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Re: Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on January 5, 2008, at 12:41:47

In reply to Re: Glydin, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 12:05:05

I feel still and rather strongly that a board for successes would give much needed hope to others that they too can improve or is it allowed to achieve wellness? I know I'd love to hear those who have achieved wellness encourage others . As the thought of adding med after med is very depressing to me. That is my thought. Like cheerleaders or is that a generalization? I think I mean just go you can do it. Is that civil and within the guidelines? If not apology in advance. And once I hit the trigger to post I will be judged on the content so please see it as a helpful suggestion. I mean it to be. Thank-you kindly Phillipa

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light Dinah

Posted by seldomseen on January 5, 2008, at 13:26:23

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light Glydin, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 10:59:18

I'm glad you posted as well.

I have also had people email me their thoughts about my response to prozac suggesting that this response was all in my head.

Perhaps instead of using the generalization rule, we could simply indicate that people need to be respectful of people's experiences with certain drugs, whether we agree with that experience or not.

To me, when a generalizing statement about all SSRIs, MAOIs etc... is made, it's really not about the generalization. The real issue to me is that it can belittle one's own response to the drug as not real or "all in my head". It's just disrepectful.

Just my two cents.

Seldom.

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light seldomseen

Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:01:10

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light Dinah, posted by seldomseen on January 5, 2008, at 13:26:23

I think that's part of the generalization rule, to be respectful of others' opinions. And I can see why saying that a medication is horrible or never works can be seen as disrespectful by those who had success with it. Certainly more direct statements such as you described would not be civil. (And if they're in babblemails can be reported.)

I guess that's where I get stuck. Because I *can* see why the rule is moving in the direction it is moving.

But in many cases when someone says something like "Effexor is a horrible medication and will never work" it's clear that they are talking about their own experience, with a bit of extrapolation thrown in, and its' an expression of distress. They aren't trying to say anything about anyone else's experience, or to put anyone down. And certainly that would be true in the blood pressure controversy.

Maybe the solution lies somewhere in context? I know Dr. Bob doesn't like to rule based on intent, since intent is hard to judge. But context can be easier to judge, I'd think?

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light

Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:03:26

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light seldomseen, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:01:10

And maybe the PBC's could be adjusted a bit to something more like "Please be respectful of those who have had different experiences." Overgeneralizing is a more difficult concept to empathize with, while respect might be easier?

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on January 5, 2008, at 19:15:47

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light seldomseen, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:01:10

Saying effexor or any med is a horrible med to me would be very scarey for the person new to that med hence the new meds board. Makes better sense to word it this way I think. Love Phillipa

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light Dinah

Posted by Phillipa on January 5, 2008, at 19:17:11

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:03:26

Excellent. Love Phillipa

 

Re: overgeneralizing

Posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2008, at 4:12:51

In reply to generalising vs over generalising, posted by Sigismund on December 29, 2007, at 0:34:23

> But can we take a closer look at who may be upset if we generalize about a blood pressure monitor?
>
> Seldom.

When it's overgeneralizations about things, my concern isn't that people might be upset, but that people might make decisions based on what's posted.

--

> She is entitled to her experienced opinion.
>
> If I say Zyprexa increased my appetite, and therefore, I think it's sucky med...I'm generalizing my experience to all patients....but, that's OK?
>
> AbbieNormal

Something like:

> my experienced opinion is that the automatic ones more often than not are not acurate

or:

> I think the automatic ones are sucky

I think would be fine.

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> If I say that such and such a drug is often helpful, that's a generalisation, right?
>
> What's an overgeneralisation?
>
> Sigismund

I think something like:

> such and such a drug is always helpful

Bob

 

Re: overgeneralizing

Posted by Toph on January 6, 2008, at 8:04:38

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2008, at 4:12:51

Someone ought to talk to these people about overgeneralizing dammit...

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/common/heartdisease/treatment/128.html

http://72.14.205.104/search?q=cache:6lXrP0mKb-sJ:www.acsu.buffalo.edu/~kvt/academics.htm+manual+vs.+automatic+bp+cuffs&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=5&gl=us

http://www.jtrauma.com/pt/re/jtrauma/abstract.00005373-200311000-00010.htm;jsessionid=HQpZGdjYZSzhh1wcC7W0ctRjn2Hc0ZYV01mFLfG3mbGsSfTy4K7j!901085598!181195628!8091!-1

 

Re: overgeneralizing

Posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 8:44:23

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by Toph on January 6, 2008, at 8:04:38

I find it interestesting that is says on this site that the psychology forum isn't therapy itself. Many people overgeneralize without even realizing it, and that is one of the things CBT is for, to correct overgeneralizing. So could it be that the psych forum is trying to do therapy now?
It also says not to believe everything that is written, so don't you think that would apply to advice or information on medical machines as well? Are there people out there that will truely believe everything that is written on Babble or on the internet and take the advice of people they don't really know? It seems some of the responsiblity should be for those who read and they should take things with a grain of salt, or consult with their own doctors or experts.

I feel the rules of posting are getting too nit picky, and makes me afraid to post anything in fear of getting blocked. I more often than not, don't want to post anymore. After 3 years of being on this site, it is sad indeed to not feel safe here anymore.

 

Re: overgeneralizing happyflower

Posted by Phillipa on January 6, 2008, at 13:29:25

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 8:44:23

I'm afraid too but I have made many friends here that have helped me via e-mail. It was so nice that on the med board we used to quite often solve our disputes on the board ourselves with an apology if someone were angry or offended. Could we try again? Even my initial dispute with this last block was discussed and we made up via e-mail with the other poster. I am not sure what happened. Dr. Bob could you shed some light on this? I'd appreciate it. Love Phillipa

 

Re: overgeneralizing happyflower

Posted by Toph on January 6, 2008, at 13:52:24

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 8:44:23

My only point hf is that while protecting posters from overgeneralization they ought to also guard agsinst overvigilance and overreaction.

 

Re: overgeneralizing Toph

Posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 15:24:16

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing happyflower, posted by Toph on January 6, 2008, at 13:52:24

Good point Toph,

If we protect our readers against overvigilence and overreaction, then what do you have?

Barney the dinosour instead!!!... I love you, you love me, we are a happy family , with a great big hug from me to you, won't you say you LOVE ME TOO? or there is always PsychoRomperRoom with Captain Kangeroo.

What is funny to me is, do we really need protecton from all of this? I am more scared of Barney than overgeneralizations. lol

I feel the rules are getting too strict here, especially for a mental health site. Shouldn't acceptence be a better lesson to learn, than protection from overgenerlizations?

P.s. I mean no disrespect to Barney, RomperRoom and Captian Kangeroo, or anyone for that matter, and although Barney can be scarey, I still love him still the same .

 

Re: overgeneralizing Dr. Bob

Posted by MidnightBlue on January 6, 2008, at 16:28:19

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2008, at 4:12:51

Dr. Bob,

For what it is worth, you now have me completely confused! I'm afraid to say anything other then:

1. have a nice day

2. check with your doctor

3. wishing you good thoughts

4. hang in there

So much for not posting on religion or politics. Now everything is scary!

MidnightBlue

 

Re: overgeneralizing

Posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 16:36:47

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing Dr. Bob, posted by MidnightBlue on January 6, 2008, at 16:28:19

Midnightblue,

You might want to scratch #4 on your list, it could be taken in more than way. LOL I think Have a nice day would be okay though.


>
> For what it is worth, you now have me completely confused! I'm afraid to say anything other then:
>
> 1. have a nice day
>
> 2. check with your doctor
>
> 3. wishing you good thoughts
>
> 4. hang in there
>
> So much for not posting on religion or politics. Now everything is scary!
>
> MidnightBlue

 

above post for Midnight (nm)

Posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 16:38:54

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 16:36:47

 

Re: overgeneralizing Dr. Bob

Posted by seldomseen on January 6, 2008, at 17:04:35

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by Dr. Bob on January 6, 2008, at 4:12:51

"When it's overgeneralizations about things, my concern isn't that people might be upset, but that people might make decisions based on what's posted"

Well now this is a very very sticky wicket in my opinion.

I've always felt as though the intentions of babble are very clear - to support and educate.

However, there is an old saying "that he who yells the loudest is usually the one everyone believes is right".

To this, I would say that "Caveat Emptor" is posted very clearly on the top of the every forum.

It maybe well within Babble's reach to control the way something is said on babble, but I think it is well out of babble's reach to control what people do with what is said.

Just my two cents.
Seldom.

 

Re: overgeneralizing seldomseen

Posted by Phillipa on January 6, 2008, at 19:02:48

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing Dr. Bob, posted by seldomseen on January 6, 2008, at 17:04:35

Definitely agree. I can read something like when a kid if someone jumps off a roof will you follow. I wouldn't. Phillipa

 

Re: I might be able to shed a little light

Posted by Dr. Bob on January 7, 2008, at 1:03:04

In reply to Re: I might be able to shed a little light seldomseen, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2008, at 16:01:10

> I would like to see a more "balanced" view there but I'm not sure how that would be achieved. As one in recovery on meds, I have felt (and literally been inquired of in emails) the attitude of: "If you're content with your meds and you're doing so well, why are you posting...?" That "feel" as to what I preceived as the flavor of the med board is unsettling to me. It makes me feel unaccepted. Thus, I post very rarely.
>
> Glydin

> I have also had people email me their thoughts about my response to prozac suggesting that this response was all in my head.
>
> Seldom.

Just to reiterate what Dinah said, I wouldn't consider direct statements like those to be civil. And the civility policy here does apply to babblemail.

I think the overall "flavor" of the board is harder to address.

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> Perhaps instead of using the generalization rule, we could simply indicate that people need to be respectful of people's experiences with certain drugs, whether we agree with that experience or not.
>
> Seldom.

That's an interesting suggestion, but my inclination is to keep it a separate rule. I do of course care about how people feel, but I think my primary concern in these situations is decisions people make. For example:

> A is a first-line drug and B isn't.

might lead someone who's doing well on B to feel it isn't being given the respect it deserves. But if it's not an exaggeration, it might help someone deciding between the two and I'd consider it OK to post.

--

> But in many cases when someone says something like "Effexor is a horrible medication and will never work" it's clear that they are talking about their own experience, with a bit of extrapolation thrown in, and its' an expression of distress.
>
> Dinah

I agree, but then let's suggest alternative ways of expressing themselves. Like we do I-statements in other situations.

Bob

 

Re: overgeneralizing happyflower

Posted by Racer on January 7, 2008, at 3:12:51

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing Toph, posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 15:24:16

>
> I feel the rules are getting too strict here, especially for a mental health site. Shouldn't acceptence be a better lesson to learn, than protection from overgenerlizations?

I think the point of the over-generalization rule has a lot to do with acceptance -- but in the direction of accepting *all* beliefs, including those of us who believe that medications can help improve our conditions, and that it's worth trying to find one which works for us. I'm another who doesn't feel particularly comfortable on the meds board anymore, for the reasons mentioned by others above. I try to be respectful of those who do not believe that anti-depressant medication is effective, but I don't always feel that my views are respected in return.

So, while I agree that acceptance is a good goal, I think of the over-generalization rule as being an attempt to facilitate acceptance of opposing views -- including those of us who believe the medications in question can be effective.

Does that make more sense?

 

ATT Dr. Bob and everyone else Racer

Posted by happyflower on January 7, 2008, at 7:29:19

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing happyflower, posted by Racer on January 7, 2008, at 3:12:51

Yes Racer,

It does help in those situations, I don't frequent the meds boards much, so it explains more of what is going on. Respect for different views has always been a rule on Babble.

It just seems to me that when I do look at the meds board, most threads are about problems with drug, ex. side effects. I would feel comforted if I knew I wasn't alone, (like going through childabuse)if I had some of the same side effects as someone else. But I guess it is how they express their views about such and such drug is the problem. But if others are not allowed to express their views or their experience, than what use is the med. board anyway?

Yes we should all be respectful of different views, I get that. So do you believe overgeneralizing is being disrespectful? I personally don't and this is why.

The thing I am worrying about is that we seem to be repremanding on Babble for something that is a cognitive thinking error of how things are communicated in writing or speaking. Since studying psychology, I see overgeneralizations a lot in real life, it is very common. I just don't feel we should punish for a common error and trying to educate is almost trying to do CBT therapy on this site. It is also almost discrimation of those with the faulty thinking ways of expressing themselves.
We are a mental health site, but should be more acceptant of those who have problems, and overgenerlizations is a problem in expressing one's self. Many people don't even realize they are doing it unless they go through therapy or it is brought to their attentinon. I am one of those who used that type of communication because it is what I learned as a child from the way my parents communicated to me. From studying, I learned different ways to express myself, but sometimes I still use overgenerlizations out of habit.

I guess what I am asking for, if we are going to make rules for overgenerlization, that is is handled more gently, blocks seem too harsh to me. It takes many clients months of therapy to learn how to communicate properly. I still mess up and I am studying to become a psychologist, probably CBT.

So a question I have is most overgenerlizations on this site used to cause people to feel put down or is is it a common cognitive problem that many are not aware they do?

I feel we should just be more tolerant of the way people express their views and not get so offended if others don't agree with us. I am working on this too. But the rules we set up for the meds boards will probably need to be enforced on all the boards, right? The deputies are overloaded as it is, do they really have time or the psychologist training to do CBT enforcements in everyone's posts?

To me blocking someone for overgeneralizations is like blocking a depressed person for feeling bad. Where do you draw the line?

 

Re: overgeneralizing happyflower

Posted by MidnightBlue on January 7, 2008, at 10:27:59

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing, posted by happyflower on January 6, 2008, at 16:36:47

4. don't give up--is that okay?

P.S. I think I am giving up this is too hard!

MB

 

My conclusion

Posted by muffled on January 7, 2008, at 12:49:27

In reply to Re: overgeneralizing happyflower, posted by MidnightBlue on January 7, 2008, at 10:27:59

after in the past I used to post here alot....
Well I don't think there IS any easy answers.
I think babble is slowly evolving and will continue to evolve and change.
I'm glad people are taking up the torch of fairness.
Just it must be hard for Bob(ugh, I WAY like better loving to hate him than supporting him...)cuz its like he gets dissed for blocking, but he ALSO gets dissed for NOT blocking and letting stuff pass....
I'm all for letting stuff pass w/just PBC etc for education, and saving blocks for bad situations.
We just had a tough time on psych, but we made it thru. Somewhat bruised, but we made it and learned and noone was blocked. I think thats good. In the past it would have been shut down much sooner. I am glad we can have the opportunity to try and work thru stuff.
My one wish for babble, is that more would post rather than bmail, cuz bmail hides stuff. I like it when all is out in the open on the boards. That way others can learn too. Cuz most of us started out as lurkers, and then finally posted cuz of what we read here on babble......
Thanks for listening to me.
M

 

Just for the record... happyflower

Posted by 10derHeart on January 7, 2008, at 12:54:19

In reply to ATT Dr. Bob and everyone else Racer, posted by happyflower on January 7, 2008, at 7:29:19

>The deputies are overloaded as it is, do they really have time or the psychologist training to do CBT enforcements in everyone's posts?

I rarely feel overloaded as a deputy, because if I begin to, I remind myself 1) it *is* a voluntary thing and I never *have* to perform any deputy duties and 2) another deputy or Dr. Bob can act. At times I have felt that way, it's been more about IRL stuff needing most/all of my time and energy, which means I should perhaps take a break from Babble for a time.

Interpretation of the overgeneralization rule can be challenging and it is an evolving thing, which is why civil discussion about it here should be helpful to Dr. Bob. But at the same time, I don't see myself as needing any psychology training or practicing CBT on anyone when acting as a deputy. I see myself as respectfully (I hope) reminding posters of the rules Dr. Bob has chosen to place in the FAQ for this site and requesting they abide by them, and not always because I personally think each and every rule is the best rule, or even that if it were my site, a rule I would decide to have/keep. Nothing more, as my role isn't to comment on or attempt to figure out *why* a person might have chosen to write in such a way as to cross the overgeneralization "line."

Mostly, I am comfortable enough with Dr. Bob and his overall motivations to assist in doing what I think he would do (not always successfully, of course) as far as administrating. If I ever am too personally uncomfortable (maybe triggered, etc.) with any certain rule or board, I defer to other deputies or Dr. Bob.

Probably obvious, but I speak only for myself and the other deputies may have differing views of their roles or the potential issues you mentioned.

 

Re: support and education

Posted by Dr. Bob on January 7, 2008, at 13:20:01

In reply to ATT Dr. Bob and everyone else Racer, posted by happyflower on January 7, 2008, at 7:29:19

> we seem to be repremanding on Babble for something that is a cognitive thinking error

I don't want to make people feel criticized, though I do see how that can happen. What I'd like is to promote interaction that's supportive and educational.

> We are a mental health site, but should be more acceptant of those who have problems

We accept everyone, I just don't think it works to accept all behaviors.

Bob

 

Re: My conclusion muffled

Posted by Racer on January 7, 2008, at 14:17:52

In reply to My conclusion, posted by muffled on January 7, 2008, at 12:49:27

>
> I'm all for letting stuff pass w/just PBC etc for education, and saving blocks for bad situations.

Speaking for myself, I try to use PBCs to remind people of the rules for behavior on Babble. The problem is, sometimes people continue in the same behavior, despite reminders. I understand how it happens, but at that point I sometimes choose to block, both as a stronger reminder and as a way to protect the larger group from behavior which may be disruptive or even damaging. It's a hard line to walk, between the good of the individual whose behavior is breaking a rule, and the good of those whose behavior is within guidelines.

It's hard to choose to block someone, and it's not something I think any deputy takes lightly. Sometimes, though, if someone continues to behave in a way which breaks the rules, despite often repeated warnings, I think it's appropriate. Kinda like a time out for a kid who knowingly breaks a rule over and over, despite warnings. Other times, it looks like a time out for someone to settle down after an upset -- sometimes it looks therapeutic to enforce a Babble Break, if that makes sense.

I know that blocks result in hurt, and I know that a lot of people object to the entire idea of blocking. Then again, I've been part of a number of online mental health related communities over the past ten years -- and many of them have much stricter blocking policies. One I know of blocks indefinitely, rather than for a set period as it's done here. If someone there crosses a line, that's that, they're blocked unless the moderator decides to allow them back. Another site will block someone who seems in crisis, in order to "encourage" them to get real life help sooner. There's sense to that idea, but it sure makes me appreciate the Babble Way a lot more, you know?

I think my point is that there's probably no perfect way to work any of this. We do our best -- often with your support, which I always appreciate -- and learn as we go along what works best. I try to do my best for the community, and to keep my own feelings out of it. I have always been impressed by Dinah and 10derHeart, and how well they navigate the civility waters. I hope one day I'll live up to their example.

> My one wish for babble, is that more would post rather than bmail, cuz bmail hides stuff. I like it when all is out in the open on the boards. That way others can learn too. Cuz most of us started out as lurkers, and then finally posted cuz of what we read here on babble......

Actually, I'm glad you posted this. I get babblemails every so often from people who ask medication questions, and I usually direct them to the board. I figure, if I have any useful information to offer them, it might be useful to others as well, and that others on the board know far more than I and can offer even more.

One reason for the overgeneralization rule is related to that: a number of people have reported that the negativity about medications on the meds board lately have led them to feel uncomfortable posting there about their own issues with medication. (Frankly, I have felt uncomfortable posting some of my questions, too, so I can empathize.) I don't know how to make the board a more comfortable and accepting place for everyone, but I think asking people to be respectful of differing opinions is a start, and that includes not over-generalizing. It may not be the perfect answer, but I think it's worth trying, you know? Better than doing nothing, in my opinion...


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