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Re: stairs » crushedout

Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:29:40

In reply to stairs » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:46:27

Not if you've seen my rear! My eyes are my best feature so front works so much better!!! LOL

 

Re: envy » crushedout

Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:34:38

In reply to envy » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:51:58

There is usually a reason -- like he knows something "big" is happening at work or we had a really hard session and he is checking in. Typically I've left a message but I have a hectic schedule and so does he so we play cell tag.

Sometimes I worry that he is *too* accessible, but usually I like that he is around when I need him.

 

Re: embarrassing ... » shortelise

Posted by Raindancer on March 7, 2004, at 19:20:49

In reply to embarrassing ..., posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54

I took my old teddy for a while and still do occasionally. It's perfectly O.K. and i bet it happens often. All the best. R

 

Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » tinydancer

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:23:17

In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment, posted by tinydancer on March 7, 2004, at 8:23:51

I envy that in you Tinydancer cause I wish I would just stick to my mission to get what I want :)

 

Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » Rigby

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:26:17

In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment, posted by Rigby on March 7, 2004, at 10:34:16

Rigby I would like her more too by knowing HOW human she is...but still it must be embarassing lol I bet she was stunned to know that info...no doubt but :)

 

Re: stairs » crushedout

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:27:35

In reply to stairs » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:46:27

Mega loling Crushed you crack me up we are both like minded :) THAT way lol

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:32:09

In reply to that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:49:44

Oh God Crushed yes my husband has called me worse. Once at the petfood store when I went to get money out he called me a retard ..the girl behind the counter looked at him like she wanted to KILL him and her angry eyes NEVER left him.
On the cell call it was extra funny because of all the stuff he does and sez to me. He is a big shot at work...and didn't know who he was speaking to and said it just like John Wayne...he could have lost his job if the guy reported him OR if it had been his boss :) I loled for WEEKS and he didnt KNOW what all he said and that he burped he was half asleep...made it really sweet :)

 

Re: embarrassing ... » shortelise

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:37:40

In reply to embarrassing ..., posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54

ShortE, the pants ....I rotfflmao at that I would have never gone back lol :) My mom always taught me always wear clean undies when you go out you never know if you will be in an accident, as I grew up I took it a step further and its always NICE panties NOW, ON T day...its the BEST and sexiest of panties and STILL I would not want them to be seen "THAT WAY" :) HAHAHA SORRY THATS JUST TOO FUNNY :D

 

Re: envy » DaisyM

Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:56:36

In reply to Re: envy » crushedout, posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:34:38

so typically, it's because you've called him and he's just calling you back but sometimes he just initiates the calling to check up on you (albeit because he has reason to believe something in particular is going on)?

that's pretty cool. i wish my T would do that. but then it might give me the wrong idea.

why would you worry that he's too accessible? because it makes you too dependent or something?

> There is usually a reason -- like he knows something "big" is happening at work or we had a really hard session and he is checking in. Typically I've left a message but I have a hectic schedule and so does he so we play cell tag.
>
> Sometimes I worry that he is *too* accessible, but usually I like that he is around when I need him.
>

 

:) Re: stairs (nm) » Fallen4myT

Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:59:25

In reply to Re: stairs » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:27:35

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT

Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 20:02:34

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:32:09


that's pretty funny. i hope it doesn't bother you. at least, if i were you, i wouldn't feel the least bit guilty for having a crush on my T with a husband like that.

if your T offers to run away with you, i'd give him the old heave-ho.

;)

> Oh God Crushed yes my husband has called me worse. Once at the petfood store when I went to get money out he called me a retard ..the girl behind the counter looked at him like she wanted to KILL him and her angry eyes NEVER left him.
> On the cell call it was extra funny because of all the stuff he does and sez to me. He is a big shot at work...and didn't know who he was speaking to and said it just like John Wayne...he could have lost his job if the guy reported him OR if it had been his boss :) I loled for WEEKS and he didnt KNOW what all he said and that he burped he was half asleep...made it really sweet :)

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 20:07:51

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 20:02:34

Yeah Crushed it was and still is SO funny and I could hear the guy at the other end all stumbling for words.
You can bet unethical or not if my T said "Hey babe lets run off to Tahiti" or something I would :) My T and my pets are the only GOOD things in my life really sad but true...I do have food and stuff but you know what I mean.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not

Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 21:34:20

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 20:07:51

Fallen-

I'd like to mention this in a different thread, but I do apoligize for insulting your life at this point in another thread.

Anyway, I was very caught by the statement that your therapist and your pets are the only positive thing in your life right now. I bet you're right, and I think I know the feeling. I want to see if you can find something else that's positive...not because I want to do therapy with you, or because I'm challenging you, but because I really want to see it happen.

Please recognize, for you benefit and for your friends', that you've a great support network here...dare I say where nobody else could understand? And here's my cheesy alert...because that's what this will sound like...but you've got very strong inner resources, as I hope I've told you before.

The integrity of most people on this list has really impressed me, and shamed me for how I initially entered it based on a few select posts that weren't representative of people's actual feelings. Good job, to you Fallen, and to all of you.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 22:00:23

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 21:34:20

Aw, Apperceptor, Thank you that was a really sweet and nice post and I like cheese :) Please don't worry about what all was said before that is past and this is today :)
And yes, my pets and T are the best things in my life right now and my T often sez things about my strength and inner resources. I simply think like that old Tom Petty song sez " You can stand me up at the gates of hell but I won't back down" applies to me. I can hang in there like you would NOT believe and put up with a lot of stuff here but I do O.K :)
HUGS

 

Re: envy » crushedout

Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 22:47:36

In reply to Re: envy » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:56:36

I think I worry because I'm always concerned that my stuff is too hard...too much and my distress over the memories is sometimes expansive. Plus when I started therapy I had no intention of talking about or dealing with all this stuff so I tell him a lot that "he didn't sign on for this" nor did he know what he was getting. Working with abuse victims is really hard. Not that he isn't just great! :) There is a small part of me that is just *sure* at some point he will be overwhelmed and will refer me out. That part gets smaller all the time though.

I think I'm lucky. He tells me that learning to trust him and know that he is there for me is a large part of the therapy we are doing. It wouldn't occur to me to get the wrong idea, guess I'm dense?!

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT

Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 22:00:23

I really like that you made the distinction between "best things" and "only things." That meant a lot to me.

That is a GREAT song. Hold on to that...I love Tom Petty too.

Your ability to forgive wil get you very far. I feel like I've been playing book publicist tonight, but I read an EXCELLENT book a few years back called "A Return to Love," by Marianne Williamson, that talks about the incredible power in forgiveness. What I said earlier without taking the time to understand fully the situation was hurtful, and how you are now reacting to and supporting me is very admirable. You have so much power in your ability to love other people.

Thank you for existing -

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:19:39

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47

Apperceptor, I am *truly touched* by what you have just posted. I really am speechless/typeless. All I can say is WOW thank you :)
I am a huge music fan from Classical to Rap and everything inbetween
Now, lets hope out of this my T got the hint I want a current non-net picture lol :P

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not

Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:19:39

Well...in light of what you know I've said in the past....I'm just going to trust you have a strong connection with your therapist that isn't my business to understand, and that's great. I like the approach...I wish I remember who said it (?)...of saying you like pictures of those who mean a lot to you. If you can muster the inner strength to promise yourself you won't do anything that will disrespect your therapist OR disrespect yourself, I would simply present it as that. But really, Fallen, I'm convinced I don't have enough understanding in your unique situation to give strong advice...so if this helps, I'm thrilled, and if it doesn't, LET ME KNOW how it goes!!!! :-)

And remember it takes a lot to consider so many sides of the situation you are in, as you clearly are attempting (and succeeding) to do. I don't hear of all too many being able to manage it, although I'm being very pleasantly surprised by much of the integrity I'm seeing on this list.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50

LOL A, no way would I ask and I know I would not do anything wrong with his picture and he most likey would not mind my asking and give me one...but I would rather send Tinydancer in there to do the job for me :) SHE'S got guts lol ..Thanks and we will see if he does..IF he does it will be posted as a new thread :) for all to see.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not

Posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:36:59

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43

I'm inclined to go pathologically against my original post and wholeheartedly in line with a subsequent post in saying that if you feel this request is appropriate with your therapist, go for it! I still have to say i LOVE the approach of indicating you like having images of those who've helped you on the way. You certainly seem "together" enough that I'm not worried about the issues that motivated my original, quite possible disasterous, post. Go for it!

As far as those who've found the pictures on the internet...maybe they shouldn't have put them online in the first place if they were concerned. For example...I wouldn't put my picture online...not out of dislike for my clients AT ALL, but only because *MY OWN ISSUES* make me slightly uncomfortable. If your therapist put his or her picture online, all you need is a telephone jack or a cable modem to make it acceptable in my mind.

Cheers!

 

Re: the couch..

Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43

I guess some people might know from old posts that I go to a psychoanalyst, and so lie on a couch. The possibilities for embarrasment are ENDLESS! There you are, open to view, unable to see him, but very aware that he can see everything you do. When I first started lying down on it, I was EXTREMELY nervous; I just couldn't lie still, but would keep flailing my legs around, and getting into awkward positions- all the while trying my best to free-associate and also listen to sometimes alarming and even terrifying comments and interpretations (including ones concerning my body posture and movement) issuing from just behind my right ear. There are two pillows on the couch- one for your head, and one alongside for sitting up and leaning against. The worst day I ever had was when I knocked first one and then the other pillow onto the floor. I sat up to try and retrieve them; but then my necklace came undone and fell to the floor also, along with my purse, which flew open and spilled everything out. I made another desperate grab for those, and FELL OFF THE COUCH MYSELF!

But, he was really terrific. He began laughing and then I did too. We both had a real case of the giggles. All the tension died down (for the time being, we were safely off the topic which had caused all of this.). As I scrabbled around to gather everything up, he told me that he had actually written a paper called "Falling Off the Couch"! He said it happens quite a lot when patients' emotions are really running high. I had never heard of anyone doing that, but I think it was kind of a turning point, as I don't flail around now, the way I used to. That's one thing about the couch- you are trusting your body, as well as your thoughts and feelings- to your analyst. It's really kind of a privilege, you know?

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor

Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 0:48:15

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:36:59

Lol yes his picture is on the website to his clinics and I have it but I want a good one with a smile and more current..It sits on my hard drive and I look now and then thats it....So I really doubt in light of the fact the he is on the web that he would mind but I can be so shy...I still wanna hire Tinydancer she's brave and can ask :-) MY T always tells me to ask for things (we are working on this..Id rather site back and hope lol) and so on cause I tend not to...boy he might be proud of me but...No hahaha no way..color me shy.
ME I am with you, NO picture of me on the web now or ever.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not

Posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:53:14

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 0:48:15

Let's think of a way to make this an experience for you. I think it will be. I'll get back to you, alright?

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor

Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:53:41

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50

> I like the approach...I wish I remember who said it (?)...of saying you like pictures of those who mean a lot to you.

Hi App, Tiny Dancer here.

I hope I didn't say anything to cause you to feel hurt or put down in any way. I am really happy to have you here. I think you have contributed a lot of worthwhile information here. I just saw that you had quoted me there up above and decided to pipe up...

Barring my insolence, did you understand my point of view and my feelings? You can even email me if you would like:

[xxx]

That goes for anyone of course.

 

Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT

Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:56:27

In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43

> LOL A, no way would I ask and I know I would not do anything wrong with his picture and he most likey would not mind my asking and give me one...but I would rather send Tinydancer in there to do the job for me :) SHE'S got guts lol ..Thanks and we will see if he does..IF he does it will be posted as a new thread :) for all to see.


HAHA! Well, I don't know if I have guts, I just trust my T a lot and feel safety in asking him whatever is on my mind. But I do have a nasty habit of doing that anyway....

I am giggling about this whole "doing something bad" with the picture. Really! Um, I have never done anything bad with ANY picture...Prefer to use my mind with EYES CLOSED...hahaha


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