Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 312371

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I'm losing too much

Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 8:23:40

I'm losing Babble, and it's all my fault. I'm losing Harry. Two of the legs that propped me up. I want to write a reminder to myself on my skin, but I promised my therapist I wouldn't. But it's my therapist's homework that taught me the lesson I need to permanently remind me of. Doesn't that relieve me of the promise?

 

Re: I'm losing too much Dinah

Posted by All Done on February 12, 2004, at 9:01:19

In reply to I'm losing too much, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 8:23:40

Oh, Dinah. The stuff going on here is *NOT* your fault. And we are always here for you - no matter what. Please stick around if it means you will get what you need, regardless of whatever else is going on.

I truly hope Harry will be okay. Give him lots of hugs and take lots of deep breaths.

Can you call your therapist?

(((((Dinah)))))

All Done

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady! Dinah

Posted by Penny on February 12, 2004, at 9:10:28

In reply to I'm losing too much, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 8:23:40

Enough of this 'it's all my fault' stuff!!!! (stern look, shaking finger at you!)

Just how in the heck do you figure it's all your fault, Dinah dear? I mean, really???

I don't see how this could possibly be something you are even remotely responsible for.

I have to get back to work, but I just wanted to voice my opposition...

(((Dinah)))

and love to Harry ((((Harry))))

I wish I could call you, but I don't have your number, so I can't! But I am thinking about you, and I care very much.

Please take care of yourself.

P

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!

Posted by gardenergirl on February 12, 2004, at 9:43:37

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady! Dinah, posted by Penny on February 12, 2004, at 9:10:28

Dinah,
I also posted on Admin. I am so glad to see you back, but also concerned about you. I don't know what is going on with Harry, but I know how much you love him.

((((Dinah))))

As for Babble, I can tell how much this has hurt you and how strong your feelings are about it. I want to reiterate that it is NOT YOUR FAULT! There are too many others involved for you to take that onto yourself. Let me re-frame for you. Frankly, if you don't mind my saying, it's a bit grandiose of you to think that your influence is so great. I mean that with the greatest of respect and concern.

You ARE LOVED and VALUED here. We missed you and are hurting with you and for your loss. But the controversy is spinning on without your input. It CAN'T be all your fault.

Please please please keep posting if it gives you support. Or call your T or pdoc. Or email someone.

gardenergirl 88 at yahoo dot com

Please take several deep breaths and hug Harry if you can.

I'm thinking of you,

gg

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!

Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by gardenergirl on February 12, 2004, at 9:43:37

I'm sorry everyone. I'm in full meltdown and not fit for polite society.

I talked to my therapist and I won't hurt myself. I'm going to take some meds and sleep till I see him.

Thank you, and I'm sorry.

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 12, 2004, at 10:14:11

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

hey now it isnt ur fault at all ...
but if u need support from us ppl at babble come back cus u know that is helps !!!

take care of ur self !!!!

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady! Dinah

Posted by fallsfall on February 12, 2004, at 11:00:44

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

Dinah,

I know that every word that you say is sincere. I have never seen you want to hurt any other person. I've seen you help countless of posters.

You are wonderful, and we love you.

 

I'll second that!

Posted by DaisyM on February 12, 2004, at 11:07:58

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady! Dinah, posted by fallsfall on February 12, 2004, at 11:00:44

I signed on this morning just to check on things and saw your name and went "yeah! Dinah's back!" I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I'm glad you are going to see your Therapist.

As far as Harry goes, I know how much you love him. And I hope he isn't suffering. I often try to think of life as a circle - we must all go around it but in the center are the people we love cheering for us, making it easier to complete the loop. And more people gather at the finish line than anywhere else. Harry has lived a loved life. You gave him that. I believe that God takes care of animals too. I'll keep Harry in my prayers and you too.

 

sweet dinah...

Posted by justyourlaugh on February 12, 2004, at 11:11:29

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

give yourself permission to have a melt down..
sleep..
wake up feeling no guilt.
i am thinking of you ..please keep safe..
email me anytime..
vent
bitch and moan
rant
we care
s

 

Re: sweet dinah...

Posted by antigua on February 12, 2004, at 13:06:53

In reply to sweet dinah..., posted by justyourlaugh on February 12, 2004, at 11:11:29

You really are the best. You were the first person I read when I first came to this board. You gave me confidence that it was a safe place to speak my mind. I value what you have to say and hope that you will stay, but it is of course your decision. Just know that this is one more person who has a great deal of respect and empathy for you.

I'm really sorry to hear about Harry.
best wishes,
antigua

 

I'll third that

Posted by Bobby on February 12, 2004, at 14:25:39

In reply to I'm losing too much, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 8:23:40

Please don't cut

 

Re: sweet dinah... antigua

Posted by Crooked Heart on February 12, 2004, at 14:56:44

In reply to Re: sweet dinah..., posted by antigua on February 12, 2004, at 13:06:53

Another 'me too', but you can't have too many of them. Your posts helped give me the confidence to post too. This is something for which you are most definitely responsible :)

I'm sorry to hear about Harry. We had a cat that we loved (whose fault it was that I became vegetarian, becoming animal-aware) who we lost, and I maybe know a bit how you feel about losing him.

Thinking of you. Look after yourself. Please remember that you are loved and respected here.

 

How are you feeling? Dinah

Posted by judy1 on February 12, 2004, at 15:40:16

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

hoping you got some rest and everything went well with your therp. I also hope you see all the love flowing to you from this board. I've been where you are Dinah (and I think others here have also) and sometimes it's really hard to see things clearly. so please accept that you are a good and kind person who has always been there for everyone, and you have done absolutely nothing wrong.
take care of yourself- judy

 

(((((Dinah))))))

Posted by Elle2021 on February 12, 2004, at 16:07:40

In reply to How are you feeling? Dinah, posted by judy1 on February 12, 2004, at 15:40:16

Dinah,
I don't think that anything that has been happening lately on this board is your fault. I love you and your advice, and you aren't losing. I guess I'm not really in the position to give any good advice right now, but I give my support to you. Take extra care of yourself okay.
Elle

 

Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!

Posted by terrics on February 12, 2004, at 16:30:33

In reply to Re: Now wait a minute here, young lady!, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 10:08:21

Sorry you are not feeling well, but I'm glad your back. terrics

 

Re: How I am feeling.

Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 16:52:49

In reply to How are you feeling? Dinah, posted by judy1 on February 12, 2004, at 15:40:16

I do see all the love, and it touches me very deeply. I don't even know what to say other than thank you all.

I'm obviously having some problems right now. I'm going to reinstate the Depakote and hope that that stabilizes things. A lot. I had only quit it because i thought it was interfering with my work. But as I've done about four hours this entire week, and not a whole lot more last week (withdrawals last week - some nice temporal lobe stuff, insanity this week), I have to consider that I can't possibly do a whole lot worse on it than I have off. And maybe some Risperdal for a couple more days. I'll sort it out. I think I forget sometimes that I'm on these meds for a reason.

I'll do my best not to apologize again for my meltdown. :)

I didn't cut, I called my therapist who wasn't a whole lot of help except that it reminded me that he'd be mad at me if I did, and I need him too much to let him be mad at me. Although if we have too many more daily sessions, I think he'll be angry with me just from a bit too much proximity.

I haven't felt well enough for long enough to properly respond to the wonderful emails you terrific guys have sent me, but I will. And I'll try to catch up here over the next few days. And post whenever I can feel reasonably sure I'm not being an idiot. :)

Thanks especially to those who said I made you feel safe and comfortable posting. I remember those (Judy included) who did that for me when I first arrived, and I'm always delighted to pay that forward.

Now I've been up a whole three or four hours, what with seeing my therapist and all. Bed beckons. And tuna casserole. Which is a very inconvenient favorite comfort food.

 

Re: How I am feeling.

Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 12, 2004, at 16:57:31

In reply to Re: How I am feeling., posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 16:52:49

i am glad u r back ... u do bring so much light and experince here and i hope things turn out for the best cant wait to see u up and at'em again lol

 

Re: How I am feeling. ((((((Dinah)))))) Dinah

Posted by noa on February 12, 2004, at 20:28:46

In reply to Re: How I am feeling., posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 16:52:49

Dinah...you'll get through this. Be kind to yourself, OK?

 

Re: How I am feeling. Dinah

Posted by Raindancer on February 13, 2004, at 5:06:02

In reply to Re: How I am feeling., posted by Dinah on February 12, 2004, at 16:52:49

Dear Dinah, Thank goodness you're back. I've been away a few days and couldn't believe it when I read that you were leaving . You have been such a tower of strength for us all and have always been deeply caring and full of good sense, not to mention a smashing sense of humour!! I am suffused with relief that you're back. You are much loved here. With hugs R.xx

P.S. I still laugh when I think about you wrapped round your T's legs! That's where I shall be if mine really ends with me...

 

Re: Thanks!

Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:44:37

In reply to Re: How I am feeling. Dinah, posted by Raindancer on February 13, 2004, at 5:06:02

I pretty much slept for sixteen hours straight. That nice thick sleep that helps heal. I'm feeling definitely sturdier this morning.

 

Re: So glad to hear it!!! Dinah

Posted by Penny on February 13, 2004, at 10:52:57

In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:44:37

I was thinking about you last night and this morning and I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better.

(((Dinah)))

P

 

Re: Thanks! Dinah

Posted by fallsfall on February 13, 2004, at 11:34:49

In reply to Re: Thanks!, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2004, at 10:44:37

OOoooo, 16 hours. That sounds delicious. Would you like some Chocolate Bread pudding for breakfast?

 

Re: How I am feeling. Raindancer

Posted by Crooked Heart on February 13, 2004, at 12:55:24

In reply to Re: How I am feeling. Dinah, posted by Raindancer on February 13, 2004, at 5:06:02

It was hanging on to the door jamb that really appealed to me!

 

Re: How I am feeling. Crooked Heart

Posted by Raindancer on February 15, 2004, at 17:59:10

In reply to Re: How I am feeling. Raindancer, posted by Crooked Heart on February 13, 2004, at 12:55:24

You're right CH!! ANYTHING rather than leave. ...Thinking of you. R


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