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Posted by woolav on November 14, 2004, at 8:53:08
Hi all. I am visiting my ailing father for thanksgiving. he is 900 miles away so i dont see him as often as i'd like. But he is 80 now and just got out of the hospital again. irregular heart and they cant stop it. So, among his other illness's he prob. doesnt have that much time. I am glad that i will have the 5 days with him, but i hope that i wont be sad the whole time thinking that it might not see him alive again. How do i get through this trip? I want to enjoy my time with him and not be sad..any advise??
Sandy :(
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 10:35:11
In reply to How to handle this??????????, posted by woolav on November 14, 2004, at 8:53:08
My advice,
You do the best you can.
You try to not look sad when you are in his presence.
You chat with him about the fun, happy, wonderful times you may have shared with him.
You talk with him about things you might not be able to say when he passes on....and you thank God that you are able to say them.
You comfort him the best you can by being there at his side.
Perhaps you might take him out for icecream or something.
You tell him you love him. You tell him you are happy he was your father.........You do all these things as best you can, and you try very very hard not to be sad in his presence and you make his and your Thanksgiving a special one to you both. One that you yourself will look back on with pride and be able to say.......
"God, I am so glad I went home that Thanksgiving, and was able to share it with Dad." "That Thanksgiving of 2004 is a very special memory in my life, because it was the last one I had with Dad, and I am so thankful I was able to tell him I love him, and I was able to share happy times with him..."Just my own thoughts.
Do the best you can, it's all anyone would expect. Do the best you can.
Posted by woolav on November 14, 2004, at 19:25:44
In reply to Re: How to handle this?????????? » woolav, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 10:35:11
Your response touched me deeply. You are absolutely right in what you said. I know i should be blessed to have this time to be with him since i know ppl lose loved ones unexpectidly and never get this chance. I will try very hard to be happy with him and not let him know the pain i feel inside. But we have a speical bond and i know he will able to sense it.. Thank you for the post and for caring enough to write it.
Sandy
Posted by saw on November 16, 2004, at 0:46:44
In reply to Re: How to handle this???thank you Ada, posted by woolav on November 14, 2004, at 19:25:44
Hi Sandy
I wish you much strength as you visit your dad. My dad passed away last week at the age of 58. We did not share a special bond as you do with your dad but that has not taken away from the pain and grief of losing him.
Please take comfort in knowing, that even if it is the last time, that you are going to be by your dad's side. Yes, your dad may sense your pain, but he sounds so special, that I am sure he will tell you it is ok to hurt but that he is happy and has had a long, happy life.
Remember, we are all here for you and if there is any support and friendship that I can offer you, please know that I am only a mail away.
Please give your dad an extra special long hug from me. He doesn't need to know why. And then, please give yourself one too while you take comfort in knowing that 2 very, very special people, have 5 days to share together.
Sabrina
Posted by saw on November 30, 2004, at 1:22:32
In reply to Re: How to handle this??? » woolav, posted by saw on November 16, 2004, at 0:46:44
Sandy
How are you?
Will you let us know when you can?
Sabrina
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