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Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

Hi, I just wanted to ask if anyone has been in therapy then stopped it and went back? How did it go? How did you get the courage to go back? or did you want to? I have been in and out of therapy since 1995, and it has helped. In March 2002, I stopped therapy because I moved out of state and was really doing well. I was suceeding at school, and adapting well to my new environment. After being out of my mom's house since I was 18, at 32, here I am back home again. My finances will not allow me to rent anything where I live. I have had a rough time of this, but I find when I go out with freinds, to a movie, or just out-I am a totally different person. I feel trapped at my mom's whim. It's kinda sad because she doesn't have anyone in her life outside of work, besides her kids (2) me and my sibling. For some reason, I have a lot of fear when I begin to feel like me again-outside my mom's jurisdiction. After all,I am 32. I know she cares, but she can be extremely overbearing, and very controlling. So, I was thinking about entering therapy (one on one) to help. Would anyone suggest male or female or does it matter in this situation???
Any experience/ realted people out there with some advice, I'd appreciate it.

Thanks,
Kristen


 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by Dragonslayer on March 15, 2003, at 19:23:59

In reply to Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

I did change therapist once due to non support of the med I was using. Not good for a good therapy situation. I had a lag time with that. I'm currently not with a therapist, but would not have a problem if I felt I needed it. Any good person doing therapy, would, hopefully, just want to help you. If you have a good communication with your doc,(I pray that for everyone) maybe you could ask or at least get ideas of who would be suited for you. Don't be scared to do what will help you, please.

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by Dinah on March 15, 2003, at 19:51:25

In reply to Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

You said you had issues in the past with women mental health professionals. Would you rather find a woman to work with you on them, or a man to be able to work on other things without the added transference problems?

 

TY you two:-):-) (nm)

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 21:20:35

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by Dragonslayer on March 15, 2003, at 19:23:59

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » KrissyP

Posted by judy1 on March 15, 2003, at 21:26:16

In reply to Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

I really don't remember how many times I've stopped and restarted therapy, but each time I start up again I'm glad I did. I think it would really help you to talk to someone about your current situation (since you're unhappy with it) and get that wonderful support. As far as male vs. female- I have a female therapist and a male shrink, and unfortunately have had a lot of issues with men in my life. They both bring different perspectives to me and that helps. I think the most important factor will be if you two 'click' so a level of trust can be established. Therapists are used to people who start up again, so please don't worry about that- just do what is best for you. take care, judy

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » Dinah

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 21:28:34

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by Dinah on March 15, 2003, at 19:51:25

Hi, just signed on-a lot of posts:-)
I think I need to work with a woman to finally get past the transference problems. Oh, I'm so confused. I'm thinking too much here.........

> You said you had issues in the past with women mental health professionals. Would you rather find a woman to work with you on them, or a man to be able to work on other things without the added transference problems?

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » judy1

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 21:31:01

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » KrissyP, posted by judy1 on March 15, 2003, at 21:26:16

Thank you judy for your reply. I was just telling someone else I am so confused about this. I am just numb right now-later I will post what I feel-I feel a lot right now but still need to post some things.
Thanks again,
Kristen
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> I really don't remember how many times I've stopped and restarted therapy, but each time I start up again I'm glad I did. I think it would really help you to talk to someone about your current situation (since you're unhappy with it) and get that wonderful support. As far as male vs. female- I have a female therapist and a male shrink, and unfortunately have had a lot of issues with men in my life. They both bring different perspectives to me and that helps. I think the most important factor will be if you two 'click' so a level of trust can be established. Therapists are used to people who start up again, so please don't worry about that- just do what is best for you. take care, judy

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 22:31:34

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » judy1, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 21:31:01

I find that i always end up with male therapist for some reason i seek them out. but i have a woman therapist now and she is great. my pdoc is man and social worker is female. my psychologist (woman) (the theraapist) is great for me.

i think that i gravitate towards men because i thought my dad always hated me and i need a man to be nice to me. everytime im in a relationship i need the person to be overly nice to me and i freak out when they are upset. i also always think my pdoc hates. me .

I think that probably for me its better for me to have a woman therapist and actually work on therapy issues more, but anyway i don tknow if this helped, but ther it is.

sienna

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:00:29

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 22:31:34

sienna, Yes it helped and thank you:-)
When you say "I think that I gravitate towards men because I thought my dad always hated me and I need a man to be nice to me. everytime im in a relationship i need the person to be overly nice to me and i freak out when they are upset"---
I get the same feelings but insert women and mom where you inserted men lol
Keep well, Kristen:-)


I find that i always end up with male therapist for some reason i seek them out. but i have a woman therapist now and she is great. my pdoc is man and social worker is female. my psychologist (woman) (the theraapist) is great for me.
>
> i think that i gravitate towards men because i thought my dad always hated me and i need a man to be nice to me. everytime im in a relationship i need the person to be overly nice to me and i freak out when they are upset. i also always think my pdoc hates. me .
>
> I think that probably for me its better for me to have a woman therapist and actually work on therapy issues more, but anyway i don tknow if this helped, but ther it is.
>
> sienna

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:14:42

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:00:29

Thanks Krissy i do know what you mean. its hard. I wish i had better advice. My t is out of town for another week and a half.
sienna

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:19:42

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:14:42

Did your therapist give you any coping ideas while she's gone???

> Thanks Krissy i do know what you mean. its hard. I wish i had better advice. My t is out of town for another week and a half.
> sienna

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:27:53

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:19:42

yes she said to see the social worker.
and i see my pdoc tues then i will see my t
when she comes back in 10 days. i feel like i cant breathe and my heart keeps pounding but i know it is just panic and i cant do anything for it have to wait wait wait. jovb interview tomorrow have to hold it together just few more days. how are yuo doing Krissy? Im supposed to be going to a movie in 20 minutes but i just cant do it cant go cant call and say not going just hiding outhere.

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna

Posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:36:54

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:27:53

oh, hang in there! I hear ya!
>>>>how are yuo doing Krissy?>>well, I'm smokin cigarettes like a fiend :-( and I just found out that a person, rather 3 persons, I was fooling myself with in thinking they were my friends turned out not to give a damn-this happened in August of last year with a family I have known for 17 years.
What am I doing wrong?:-(

Im yes she said to see the social worker.
> and i see my pdoc tues then i will see my t
> when she comes back in 10 days. i feel like i cant breathe and my heart keeps pounding but i know it is just panic and i cant do anything for it have to wait wait wait. jovb interview tomorrow have to hold it together just few more days. how are yuo doing Krissy? Im supposed to be going to a movie in 20 minutes but i just cant do it cant go cant call and say not going just hiding outhere.

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:45:06

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna, posted by Krissy P on March 15, 2003, at 23:36:54

i dont know what or even if you are doing wrong. what did they do to let you knwo they dont give a damn?

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » sienna

Posted by Krissy P on March 16, 2003, at 0:08:18

In reply to Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by sienna on March 15, 2003, at 23:45:06

well, that person who blocked me, my dad who I have been nothing but loving towards, and a family (friends) who I rented a house from in Oregon. They accused me of a lot of things-that were simply absurd, not to mention untrue, and because I am still trying to get back my self-esteem, I feel this way. I feel like I really am a bitch-and I know I'm not-I can be-but I'm ok. Just a little sad that this has happened. Like I said, the email said return to sender This user is not alllowing mail from you, courtesy of AOL.


I don't know either:-(
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> i dont know what or even if you are doing wrong. what did they do to let you knwo they dont give a damn?

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help

Posted by noa on March 17, 2003, at 16:18:36

In reply to Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

I was in therapy for 10 years with a therapist in once city, then moved. Then after a few years, decided to go back into therapy. That was 7 years ago, have been with this therapist since then. Actually, in between I saw a different therapist VERY briefly for time-limited therapy.

 

Re: Going Back To Therapy...........Please help » KrissyP

Posted by WorryGirl on March 18, 2003, at 18:49:59

In reply to Going Back To Therapy...........Please help, posted by KrissyP on March 15, 2003, at 18:06:11

Hey Krissy,
I am at that point right now. I saw a therapist for a few months, stopped and am going to be seeing one on a regular basis again. I'm just not sure that the one I have started to see is for me. My feedback from him was more than I could handle (see my later post).
I think that if you are feeling like you need to see someone, you should go with that feeling.
Good luck.


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