Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 360727

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A BIG thank you and goodbye

Posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

I hope Dr. Bob doesn't redirect this because this is where I've "hung out" for the most part and where all the trouble lies.

It has become apparent to me that even though the overwhelming nature of this board is supportive and caring, I am in too fragile of a space right now to handle the small minority that is not. An unexpected post today about therapy and gifts literally had me in tears and questioning my motives and self-worth. On the Admin board I empowered Dinah to take good care of herself by sitting out, and I must do the same. The inflammatory posts are upsetting in and of themselves, but the inconsistent application of rules makes it harder to handle and leaves me feeling unsafe here.

However, I would be remiss to not thank all of you for your help and concern. I got through very rough patches because of you. I hope I contributed some as well. This forum is such a wonderful idea and has a lot of potential -- it was literally a lifeline during my more suicidal phases.

Best wishes to all of you.

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye

Posted by antigua on June 26, 2004, at 18:00:21

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

My very best wishes and warm thoughts are being sent your way. Please take extra good care of yourself.
antigua

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite

Posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2004, at 18:20:21

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

Aphrodite,
I can understand feeling too fragile to deal with the unpleasant minority. I'm close to that myself. It's triggering all kinds of issues for me related to the failures of those that should protect.

Please stay in touch either via email or on Open. We can let you know when things are safe again so that if you feel it is worth it, you can consider returning.

There might also be alternatives you would like, where you can stay in touch with some.

Feel free to email me at gardenergirl 88 at yahoo dot com

Take care, and I will miss your posts.

gg

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye

Posted by shadows721 on June 26, 2004, at 18:46:40

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

I do not want to see you leave. I just posted a note about an addition to civility rules. I feel something more specific needs to be said, so that people can be more protected. I have to admit that I too have been thinking about just turning off the computer and giving up. I feel that I am not making any benefit anymore.

I am sorry that you are wanting to leave. Again, I don't want you or anyone else to leave. I like babble, but something needs to be done. I miss Dinah too. I feel too many people are getting hurt.

Please, don't let this be forever. Maybe, something will change for the positive. I appreciate all your support and I hope you are going to be okay.

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye

Posted by lifeworthliving on June 26, 2004, at 19:55:19

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

i'm not sure about what is going on here but i'm sorry to read/know that a few posters (or is it just one?) get to control so many. i say we kill him/her (can i say that?) with kindness. or, maybe if i promise to not buy my therapist a gift to mark our anniversary this year believe and fires will just go away? oh wait, lets buy gifts for believe and fires... muzzles?! for posting purposes i guess muzzles would do no good... duct tape to wrap their hands into mitts incompatible with typing? you'd think that someone as mentally stable and knowledgable as they are would prefer trolling in places where there were no pathetic or pathologic posters, like myself.

i gotta run now. i'm stalking my therapist and wanna drive by her house when i'm most likely to see her in a window or working in the yard.

btw, you would never know by looking at me that i have this problem.

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite

Posted by tabitha on June 26, 2004, at 20:10:05

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

bye for now sweetie-- I've had to take babble breaks myself when it seemed it was becoming more of a source of stress than a support. Take good care of yourself, and know the door is always open here.. hmmm, I guess that open door seems like the very problem sometimes, but I just mean, don't hesitate to pop back in if you're able. (((Aphrodite)))

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye gardenergirl

Posted by antigua on June 26, 2004, at 21:41:47

In reply to Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite, posted by gardenergirl on June 26, 2004, at 18:20:21

I'm getting close to this too.
antigua

 

Re: A BIG thank you and LOL to (nm) lifeworthliving

Posted by TofuEmmy on June 26, 2004, at 21:42:42

In reply to Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by lifeworthliving on June 26, 2004, at 19:55:19

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite

Posted by TofuEmmy on June 26, 2004, at 21:47:47

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

I don't know you, but it makes me sad that anyone is leaving because others make them feel unsafe. Please remember there are other places out there to post, until you feel safe enough to come back to Babble. Lots of lovely people all over the Internet. And the occasional goober too. Heck, sometimes I'm the goober! :-)

Take care. Emmy
emilysimon2003 at yahoo

 

idea about unsafe posters

Posted by LG04 on June 27, 2004, at 5:34:22

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

What do people think about not reading posts of certain people that are upsetting? I saw the subject line of one thread, "false memory syndrome" and knew immediately that I could never read that thread and especially not a certain person's comments. It seems someone here or a few people like to antagonize others but if we just ignore that person, and never read the posts that he/she writes and for sure not respond, that person would eventually just go away. (that's my guess based on people who are wanting attention and wanting to provoke/antagonize, which seems to be this person's case). I personally don't think we owe anyone like that the effort of trying to be kind. I haven't been on this listserv very long, but for me, I'd rather protect myself from someone like than try to engage with him/her and see if I can get thru to him with love or kindness. I've done that so many times in my life and have ended up banging my head against the wall.

What do people think about the idea of not reading/responding/totally ignoring certain people's posts? It's such a shame for the safe people to leave and the unsafe people to stay.
LG

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite

Posted by partlycloudy on June 27, 2004, at 7:21:25

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

I can't break free of this place, even though it hurts me. You are very brave and I admore you.

 

Actually,

Posted by partlycloudy on June 27, 2004, at 7:40:57

In reply to Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite, posted by partlycloudy on June 27, 2004, at 7:21:25

> I can't break free of this place, even though it hurts me. You are very brave and I admore you.

Oops I posted this before I read Dr. Bob's message to me on Admin. I guess I'm out of here since I'm too thin skinned to read this stuff without getting upset.

And here I was thinking it just made me compassionate.
Goodbye.

 

Re: Actually, partlycloudy

Posted by gardenergirl on June 27, 2004, at 9:05:25

In reply to Actually,, posted by partlycloudy on June 27, 2004, at 7:40:57

Partlycloudy,
I hope you read the subsequent posts on admin. Dr. Bob's post perhaps was a bit too pointed. And I'm sorry if it hurt. I know I thought "ouch" when I read it.

But he's just one person here on Babble, even if he is the moderator. You are likely to have less interaction with him than with the rest of us. And thin-skinned or not, you certainly contribute a ton here. I'm hoping you get something out of it, too.

May I recommend the psychological sunscreen? You can borrow mine. I recently upped the HPF (hurt protection factor) since I am so fair.

gg

 

Re: idea for unsafe posters

Posted by LG04 on June 27, 2004, at 12:52:08

In reply to Re: Actually, partlycloudy, posted by gardenergirl on June 27, 2004, at 9:05:25

I just read a bunch of messages on this subject on the Admin. area. I had never been to that area before. So I apologize, I didn't realize that a discussion was taking place elsewhere and that the idea of ignoring certain posters was brought up and discussed. I feel embarassed. I was trying to be helpful but I can see how it might not always work to just ignore someone or how it could be very difficult to do and it might not be the right answer to the problem. Sorry.
LG

 

Re: idea for unsafe posters LG04

Posted by TofuEmmy on June 27, 2004, at 13:16:44

In reply to Re: idea for unsafe posters, posted by LG04 on June 27, 2004, at 12:52:08

Please dont' be embarassed! That's not even civil!! You can't be bare at all here!!! And you can't even SAY that other word!!!! ;-)

Pull your drawers up and keep on smilin'

Emmy

 

someone hint at naked? :) lg04 and --- TofuEmmy

Posted by karen_kay on June 27, 2004, at 20:10:53

In reply to Re: idea for unsafe posters LG04, posted by TofuEmmy on June 27, 2004, at 13:16:44

ha ha ha ha ha! i said it, what are you gonna do about it? (still lookin for that rumble!!!)

and to lg04.. i suggested that too. it works for some people and not for others. i hope everyone finds what works for them to stay safe in the unsettling waters. personally, ignoring is good for me. may not be good for others, but it works nicely for me..... apparently it works for you too, eh? (don't be 'the e word' (i said that because i can't spell it.. but it means ashamed, ect.) about anything you say here. heavens, if i was, i'd do nothing but be red-faced...

 

Re: please be civil lifeworthliving

Posted by Dr. Bob on June 28, 2004, at 8:27:47

In reply to Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by lifeworthliving on June 26, 2004, at 19:55:19

> or, maybe if i promise to not buy my therapist a gift to mark our anniversary this year believe and fires will just go away? oh wait, lets buy gifts for believe and fires... muzzles?! for posting purposes i guess muzzles would do no good... duct tape to wrap their hands into mitts incompatible with typing?

Please don't be sarcastic or suggest that others be harmed.

If you have any questions or comments about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil

or redirect a follow-up to Psycho-Babble Administration.

Thanks,

Bob

 

Re: A BIG thank you and goodbye Aphrodite

Posted by Dinah on June 28, 2004, at 11:07:33

In reply to A BIG thank you and goodbye, posted by Aphrodite on June 26, 2004, at 17:42:01

Of course you've contributed - a lot! I understand fully your need to keep yourself safe, but I really hope a time comes when you feel safe to step back to Babble. It really isn't usually this bad. Really!

I'll miss you, and please keep in touch.


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