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Posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
Hi I am Slinky`s boyfriend, sadly she took her own life on the 9th may. I know she used this site as she did so on my computor.
If anyone here new new her I`d love to hear from you.
My name is Dave, and you can e-mail me on dave.alcock@yahoo.co.uk. She is deeply missed,I loved her so much,she was going to move in with me, but she changed her medication, and became in a confussed state of mind. Please give this some thought, and let me know.
Thank you.
Dave.
Posted by bobby on May 31, 2008, at 17:03:02
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
My dearest Slinky--the world is truly a poorer place. she was a great friend to me since I came here in about 2001. We exchanged e-mails and real life mail. I'm at a loss as to what to say---I'm stunned.
Posted by ClearSkies on May 31, 2008, at 18:53:15
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
Oh, no. What an enormous loss. I am so sorry.
ClearSkies
Posted by bulldog2 on May 31, 2008, at 19:04:43
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
> Hi I am Slinky`s boyfriend, sadly she took her own life on the 9th may. I know she used this site as she did so on my computor.
> If anyone here new new her I`d love to hear from you.
> My name is Dave, and you can e-mail me on dave.alcock@yahoo.co.uk. She is deeply missed,I loved her so much,she was going to move in with me, but she changed her medication, and became in a confussed state of mind. Please give this some thought, and let me know.
> Thank you.
> Dave.So sorry to hear about her. i didn't know her but still it's a terrible loss for all. it's time for the goverment and all of society to recognize mental illness as a deadly disease and declare a war on it as they have with cancer. To many lives are lost as we still bury mental illness under a blanket of denial or shame.
Posted by AbbieNormal on May 31, 2008, at 20:28:54
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
Oh my. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of someone so special. My heart goes out to you, and to the many people at Babble who love her.
Abbie
Posted by Justherself54 on May 31, 2008, at 21:12:08
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by AbbieNormal on May 31, 2008, at 20:28:54
My deepest sympathies to you.
Posted by Phillipa on May 31, 2008, at 21:21:18
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Justherself54 on May 31, 2008, at 21:12:08
So sorry. Deepest sympathies to you in your grief. Love Phillipa
Posted by zenhussy on May 31, 2008, at 21:56:24
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by bobby on May 31, 2008, at 17:03:02
Posted by gardenergirl on June 1, 2008, at 1:44:16
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Phillipa on May 31, 2008, at 21:21:18
I feel terribly sad. You have my sympathies. Take care of yourself in this difficult time.
gg
Posted by Phil on June 1, 2008, at 7:33:56
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
I'm sorry for your loss Dave and the loss we all feel. I hope you can move forward after this tragedy and I hope it helps you to know that Slinky was loved by many people here.
God bless.
Phil
Posted by karen_kay on June 1, 2008, at 8:38:40
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
i'm so very sorry. i don't even know what to write. she'll certainly be missed by many, many, many adoring fans!
please take care of yourself
kk
Posted by llurpsienoodle on June 1, 2008, at 10:13:27
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
Hi Dave,
Thank you for being brave enough to tell us about Slinky. This is a great tragedy, and she was very loved around these parts. I really enjoyed her sense of humor.please take care of yourself--
-Ll
Posted by muffled on June 1, 2008, at 11:46:54
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by llurpsienoodle on June 1, 2008, at 10:13:27
Posted by Nadezda on June 1, 2008, at 23:44:27
In reply to RIP Slinky, sorry for your loss Dave. (nm), posted by muffled on June 1, 2008, at 11:46:54
Posted by Dinah on June 2, 2008, at 17:14:55
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
I don't know what to say. It's so hard to think about. I'm so sorry for your loss, and Babble's loss.
I have so many memories of funny threads and touching threads and perhaps above all the whimsical additions to Dr. Bob's usually less than whimsical photos.
My heart hurts.
Posted by fleeting flutterby on June 2, 2008, at 17:26:23
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
I've just been an active member here for a few months-- but I would like to say...... I'm so so sorry for your loss and for Slinky and for all those here at Psychobabble that were touched by Slinky.
My heart is with all those that are feeling this loss.
My neighbor ended her short life of 31 years recently, I know what a "wake" of painful loss this can produce. Please know I am thinking of you all.
flutterby (mandy)
Posted by kid47 on June 3, 2008, at 1:10:37
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by fleeting flutterby on June 2, 2008, at 17:26:23
To lose such a wonderful, magical, beautiful, being, the world is diminshed.
Peace
Posted by Slinky on June 3, 2008, at 11:53:11
In reply to Damn, posted by kid47 on June 3, 2008, at 1:10:37
Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts,
I had only been with Slinky for six months, but I can tell you all, she has given me the best six months of my life.I honestly don`t know how I`ll ever get over this. I`ve experianced death by natural causes,accident, & illness, but never like this. At present I can`t think straight, can`t eat, can`t work, my life is in tatters.
Dave
Posted by ClearSkies on June 3, 2008, at 16:44:17
In reply to Re: Damn, posted by Slinky on June 3, 2008, at 11:53:11
Just had fleeting glimpses of you from Slinky's posts here, but her affections were genuine and plain to see. Be very gentle with yourself and take all the time you need.
ClearSkies
Posted by elbee on June 3, 2008, at 17:42:24
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
I can't believe she's gone. I'm so sorry for your loss. It a huge loss for everyone. Slinky had such wit and humor. I always got such a kick out of her posts. I can't believe she's really gone. I will really miss her!
Posted by Slinky on June 5, 2008, at 1:43:21
In reply to Slinky, posted by Slinky on May 31, 2008, at 14:11:52
Thanks again everyone for your kind support. I`ve
been reeding Slinky`s posts thro her years on this site. It has left me full of tears, seeing all the pain she had gone through. My hands are so shakey at the moment I`m having trouble typeing this.I`m so sad,she had told me alot about her life, and it was really upsetting,she had a very sad childhood, father left when she was 6, mother beeing a alcoholic, but dispte all this she became into a brilliant artist.When we met on the dateing agency, in my profile I was totally honest about myself, and as you all may have seen from her posts on the 24.04.08, I cross dress, and told me said she loved it.[and my wardrobe of clothes]I was bringing her out of her self, she felt femiming again [ her woords]. Has anyone herd from Tabatha, Slinky used to talk about her,hoping one day if we went to the US to meet her and others who she had got to know on this site. Her biggest problem of late was when we made love, she would get angry with herself because she could not get an orgasm, due to the drugs she was on, at first I thought it was me doing things wrong,but she assured me it was the drugs. I know that she asked her pdoc to change her drugs to one that doen`t have the side effect of the one she was on. Does this mean that if it wearnt for these feelings she had to get an orgasm, she might still be here with me and you today. I`m so upset, just don`t know what to think any more so much going though my head. I just miss Slinky so much.
Dave [femme name as Slinky called me, Julia.]
Posted by Slinky on June 5, 2008, at 9:05:16
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Slinky on June 5, 2008, at 1:43:21
This will be my last posting here as now I can no longer cope as having read all of Slinky`s mailngs. I`ve found it so upsetting it breaks my heart, I just wish I had met her years ago.
Thank you everyone for your kind words, and comforting messages. I would love to hear from Tabatha. If any wants to contact me my e-mail
dave.alcock@yahoo.co.uk
Good luck to all.
Dave
Posted by Slinky on June 8, 2008, at 7:03:50
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Slinky on June 5, 2008, at 9:05:16
Hi every one, I know I said I wouldn`t be posting any more, but I feel I`m going into a deep state of depression. You see I have this problem since reading Slinky`s very last posting on the 8/5/08,
in it she talked about me, and it`s gieven me the feeling that I`m responcible for her taking her own life, I know what she said was the truth, but I was talking to her on the phone after she posted that message, and she had never said anything of this to me ,then or in the past, her own words to me were that she had the best of both worlds, me being like I am.
Please some one out there, offer me some advice, to take this pain from me.
Dave
Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2008, at 10:52:13
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Slinky on June 8, 2008, at 7:03:50
Dave, you aren't responsible for Slinky taking her own life. You said she was going through some medication changes? Things really do get confusing at those times. No one person can be responsible for another taking their life. There are so many things, including biological factors, that go into that decision.
If anything happened to me, and my husband read this site (which he has promised never to do), there are some things here he would probably find hurtful or distressing. We post in the moment here, and in the moment one can think all sorts of things. But a relationship exists in more than the moment. I adore my husband. I think he's smart and funny and responsible and a wonderful father. Even those things about him that aren't my favorite things are usually the same things about him that I love the most. The flip side of his strengths. Sometimes I might be angry, or I might say something rash, but that doesn't affect how I feel about him as a whole.
I think you can trust what Slinky told you, and what she probably said here most of the time. Any thoughts she wrote that don't fit with that are probably just transient thoughts. Even if they have some truth in them, they aren't true, because they don't reflect the whole.
I can't take this pain away from you, but I hope that I can help you see that you should trust the entirety of your relationship with Slinky. Not a single post.
And I really urge you to get some help from a professional. Grief is a hard thing to move past, particularly in these circumstances. Please don't try to do it alone. Do you have a therapist or physician who can help you?
Posted by Slinky on June 9, 2008, at 0:34:01
In reply to Re: Slinky, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2008, at 10:52:13
Thank you Dinah, you kind words have been the best help I`ve had so far, this has now given me thought to understand more of what was going on in Slinky`s mind.I been so confused lately that I misread the date of Slinky`s last posting,it was actually the 6/5/08, which happened to be the last day I see her alive, we had just had a great weekend together, and we were working out where we could put her things in my home when she moves in.
Thank you again Dinah, I`m seeing a berievement counciler at present, and have been seeing my GP,
with thier`s and your help I`m sure in time I`ll pull though this.
Dave
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