Psycho-Babble Faith Thread 466

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Re: Question for Lou Pilder

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 13:21:12


> Lou, I'm going to ask you something that you may not want to answer, and if not please just say so. I do understand.
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> I'm not sure where this post should go, so I'm putting it on admin since it is about posts.
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> Sometimes, especially when Dr. Bob is gone for a few days and does not appear to be moderating the site, posters say things to you that would really hurt my feelings if they were said to me. Things that would make me very sad. And even though the posts are addressed to you, I feel the sadness as if they were addressed to me.
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> But sometimes I wonder if I am assuming too much to think that you are reacting to the posts the way I would - that your feelings are hurt as badly as mine would be. Sometimes I wonder if I am projecting my feelings onto you.
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> You rarely show hurt over the posts and you are always very forgiving. That is a wonderful quality. I admire how you always stay well within the civility guidelines. But it leads me wondering if you are feeling as much pain over the posts as I imagine you are.
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> This is a very presumptuous question I know, and again, feel free to ignore it or tell me you would rather not discuss it. It's just that the whole issue causes me such pain. And if you were willing to answer the question, if it would not be a problem for you to answer it, it might help me deal with the pain. But don't worry if you would rather not answer. It is my issue I know and I take full responsibility for my reaction.
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> Dinah

 

Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 1 » Dinah

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:30:04

In reply to Re: Question for Lou Pilder, posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 13:21:12

Dinah,
When I was in The City of Peace, I was told, "Repay no one evil for evil. If it is possible, live peacefully with all men. Do not seek vengeance for God has said that vengeance will be carried out by Him so leave vengeance to Him. Instead, if your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink."
I will answer more about your question,next.
Lou

 

Re: Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 2

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:39:57

In reply to Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 1 » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:30:04

Dinah,
Then I was told, "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
Then the Rider said to me, "If someone insults you, that is like slapping you on the cheek. If that happens to you, turn the other cheek to him. And if someone compels you to go one mile, go with him two miles."
Lou

 

Re: Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 3

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:49:29

In reply to Re: Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 2, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:39:57

Dinah,
Then the Rider said to me, "I say to you, love your enemies, bless those that curse you, do good to those that hate you. Anyone can love those that love you. You are to love even your enemies, and there will be a reward for those that do. And if you forgive men their trespasses,your heavenly Father will also forgive you."
Lou

 

Re: Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 4

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:10:51

In reply to Re: Lou's answer to Dinahs question -part 3, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 14:49:29

Dinah,
Then the Rider said to me,"Blessed are you when men revile and persecute you, and say evil things against you falsely. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for those before you were persected also. In the world you will have tribulation. But be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world and so shall you."
Lou

 

Re: So Lou....

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:18:43

In reply to Re: Question for Lou Pilder, posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 13:21:12

Am I to take it that it doesn't cause you pain, and that at I shouldn't feel so hurt for you?

 

Re: So Lou.... » Dinah

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:26:25

In reply to Re: So Lou...., posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:18:43

Dinah,
It does, indeed, cause me pain. But I know that I have to handle it in the manners that I just posted in order to overcome it. And I do!
So, if you are wondering if you should feel what I feel, I say that "should" may be the wrong word here. Perhaps we can find a different word to replace it?
Lou

 

Re: Perhaps you are right....

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:40:19

In reply to Re: So Lou.... » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:26:25

Should probably isn't the right word....

Do you have a better idea?

I don't know....

I'm not sure I even can feel it less. But it seems almost silly to let it bother me more than it bothers you, if that is indeed the case...

I just don't know....

 

Re: a suggestion to Lou

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:48:16

In reply to Re: Perhaps you are right...., posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:40:19

Perhaps that there is no need for me to feel hurt for you?

 

Re: Perhaps you are right.... » Dinah

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:51:34

In reply to Re: Perhaps you are right...., posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:40:19

Dinah,
I would suggest that you understand that what you feel for others, I beleive, is a good thing to posesss. For with your attitude toward others, you would not want to hurt someone else, for you would be hurt. Now when you see bad things done to others, and it hurts you, I would use that hurt to help others. Maybe not that particlar person, but to help by, perhaps, giving your time to helpsomeone else with something that is paining them. It could be to help a friend , or relative, or a stranger in need.
Lou

 

Re: I do try Lou » Lou Pilder

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 15:53:43

In reply to Re: Perhaps you are right.... » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:51:34

I do try to do that and it is an excellent suggestion.

Thank you...again.

 

Re: Lou, I hope you don't mind...

Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 16:22:34

In reply to Re: Perhaps you are right.... » Dinah, posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 15:51:34

But I printed out your very wise post. As a reminder to me when I'm not feeling very good about that part of me, or for when it is causing me pain.

Dinah

 

Re: Lou, I hope you don't mind... » Dinah

Posted by Lou Pilder on July 13, 2002, at 16:35:52

In reply to Re: Lou, I hope you don't mind..., posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 16:22:34

Dinah,
As I understand your post, you are asking me if it is OK for you to print out one of my posts. Now I would have to say that it would be OK with me. But there is much more to that post that you printed out. Space and time considerations requirer me to make my posts to only say the main point. But if you see enough in that one post, then that is great!
Lou


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