Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 314356

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what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

ok now i posted a lil bit ago about talkin to my old t .... well guess what now i need him more then ever before in my life more then i need anyone ...

so today i was havin a really bad pains in my lower stomach and went to the hospital... they found a mass on my lower intenstense!! i am scared !!! it may be cancer..

right now i want to talk to my old t cus i so much trust in him and i know i can confide in him and him not judge me .. i go for more test tomorrow ... should i call him or go see him personally >???

 

Re: what to do

Posted by antigua on February 16, 2004, at 22:14:36

In reply to what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

Call him AND make an appointment! You need support now and if he (it is a he?) can help you even just a little bit about getting over him, you will focus on it less. He probably knows you better than anyone and may give you a perspective on what's happening that will make you feel better.
Good luck, and I'm really sending healthy thoughts your way. Get the very best health care you can ASAP.
antigua

 

Re: what to do

Posted by Elle2021 on February 16, 2004, at 23:33:39

In reply to what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

Call him and make an emergency appointment. You need his support immediately. I'm praying for you, I'm sure this will turn out to be fine. Don't worry. I'm here if you need me.

Elle

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by pegasus on February 17, 2004, at 0:07:48

In reply to what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

I agree. Call him. He's been a big support person for you in the past, and this doesn't seem like a time to stick to whatever "rules" might normally apply. You might also tell your new T about this development, if you think she might be able to help you at all. It sounds like she's not been very helpful so far. Go with your gut, and ask for the support you need from whomever you want!

I'll be thinking about you, and wishing you much luck in whatever comes next medically and therapeutically. Please keep us posted on what you find out about your mass.

(((lilmsbubbles)))

- p

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Raindancer on February 17, 2004, at 6:56:22

In reply to what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

Yes, call him and make an appointment for as soon as you can. You need his support NOW!! We are all here rooting for you - hope all is well. Love and hugs R

 

Re: what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 17, 2004, at 7:20:19

In reply to Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Raindancer on February 17, 2004, at 6:56:22

thank u all for replying to me .. i think i may stop by his office today ... after the test i must got through.... ill let u kno how it goes thank u for the suport

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Dinah on February 17, 2004, at 8:17:15

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 17, 2004, at 7:20:19

I'll be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way for the test. Hopefully they will find that it is nothing serious. But I know how scary the testing time can be.

Perhaps you ought to give him a call first? I know my therapist would probably prefer that as he might be with a client or even out altogether. He even got a trifle, just the teensiest bit, irritated with his wife for dropping in. Or so it seemed to me.

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Crooked Heart on February 18, 2004, at 4:19:55

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 17, 2004, at 7:20:19

Thinking of you ((((bubbles))))

How did it go yesterday?

Sending you love and thoughts.

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Joslynn on February 18, 2004, at 10:34:54

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 17, 2004, at 7:20:19

Sending healing thoughts your way.

 

Re: what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 10:38:01

In reply to Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Joslynn on February 18, 2004, at 10:34:54

well it isnt cansouros yah yah that makes me happy i am going for more test .. they found that these things popped up DUE TO STRESS in the last few months and i had my transfer in december that is scary to me that this is due to stress ...

i am mad that i let this affect my body so much not to mention it affected my mind too ... why didnt i just let it go i have no one to blame for this but myself ... i am sorry i even was born into this world ...

i just wish some one out there anywheres could have told me that this would be the outcome of this because iw ould have walked away so much sooner.....

i am paying the all time price for the love of my t ...there telling if my stress level dont go down i will have heart attack ... and i have tumors on me ....

i guess what i am saying is that when it gets too much or if u belive what ur t is doing is not the best for fight for what u belive is right and stand up for ur beliefs and ur heart ....

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Dinah on February 19, 2004, at 10:45:42

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 10:38:01

I'm glad it wasn't cancerous, but if stress is affecting you that much, you need to figure out something to do about it. Are you on any antianxiety meds? Even with my therapist I still would be a wreck without them.

 

Re: what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 10:50:13

In reply to Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Dinah on February 19, 2004, at 10:45:42

yes i am on lorezpam ..lexapro...neourotin

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Karen_kay on February 19, 2004, at 12:04:55

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 10:50:13

Hun, you need to start telling your new therapist that your feelings matter, and they ARE real. Show her the darn test results if she tries to say otherwise....

I'm worried about you. If your therapist isn't going her job to help you work through the stress of being transfered out, then you need to find a QUALIFIED therapist who will help you...

Listen, you have to tell her the importance of your feelings and how much stress you have in your life. You need to set goals as to where you want to be. And (in you I mean you and her, of course, not just you personally) YOU (now I mean just you) need to make certain she knows how much you cared for your previous therapist and that YOU (together) need to find a way to work through that.... Speakup! Yell at her if she's so dense she won't hear you. Make her hear you!

That's my advice. I hope you don't take this post as being harsh, that's not my intention. I jsut want you to understand how very important it is to make her realize that your feelings count...

((((miss bubbles)))) you take care of yourself, you hear me?

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by pegasus on February 19, 2004, at 12:24:20

In reply to what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 16, 2004, at 21:40:33

Hi lilmsbubbles,

I'm worried about you too. I agree that it sounds like your new T is maybe only making things worse. If you feel like that is true, then please, I encourage you to do something. Ask for referrals to another T (from her or your old T, or maybe insurance? or friends). Maybe give your old T a call to talk about what other options you might have? He really has some responsibility to make sure you're getting the care you need if he can't give it to you. And I agree with Dinah about the anti-anxiety meds (even though mine aren't working today - see post on social - they've been hugely helpful in general).

Please do whatever you can to take care of yourself. Your posts are full of so much pain, it breaks my heart. Please keep us informed about what happens. If you need help coming up with other ideas, let us know.

- p

 

Re: what to do

Posted by Joslynn on February 19, 2004, at 16:43:55

In reply to Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07, posted by pegasus on February 19, 2004, at 12:24:20

Thank God it's not cancer!

Maybe this can be a time to reflect on what is working and not working, and it seems that this new therapist is not working. There are lots of others out there.

The best way is to get referrals from friends...or maybe even the babble board, if you can mention your general area without giving away too many details? Is that kosher? I think I recall seeing people asking for names go good pdocs in XYZ area, so why not therapists.

 

Re: what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 23:31:45

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by Joslynn on February 19, 2004, at 16:43:55

well if anyone can give me any names from my area that would be nice but i am not sure if any of u guys r from where i am baltimore maryland ...

 

Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Crooked Heart on February 20, 2004, at 5:40:02

In reply to Re: what to do, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 19, 2004, at 23:31:45

What a relief it's not cancerous!

Did you see your former t? You mentioned that you might, did I get that right?

Like everybody says, you've had far too much to put up with. Whatever you decide, lots of love and support.

(((((bubbles))))

 

Re: what to do

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 23, 2004, at 9:08:44

In reply to Re: what to do » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Crooked Heart on February 20, 2004, at 5:40:02

i have not saw my former t .. i am toooo scared that he may turn me away

i want so badly to talk to to him and tell him everything thta is going on


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