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Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by Penny on February 6, 2004, at 18:45:12

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Penny, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 15:35:39

Thanks for letting me know, and I'm so relieved you are safe!

Now if we can work on this putting yourself down thing. I'm tempted to give you a PBC for calling yourself names! ;-) Seriously, though, I wish you could be a bit kinder to yourself, especially when you are going through a rough time right now. I'm one to talk, as I'm constantly belittling myself, but just because I do it doesn't mean you have to!

Anyway, I hope you were able to get your mind off your troubles this evening. Again, thanks for letting me know. I'll be checking the board periodically throughout the weekend, so keep me posted on how you are doing and let us know when you need support. In fact, you can make that your subject line, in all caps: I NEED SUPPORT NOW!!!

Another hug for you: ((((Fallen))))

Take care.
P

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Penny

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 18:51:29

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by Penny on February 6, 2004, at 18:45:12

You're very sweet Penny. I um call myself all kinds of things this last couple of years. WHAT IS A PBC???? LOL I am wondering. We ate at a fast food place as its snowing, again UGH...but the food rocks. I should forewarn you when I use words like check out and cashed in...I MAY mostlikely will mean like GIVE UP but I am so slang. I have been reading some stuff in here and listening to music and lol at some post on a per cent of T's who disrobe in front of clients :D Still I am stressed and all but really I am kinda ok

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by Penny on February 6, 2004, at 19:09:21

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Penny, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 18:51:29

PBC - Please Be Civil, in babbleland. It's what Doc Bob (or one of his deputies) will tell you as a first warning before you are blocked from posting for being uncivil to other posters. However, I don't think you can get a PBC for being uncivil to yourself... :-)

No snow here, fortunately, though we had some a couple of weeks ago. Just rain rain rain. I'm going to go take a nap - and it's just past 8 p.m. my time. I should just go to bed!!!

I'll check in later, or tomorrow.

Take care.
P

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Penny

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 19:33:05

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by Penny on February 6, 2004, at 19:09:21

HAHA I would be booted outta here for all I say to ME :P I would rack up PBC's like points in pinball :) My T hates when I call myself retarded and stupid, an idiot etc....I hope you have sweet dreams and see you later..thanks again youre very kind

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by terrics on February 6, 2004, at 19:45:22

In reply to FEELING INVISABLE, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 13:21:52

Sorry you are not feeling well. Most people do not respond to my posts either, but it is ok for me. At this moment I am visible,so I do not care. But I understand I think. Is it a little like very shaky ground? I hope your inuendo doesn't mean what I think it means because if it does please contact someone. I will look for your posts now. Feel better. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 19:54:27

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by terrics on February 6, 2004, at 19:45:22

Aw Terric I am sorry you to get that invisable feeling and treatment I hate it and it makes me wanna just kinda self harm cause I get all frustrated and mad and down....I hate to be stupider than I am but what do you mean by shakier ground? Like with T or ? I do know I am not too good with anger I don't like it nor do it well and I am the one who I take it out on. I WOULD reply to your posts if I seen them. Seems some people get all the answers and replies and have a billion posts out there..OR I am a whiny child :) jealous cause I am not a cheerleader kinda gal


> Sorry you are not feeling well. Most people do not respond to my posts either, but it is ok for me. At this moment I am visible,so I do not care. But I understand I think. Is it a little like very shaky ground? I hope your inuendo doesn't mean what I think it means because if it does please contact someone. I will look for your posts now. Feel better. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by terrics on February 6, 2004, at 20:20:02

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 19:54:27

Hi again, I guess by shaky ground I meant at times I either feel invisible or wish I was. I'll be looking for your posts. STAY SAFE. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 20:33:22

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by terrics on February 6, 2004, at 20:20:02

Yes ok thanks I get it! And YES sometimes I can be *flooded* with too many people and friends calling, writing and so on that I want to scream then wham its down to invisable city...I wish I could get something inbetween. And thanks I am trying to hang in here. What boards on here do you hang in?

> Hi again, I guess by shaky ground I meant at times I either feel invisible or wish I was. I'll be looking for your posts. STAY SAFE. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by DaisyM on February 6, 2004, at 22:07:30

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 20:33:22

Hi,
I'm interested in where your name came from, especially since there have been more than a few posts about this.

Just curious. You *don't* have to share if you don't want to. I won't be offended.
-Daisy

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » DaisyM

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 22:39:07

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by DaisyM on February 6, 2004, at 22:07:30

Hi Daisy :) no problem in my answering you. My name is two fold one is I love that song Fallen by S McLachlan and have FALLEN for my T *not* transferance which is why I avoid telling my story on the boards cause I am not up for debates and fights and stuff on transferance.

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE

Posted by DaisyM on February 7, 2004, at 0:30:32

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » DaisyM, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 22:39:07

Yeah, you've hinted as much. Actually people here can be pretty open minded, as you will find. I think we just watch out for each other. Many of us are fairly new to Therapy. I'm a first-timer myself!

I like the song Fallen too...

I hope you feel happier soon. Some weeks are tougher than others. And sometimes, I wish I could be as invisible as you seem to feel. It might be easier to take a break from my life that way.

Anyway...glad you are here. But try to remember, we are here to support you, not to the criticize your choices.
-D

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » DaisyM

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 7, 2004, at 0:49:45

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by DaisyM on February 7, 2004, at 0:30:32

Hi Daisy :)
And thank you! Like you I am often the opposite of invisable but man this is killing me. It is feast or famine.
I have been in therapy before WAYYY back and then I was cool for many years. I have been back in therapy for over 2 years now with this T. I liked my other T too but that was long ago over the death of a family member and the anxiety that hit. I have an awesome T now and he is perfect for me in all ways :) So how long have you been in therapy?
Fallen is one of my favorite songs right now I am a huge music fan I love almost any music.
I will keep what you said in mind as far as people not being critical in here but I have seen some posters say things trying to help and I see the original poster feels like defensive and just don't wanna be one to avoid a reply but by replying I might have to defend and so I just kinda bottle it up..maybe Ill open up in time and thanks for the welcome :)

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE

Posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 11:04:10

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 20:33:22

I mostly stay on this one. [re. What boards do I hang on?] terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE

Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2004, at 13:17:55

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 11:04:10

Fallen,
I love Sarah MacLachlan! I just got that CD for Christmas. Listen to it all the time.

I just wanted to welcome you. I was new a few months ago and felt similar to you about response patterns. In fact, occasionally, particularly on other boards, I still do. But I just barged in on threads, and eventually began to feel like part of the group. I think that we tend to look especially for threads and responses from the regulars. I know I, too have not had as much time as I would like to respond to every post I read. So I found it easier to just jump into existing threads in order to get into the swing.

It sounds like it is not just this board, though, that is causing you hurt. I do hope you take care of yourself, and I'm glad you have support (I assume from your husband) at home. How long have you been married? I have been married more than 8 years, and I don't know what I would do without my husband.

Please take care, and again welcome,

gg

 

Penny, thanks for carrying the ball last night! (nm)

Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2004, at 13:18:59

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 11:04:10

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 7, 2004, at 21:28:36

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 11:04:10

So youre mostly on the psychology one then too-good I'll look for you. Do you have a thread of your own?. I have hit the Substance abuse one and also the Alternative ones more to read but I did post too...still lol I remain mostly unreplied to :-/

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » gardenergirl

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 7, 2004, at 21:38:12

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2004, at 13:17:55

Hi GardebGirl and thank you for the welcome. I am a music nut and got Sarah's CD the minute it hit Best Buy I am waiting on the new Nora Jones one I wonder if its good. I love Avril too...oh heck I love all music :)
I have posted around but man people seem to just skip over mine or something. I think I have been posting for a week maybe two but what can you do I have met a few friendly people on here and yeah its not JUST in here where I am feeling left out.
My husband is OK.....O.........K :) UM he can be supportive and nice and can and has hit me and stuff so it's kind of odd. My T wanted me to put him in jail not too long ago. It was a first time hit so we shall see ...he is a mix like very sweet and then really mean and does things that messes me up like steas and stupid stuff..ahhh life is stress :) Thank you again and I am trying to hang in here. Oh, and we have been married 10 years most of the time I feel like I have been doing time

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 23:50:38

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 7, 2004, at 21:28:36

We'll probably 'see' alot of each other here. As of now I do not have a thread. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 8, 2004, at 0:08:21

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT, posted by terrics on February 7, 2004, at 23:50:38

Maybe you should get one so I/we can get to know you better :) I CAN be nosey lol

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE

Posted by terrics on February 8, 2004, at 11:08:28

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 20:33:22

Fallen4myT, I thought a thread was a statement that others respond to. Am I wrong? Otherwise I started a thread yesterday. terrics

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 8, 2004, at 12:28:39

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE, posted by terrics on February 8, 2004, at 11:08:28

Yes it is but I also saw someone start a post to just introduce herself that was kinda cool...I DID reply in your thread I saw it right before bed last night and I am wishing things to be better for you today.

> Fallen4myT, I thought a thread was a statement that others respond to. Am I wrong? Otherwise I started a thread yesterday. terrics

 

Re: Everything going okay? » Fallen4myT

Posted by Penny on February 8, 2004, at 21:53:08

In reply to Re: FEELING INVISABLE » terrics, posted by Fallen4myT on February 8, 2004, at 12:28:39

Fallen,

Just wanted to check in with you, say HI, and see how you faired the weekend.

Take care.
P

 

Re: Everything going okay? » Penny

Posted by Fallen4myT on February 8, 2004, at 22:15:29

In reply to Re: Everything going okay? » Fallen4myT, posted by Penny on February 8, 2004, at 21:53:08

Hi Penny and thank you I am OK I had a so so weekend had good times and hard times but made it. I am on a huge low right now but I will be OK
:-/ How about you?

 

Re: Everything going okay? » Fallen4myT

Posted by Penny on February 9, 2004, at 8:23:27

In reply to Re: Everything going okay? » Penny, posted by Fallen4myT on February 8, 2004, at 22:15:29

> Hi Penny and thank you I am OK I had a so so weekend had good times and hard times but made it. I am on a huge low right now but I will be OK
> :-/ How about you?

Ups and downs, ups and downs.... sucks, eh?

I'm hangin' in. Had a nightmare of sorts about work last night - dreamt my boss came in my office and started screaming at me. Might not be too far off base if I don't get some work done. :-(

At least I have therapy tomorrow. Which promises to be interesting...

Take care.

P

 

Re: FEELING INVISABLE » Fallen4myT

Posted by lonelygirl on March 25, 2004, at 2:55:24

In reply to FEELING INVISABLE, posted by Fallen4myT on February 6, 2004, at 13:21:52

I know I am replying to this several weeks later, but I totally know how you feel about being invisible. Sometimes I wonder if there is some kind of force field around me that prevents people from returning my calls or responding to my e-mails (that is just a joke, I am not that paranoid; I know that it's really just because I am not important enough to anyone for them to pay any attention to me). I understand people in real life hating me, but I have never been able to understand how even people on the internet seem to hate me instantly. It seems like on message boards (except this one, everyone is so great here), nobody ever replies to me, and as soon as I reply to a topic, it dies. I hate it so much, and I don't get it, because these people don't even know who I am or what I look like! Also, nobody ever reads my LiveJournal. I write pages upon pages and it just floats off into nothing because nobody reads it. I have just two people on my friends list and I read every one of their entries but they rarely read mine and hardly ever comment.

You would probably never guess, from how I am on this board, how shy and reserved I am in real life. Not only do I not need to be the center of attention, but I hate being the center of attention. I hate having people see me. My only relief comes when I go back to my room and close the door behind me and I am alone.

I hate it when I feel so needy. I think attention is sort of addicting in a way and I get so greedy about it :-( Like this, I keep dumping all of my problems here, and I don't mean to but I just don't have anyone to talk to about anything. Even my psychologist, I can talk to him about some things (I only get to see him 1 hour a week anyway), but then I need to talk to someone about him!

Sometimes I can block out the loneliness, but sometimes I just can't. I am just so completely alone in the world. I don't have any friends and I bet if I died nobody would notice for at least a week. I once left school for a semester to do an internship and not a single person from school ever asked me about it or realized that I wasn't there. It is so hard to go through life knowing that you don't really matter to anyone. Sometimes I just wish somebody would hold me but there is nobody who will.

Anyway, there I go rambling on and on again but this is such an old thread anyway that nobody's probably going to read it.


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