Psycho-Babble Administration Thread 258304

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To the Expats

Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 1:57:13

I don't know who has been speaking on your behalf. I would like to think it is none of you, but rather someone posing as one of you. Because I thought better of all of you than to wish to think any of you were responsible for the Dianah posts.

Tomorrow I sit vigil for a dear friend of thirteen years. Saturday I watched the eyes of another friend go from alive to glassy, and his body go limp.

Tonight I cry for those friends, and for the fact that expressing my grief on these boards made them vulnerable to being included in those Dianah posts. They deserve better.

Whatever anger you harbor towards me. However you choose to impersonate me or address me in posts. I ask that you leave others out of it. Especially these particularly innocent others.

Otherwise I ask that Dr. Bob please delete the thread about my dogs.

They just deserve better.

 

I support you, Dinah (nm)

Posted by fallsfall on September 9, 2003, at 5:34:51

In reply to To the Expats, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 1:57:13

 

Re: I missed the posts, but...

Posted by Sabina on September 9, 2003, at 14:11:53

In reply to To the Expats, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 1:57:13

I have only just gotten to the point where I’ve felt more able to distance myself emotionally from this sort of thing (since it seems like there's no way to stop it), but this is a perhaps scraping the barrel of bad behavior. Is there not enough decency in the world to let a woman grieve in peace?

Previously, I was skittish and wanted to avoid any sort of disruptive energy. I am embarrassed to admit that when I first read Dinah's post, I was finally pushed to the point where I (briefly) considered lashing out in anger at any person who could intrude in a negative manner at such a time.

My dog is the only baby I have, and I can’t imagine a time when I’ll have to get along without his unconditional love and support. I am so sorry that Dinah has had the extra burden of dealing with negativity and turmoil here during an already painful time in her life.

My advice to the person(s) responsible for all the posts that have engendered such hurt feelings, uncomfortable silences, and creeping doubts in this formerly safe and supportive venue, is that you get yourself straightened out with all due haste.

The karmic wheel is spinning.

Today, my thoughts are reserved for those whose lives have been disrupted and hurt by the malice, sickness, and shortcomings of others, here and everywhere.

 

((((Dinah)))) (nm)

Posted by kara lynne on September 9, 2003, at 14:13:04

In reply to Re: I missed the posts, but..., posted by Sabina on September 9, 2003, at 14:11:53

 

Re: I missed the posts, but... » Sabina

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 9, 2003, at 15:38:15

In reply to Re: I missed the posts, but..., posted by Sabina on September 9, 2003, at 14:11:53

Beautifully put Sabina.

 

Re: Thanks for the support. It means a lot. (nm)

Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 16:08:51

In reply to To the Expats, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 1:57:13

 

Re: To the Expats

Posted by Tabitha on September 9, 2003, at 20:17:18

In reply to To the Expats, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 1:57:13

Somebody made a joke out of your dogs? How could anyone stoop so low.

Ah, Dinah. It just shows us something about that person/persons emotional maturity level. So wrapped up in their defense mechanism of feeling superior and clever, and flinging insults at others. Anything to avoid the real human feelings of hurt and rejection, and shame over being 'punished' by Dr Bob. Not that I'm offering sympathy.. just remember what's really operating beneath the facade. A person so afraid of facing their own hurt and shame.. they'll just try to inflict it on others instead. Such a destructive coping mechanism.

Don't let it get you down, Dinah. Much love to you.

 

I'm so sorry you went through that (((hugs)))) (nm) » Dinah

Posted by judy1 on September 10, 2003, at 11:03:21

In reply to Re: Thanks for the support. It means a lot. (nm), posted by Dinah on September 9, 2003, at 16:08:51

 

Re: please be civil » Tabitha

Posted by Dr. Bob on September 10, 2003, at 19:58:32

In reply to Re: To the Expats, posted by Tabitha on September 9, 2003, at 20:17:18

> So wrapped up in their defense mechanism of feeling superior and clever, and flinging insults at others...

It's great to support Dinah, but please remember not to post anything that could lead others, even if they're blocked, to feel accused or put down. Thanks,

Bob

 

Re: Sorry, Tabitha. :(

Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2003, at 20:23:06

In reply to Re: To the Expats, posted by Tabitha on September 9, 2003, at 20:17:18

Thanks for the support. And much love back to you.

 

Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 11, 2003, at 17:49:02

In reply to Re: please be civil » Tabitha, posted by Dr. Bob on September 10, 2003, at 19:58:32

Dr. Bob surely there has to be some allowance
for moderate bending of the civility rules when a posts sole purpose is to inflict as much pain as possible. Are there NO exceptions?

 

Re: please be civil

Posted by Phil on September 12, 2003, at 8:49:14

In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by Gabbix2 on September 11, 2003, at 17:49:02

Ignore the post. Try not to get set up by someone returning anonymously to say the boards are lousy since he and the others aren't here.
That's kindergarden stuff. His post really raised the dialogue to a higher level, huh?

 

Re: please be civil » Phil

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 12, 2003, at 9:02:25

In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Phil on September 12, 2003, at 8:49:14

Yeah, I agree, its obviously reaction seeking,
and might I add rather self-mocking, but still
I was wondering about the pbc, seeing in this case it wasn't ignored entirely.

 

Re: please be civil » Phil

Posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 13:23:34

In reply to Re: please be civil, posted by Phil on September 12, 2003, at 8:49:14

> That's kindergarden stuff.

Again, please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, thanks.

Bob

 

Re: exceptions

Posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 13:28:46

In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by Gabbix2 on September 11, 2003, at 17:49:02

> Dr. Bob surely there has to be some allowance for moderate bending of the civility rules when a posts sole purpose is to inflict as much pain as possible. Are there NO exceptions?

1. How would that be an improvement?

2. How would we know that a post had a sole purpose, let alone what that sole purpose was?

Bob

 

Re: exceptions

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 12, 2003, at 15:29:14

In reply to Re: exceptions, posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 13:28:46

True, might not be an improvement, but I'd say its not healthy to have to keep silent when someone is being cruel.

And some things are black and white. This particular post was making a mockery of someone's pain and loss. If that is not soley an intent to be cruel, then punching someone in the head is not soley an attempt to hit them.

 

Re: exceptions

Posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 16:50:27

In reply to Re: exceptions, posted by Gabbix2 on September 12, 2003, at 15:29:14

> True, might not be an improvement, but I'd say its not healthy to have to keep silent when someone is being cruel.

You don't have to keep silent, you can support the person you think they're being cruel to...

Bob

 

Dam* that was a good point! (nm) » Dr. Bob

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 12, 2003, at 17:47:03

In reply to Re: exceptions, posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 16:50:27

 

Re: exceptions ?? » Dr. Bob

Posted by Tabitha on September 12, 2003, at 18:56:53

In reply to Re: exceptions, posted by Dr. Bob on September 12, 2003, at 16:50:27

So do I have this right.. it's not permissible to say anything disapproving or critical about someone's actions, ever. Even if that person comes here and posts while blocked, impersonating another poster, and making fun of that poster's sharing about the death of a beloved pet. ?? Is that right?

So really.. it's not possible to comment on such actions at all.. because it isn't possible to say anything nice about it.

That seems really odd.

 

Re: exceptions ?? » Tabitha

Posted by Gabbix2 on September 12, 2003, at 20:36:46

In reply to Re: exceptions ?? » Dr. Bob, posted by Tabitha on September 12, 2003, at 18:56:53

I have to say I'm confused again, that is a good point too, it's more than odd, it's unnatural,
There must be some more moderate, realistic ground here, where we dont' reduce ourselves to the level of the poster, but can at least be permitted to acknowledge when an act is simply depraved.

 

Re: exceptions ??

Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2003, at 11:17:48

In reply to Re: exceptions ?? » Dr. Bob, posted by Tabitha on September 12, 2003, at 18:56:53

> So do I have this right.. it's not permissible to say anything disapproving or critical about someone's actions, ever. Even if that person comes here and posts while blocked, impersonating another poster, and making fun of that poster's sharing about the death of a beloved pet. ??

The idea here is to be supportive. But it's fine to say you feel angry about something...

And, of course, to post a URL to make sure I see it. And to discuss, in general, administrative issues like posting while blocked, impersonating other posters, etc...

Bob


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