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Posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 14:33:00
Okay folks. The night of the session when my T called me a "wreck", I had this dream. Please tell me what you think.
I was waiting in a waiting room of an office (not my T's office or one that I can recognize awake.) Apparently, we were there for family therapy, but the T was really late (over 30 minutes). Also, my family was not there (mother and brother, who apparently I had been expecting for family therapy.) When the T, a woman (mine is a man), shows up, she told me we would meet for half an hour and walked me to another room. I told her that the family was not there, and besides, I said, I have an appt. with you at 7:00 pm (which was right after the family therapy session) for individual therapy. Apparently she was covering for my T (I have no idea why he was not there). She did not know anything about this, did not have it in her book, and only had the half hour available. I got really mad and told her to just forget it, especially since my family wasn't there.
So then I am back in the waiting room, telling my husband about this. Now we are apparently waiting for couples' therapy (love how dreams just shift and twist). A different woman T comes out and starts talking to us right there in the waiting room. And she starts right in on giving us her opinion and interpretations on what is wrong with our marriage. I lost it then and said how dare you! Don't you think you should ask us even a few questions first? And how about some privacy? So she walks us to yet another room. While walking there, I passed a psychologist with whom I did my second year practicum. He said hello warmly, and passed by. And then I think I woke up.
Hmmmm. Am I mad at my T? Or what?
Okay you dream interpreters...let me have it.
Thanks,
gg
Posted by B2chica on July 12, 2004, at 15:08:23
In reply to My therapy dream, posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 14:33:00
>>Okay you dream interpreters...let me have it.
ok, this sounds fun. Now PLEASE keep in mind, i am in no way a professional about this but i love guessing what other people's dreams mean (but can NEVER seem to do this with my own btw).
ok, here's my guessing:
1-change is disturbing you.
2-disappointment with someone you were depending on (not being there for you).
3-(separate from above) feel family is not there for you (have to "go it alone")
4-you are not able to say what you mean or what you really want to outloud and those around you that should know, are misinterpreting/not listening to you.
5-is your husband not listening to you/or betraying your trust by talking with others? (again not allowing you a voice)
6-and the cameo of your fellow psychologist...well...??? not sure but...
i know sometimes people we expect the least to be around usually are. -this doesn't mean that person specifically, it's in general.but, i often have people just pop into my dreams and i often don't think it means anything, just that something in the subconscious made me think of them...
-can't wait to hear what others' think.
B2c.
Posted by pegasus on July 12, 2004, at 15:11:17
In reply to My therapy dream, posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 14:33:00
Don't have much time right now, but I did want to point out that you seem to have multiple people in your dream (all therapists) who are not following reasonable therapy rules in various ways. And you got frustrated at both of them (for good reason). So I think it's fair to say that you're having some kind of frustration with therapy in general. I'll think about this some more later.
pegasus
Posted by B2chica on July 12, 2004, at 15:17:34
In reply to Re: My therapy dream » gardenergirl, posted by B2chica on July 12, 2004, at 15:08:23
did i mention that (IMHO here)you feel your problems are out in the open when they shouldn't be--Thus: you feel exposed, therefore:
a sense of vulnerability. a natural response to that is anger. not toward a person but toward that emotion...it's a sense of self-preservation/protection-it's natual.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 11:37:03
In reply to Re: My therapy dream » gardenergirl, posted by B2chica on July 12, 2004, at 15:08:23
> >>Okay you dream interpreters...let me have it.
>
> ok, this sounds fun. Now PLEASE keep in mind, i am in no way a professional about this but i love guessing what other people's dreams mean (but can NEVER seem to do this with my own btw).
>
> ok, here's my guessing:
> 1-change is disturbing you.
True, although I wonder why this is coming up now. Although I may be changing my plans for internship, and that is a big decision.
> 2-disappointment with someone you were depending on (not being there for you).
Hmmmm, husband has been kind of withdrawn lately.
> 3-(separate from above) feel family is not there for you (have to "go it alone")
Oh yeah! This whole taking care of my mother thing, despite my aunts coming for a few days, felt like it was all on my shoulders.
> 4-you are not able to say what you mean or what you really want to outloud and those around you that should know, are misinterpreting/not listening to you.
I do tend to avoid conflict and have a hard time directly saying what I need.
> 5-is your husband not listening to you/or betraying your trust by talking with others? (again not allowing you a voice)
I doubt he's talking to others, but neither of us is really listening to the other lately. Kind of co-existing.
> 6-and the cameo of your fellow psychologist...well...??? not sure but...
> i know sometimes people we expect the least to be around usually are. -this doesn't mean that person specifically, it's in general.
Interesting! And you addendum, too.thanks for the input.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 11:44:13
In reply to Re: My therapy dream, posted by pegasus on July 12, 2004, at 15:11:17
> Don't have much time right now, but I did want to point out that you seem to have multiple people in your dream (all therapists) who are not following reasonable therapy rules in various ways. And you got frustrated at both of them (for good reason). So I think it's fair to say that you're having some kind of frustration with therapy in general. I'll think about this some more later.
Hmmm, kind of like beating me on the head with a two by four to get the message across (needing all those T's)? I do get frustrated at the pace. Whenever I come to an insight, I feel like I ought to be able to use that insight actively and consciously. And I know that's not really how it works. And half the time, I don't even remember it later.
I also get caught up in trying to balance content and process stuff. When I thought that sharing my shift in transference would be something my T would be glad to hear me talk about, he commented something like, "and now this is taking time away by having us talk about the process." I'm not sure what he meant by that. Half the time I feel like we should be talking more about the transference.
AAAGGH! I hate knowing intellectually how the process is "supposed" to work while being in the process at the same time. Anybody know how to turn off my T brain while I am in session?
But I suppose that his comment was not what I was hoping for. I know I've been trying to be the "good client" a lot lately, which is part of the shift. And I feel like I am not doing a good job.
Hmmm, thanks for you input. I love how this can provoke more thought. I may have to print out this thread for my T and bring it in on Friday.
gg
Posted by B2chica on July 13, 2004, at 11:50:29
In reply to Re: My therapy dream, posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 11:37:03
hope things are going better GG. i don't know if i'm just on an upswing or what but wow my outlook has changed. just wanted to quick say THANKS for the support the last couple of week. and now it's my turn.
just give me a shout if you need my help. or just give me a shout for whatever...
You're pretty great. hope your dreams have been behaving themselves. you may want to try taking a picture of ______(place movie star's name here) looking at it right before you go to bed and putting it under your pillow. that way, at least he/she will probably end up in your dreams -maybe for no reason but- good eye candy!!take care.
B2c.
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