almost as if this laughably feeble attempt were an insult to their intelligence and bad-mood bwahh-hah-hah power.

(I offer as an example some of the people at the Secretary of State bldg in Chicago...doing anything there that has to deal with a driver's license used to be enough to drive my human spirit into the ground....or maybe my on-again off-again powers of "niceness" are not strong enough -- must work on that!)

jenStar

> I agree, but it's fun sometimes to totally defuse someone's rudeness. If I'm in the right mood, and I usually try to be (sometimes that's a lot of work) it's a good feeling to be able to turn someone's negative attitude right around, in 30 seconds or less. People are so *different* when you can do that, it's really amazing, and a wonderful experience. Just my 2 cents.


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