Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 312647

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talking to my old t ...

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 12, 2004, at 22:27:18

well i have been thinnking about somethings and i would like some advice from all my friends on babble here :) ok ...i miss my old t like crazy and i really want to talk to him !!!

i need to feel his presence around me and i need his words of advice and encourgment that has carryed me through so many days !!! my life was so much better when he was in it (crying as i write this) .....

my new t just dont give me no advice no comfort nothing ..she puts down my old t and that hurts me cus if it wasnt for him i would be dead ..

do u think i should call him or go see him at his office ????

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by rs on February 13, 2004, at 7:24:26

In reply to talking to my old t ..., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 12, 2004, at 22:27:18

Understand how you feel. May I ask why you do not see your old T anymore?
Lost mine about 3 years ago. No contact in any way. Saw this person for about 6 years. He was like my best friend. So hard. When think about today my stomach still turns on how painful it was. I at times want to talk to him so bad or just hear his voice. Someone found his address for me and wrote and told him how angry was at him for leaving. He did respond. Still thinks of me how am I doing and still cares. His office number is at bottom and many times would love to call. Told my new T this and he sees not problem with calling him. But this person is more open then other one. Knew nothing about him. If this new T is not working for you look for someone else if possible. Mine is better in many ways then other one. Yes still talk about him almost every week in therapy. T promises he will not leave and be here till the end. But gets in the way of full trust and do not want to depened on him for much. So really want you to know understand completly how you feel. Please let me know how you are dong. Today may be difficult and painful about the lost but honestly it does get easier. Not doubt here still miss him but easier to handle. Hang in there and best to you.

 

Re: talking to my old t ...

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 9:48:38

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07, posted by rs on February 13, 2004, at 7:24:26

well i was seein my former t for about 3 yrs and he dicharged me due to my now current ex boyfriend makin therats and there were feelings involed his excat words were he was to involed with my case we had a last meetin and i cryed like a baby and still see him cus my new t is in the same buidling its been like a month and or month in half and it has gotten easier but it i am still so so so so depressed it hurts o wake up in the morning and it hurts to smile ...and it is like i never ending bad dream ... i feel lost ... my new t tells my feelings arent real and i am over reacting and she laughs at me and that makes thigns harder then what they need to be .. u know ?

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:40:51

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ..., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 9:48:38

Gosh, I'll bet your new therapist has never been in long term therapy. :(

Your feelings are your feelings. You shouldn't have to justify them as being "real". You saw somebody for an hour a week (?) for three years and grew to rely, trust, and care about them. It's only normal to grieve that very real loss.

Sigh. I don't suppose you could let your new therapist borrow your copy of "In Session"?

 

Re: Link correction

Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:41:51

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:40:51

"In Session"

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » Dinah

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 10:50:57

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:40:51

well my new t says that book cant help me. i have read that book and it has helped me and make me understand what i am going through ... she says it feeds to my feeling .. i dont understand that

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by fallsfall on February 13, 2004, at 11:44:07

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » Dinah, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 10:50:57

I am amazed that your new therapist has this viewpoint. Do you know what kind of therapy she does (CBT, Psychodynamic, Humanistic...)?

I can't imagine a therapist who doesn't understand that leaving another therapist for ANY reason is distressing. I can't imagine a therapist telling a client that their feelings are wrong. Feelings aren't wrong. They just ARE.

Do you have a pdoc who you see about meds? You might talk to them about what your therapist is telling you. It just sounds very strange to me.

 

Re: I agree with Fallsfall (nm)

Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 11:56:59

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on February 13, 2004, at 11:44:07

 

Re: talking to my old t ...

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 12:55:34

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on February 13, 2004, at 11:44:07

i found it very strange and distressing at that i do have a pdoc and i am going to talk to him ... she is a pscyoanyliast that is what she said since i did call her and ask her ...

this is one of the reasons i wantt o talk to my old t maybe he could give me some insight on y she is like that ...

she told me she wants me to forget about my former t and she wants to replace him ..SORRY she cant do that she cant even compare ...

 

Re: talking to my old t ...

Posted by rs on February 13, 2004, at 14:31:45

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ..., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 13, 2004, at 12:55:34

Just want to tell you again I feel your pain. Yes it does hurt much. Must be even harder knowing he is still there. Please take care of yourself and know its alright the way you are feeling.
It was one of the hardest things I had to do. But sorry that your new T does not understand your feelings. Please know I care and understand.

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » rs

Posted by Crooked Heart on February 13, 2004, at 15:03:30

In reply to Re: talking to my old t ..., posted by rs on February 13, 2004, at 14:31:45

It's a terrible loss. And it's a shame that your new therapist doesn't seem able to take that on board.

Thinking of you, bubbles, and rs

 

Re: talking to my old t ... » lilmsbubbles07

Posted by terrics on February 15, 2004, at 16:20:51

In reply to talking to my old t ..., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 12, 2004, at 22:27:18

Hi, Sorry you are so unhappy. Can you find a new T? The one you have sounds dreadful. Perhaps if you find a good ,caring T. he/she can help stabilize you. Then if you call old T. and it bombs you will have someone to fall back on. terrics


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