Psycho-Babble Medication Thread 695998

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have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 9:09:54

My husband has been on effexor xr for 5 days now.He says he feels incredible and he is in control of anger and being short fused. My question is has anyone been physically or verbally abusive to a loved one. And if so did this drug help prevent those tendencies.We are not together right now until he gets better. He has been diagnosed with depression.

 

Re: have a question

Posted by wiresurge on October 19, 2006, at 10:20:52

In reply to have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 9:09:54

I would not tend to follow that direction and think entirely like that.

For instance, everyone is different and depression medication effects people differently.

I myself have a anger issue, and im taking anti-depressants, but Im still finding its not helping with anger management.

If he is willing to cooperate with you, maybe you both should visit a family counsellor, or phychiartrist to help allieviate these issues you are having.

The other factor too is to be supportive! Be there for him! Encourage him!

But if he is being physical to you, then you may want to look at a totally different road.

Regards,
wiresurge

 

Re: have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 10:53:21

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by wiresurge on October 19, 2006, at 10:20:52

Thank You for your insight. I'm just trying to find out the power of Effexor xr. And is it the right drug to help him with his problems. Counsilling is in the future for us, but right now the courts are not allowing any contact between us. He is a good man that my family adores, and he is great dad. He just needs proper help and is Effexor xr the answer?

 

Re: have a question

Posted by linkadge on October 19, 2006, at 11:21:52

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 10:53:21

I wouldn't say it is "the answer", but it is a tool. Antidepressants can sometimes help people's anger issues, but there are no guarentees.

5 days is absolutely *not* long enough to know how this medication is going to affect ones mood and temper. It sounds like he is keen on getting better but it is important to ask yourself whether or not this is a cyclic issue?

Ie, have there been cycling patterns of abuse and then remorse/resolution. If so, I'd give it more time and approach the situation cautiously.

Linkadge

 

Re: have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 11:36:22

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by linkadge on October 19, 2006, at 11:21:52

Yes. His anger or what I call "he snaps" is triggered by stress and alcohol. When he snaps he does not recall his actions. He told my that his head is full of negetive thoughts, and now that he is on that drug he has a positve out-look at thing in life. After 21 years together I believe him.I just find it hard to believe that one drug is capable of reversing someones thoughts.

 

Re: have a question 34peanut

Posted by Phillipa on October 19, 2006, at 12:47:50

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 11:36:22

He needs to quit drinking will he see a counselor or does his pdoc know he's drinking? Love Phillipa

 

Re: have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 14:14:07

In reply to Re: have a question 34peanut, posted by Phillipa on October 19, 2006, at 12:47:50

He had to quit by the judge. He had quit before for 4 years.But that was only half his problem. I wish that was only problem. He drank and drank heavy to numb the way he was feeling and thinking, so I found out.

 

Re: have a question

Posted by Racer on October 19, 2006, at 14:46:51

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 14:14:07

Five days isn't long enough to feel any of the anti-depressant effects of Effexor, although he is probably experiencing some of the anxiolytic effects.

Linkadge is a smart guy, and he's right: Effexor is not the answer. No drug is the answer. The medications are tools that help with creating an answer, though, and they have a place in the process.

In the case you're describing, though, counseling is going to be a big part of the answer -- probably the major part. Your husband needs individual counseling, as part of a process to teach him better coping skills than alcohol and violence. Without that, he's always going to be a danger to you, and likely your children, too. Family/marital counseling -- depending on the specifics of your family, whether the kids are of an age to participate -- will also be a very big part, because it will both help improve your communication, and also help him develop more empathy for you, as his victim.

Am I using words that seem harsh to you? Only because there is a pattern to domestic violence, which includes a lot of denial on the part of the victim. (Individual counseling for you, as well, would also be a good thing...) I would hate to see you get hurt even worse because you didn't hear those words applied to your own situation.

Peace, and good luck.

 

Re: have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 15:03:51

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by Racer on October 19, 2006, at 14:46:51

Racer thank you for your honesty. When someone has multiple problems it affects everyone close to them. I guess i'm looking for a quick fix to the problems to get the family back together. Whether it be medication or a pdoc.

 

Re: have a question

Posted by linkadge on October 19, 2006, at 15:52:31

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 15:03:51

If he wants the family back together too, this could be influencing his preception of how the drug is affecting him.

Not to say give up hope, but rather let time tell whether the medication is going to make a difference in the long run.

Linkadge


 

Re: have a question

Posted by 34peanut on October 19, 2006, at 17:13:12

In reply to Re: have a question, posted by linkadge on October 19, 2006, at 15:52:31

Thank you I think that has been the best information I have received yet. Thank you all for your support and advice it has helped a lot.


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