Psycho-Babble Medication Thread 3408

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suicide

Posted by wrestlingmom on March 4, 1999, at 18:35:20

I am not looking for help to stop me I am looking for help in doing it and a place to say good bye. I can't continue and I can't tell anyone and I thought this would be a good way to just say goodbye without facing people. I hope that is what you are here for. I don't know. I
never mind
just goodbye

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by jane on March 4, 1999, at 19:54:59

In reply to suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 4, 1999, at 18:35:20

dear "mom"-I know that you are truly hurting right now, I've been there. It must seem like the pain is too great and will never end. But please WAIT and you WILL feel better - I promise!
In the meantime, Please CALL someone, anyone - there have been "special people" there for me in the past. Even if you call annonyously- just touch base with someone for today...a minister, a hotline, a doctor, a socialworker, anyone. Maybe you feel that you can't call a friend-but I think that the call is essential. While you wait for the call, I will tell you my secret--if you climb in bed and get snuggled in pillows and blankets, and tell yourself that you won't do anything until you talk to someone--time WILL pass and a small speck of sunshine will appear-remember:
one day, one hour, one minute at a time...
please let us know how you are doing -we care...

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by patty on March 4, 1999, at 20:28:40

In reply to Re: suicide response, posted by jane on March 4, 1999, at 19:54:59

Dear friend, Please know that most of us do understand that life is very difficult and sometimes appears to take and need more from us than we think we have to offer. However, at my lowest ebb, I have discovered that there is a tomorrow, this too shall pass and things do and can get better. These are not empty words. Please know that I'm not trying to take away from the legitimacy of your pain and sorrow - I know they are real or you would not be contemplating ending the pain. But I agree with the suggestion to reach out to ONE person. Let just one person know that you are hurting and you need some love and support right now. My bed has often been a place of refuge for me as well. A warm comforter and my special "soft" pillow and it doesn't hurt to have my dog curled at my side. If there isn't anything on t.v. that can help you focus on something light, then pop in a video that will allow you to place your thoughts somewhere besides the here and now. And if you are a person of faith, please read the Psalms and know they were written for you. I'm going to be holding you close to my heart in prayer. Pleae be well.
((((((hugs))))))

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by dave on March 5, 1999, at 5:40:33

In reply to Re: suicide response, posted by patty on March 4, 1999, at 20:28:40

Dear Wrestlingmom,

Don't do it! You know how you can't tell those close to you
because it hurts too much to say goodbye and you are afraid
they will stop you? We wont let you say goodbye
either becuase we will stop you. I wanted to end my
life a few weeks ago. I told my best friend--he
pleaded with me and talked me out of it. Then weeks
later I wanted to do it. After deciding I could not
put my parents through it, I told my parents that
if I ever did decide again to take my life, that I
would not tell them first, I would just do it. That
is possibly the most cruel thing I have ever said
to my parents and I regret saying it. Like the
other person said, read the Psalms, thats the same
thing my mom told me to do.
Please just dont do it, wrestlingmom, ok?
We are all pulling for you. If we were to never hear
from you again then we would all be effected by that
, so in effect you have 100's of more reasons to be safe.
Let us know that you have decided to choose like and
fight. I know it may seem petty but it helped me,
if you do a search on yahoo, keyword suicide, they is
a very good intereactive suicide prevention program.
It takes about 15 minutes and it is extremely good--
so go it could save your life. No one will say
good bye, everyone will say STAY, don't go!
Sincerely
dave
please email me if you want to talk.

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by Carol on March 5, 1999, at 6:43:00

In reply to Re: suicide response, posted by dave on March 5, 1999, at 5:40:33

> Dear Wrestlingmom,

Don't do it!!! Many of us have been in the same place, and feeling the same way. I KNOW it is hard to believe that anyone else can understand or that anyone else is feeling as bad as you feel right now, but try to believe. I have been where you are, when I have looked for someone to talk to.
You've made a good first step by telling "us" about things. Call one of the hotlines. Someone there can help you talk things through.

There is light at the end of the tunnel, and things can and will get better. I know that it doesn't feel that way right now. When I look back at the times when I was suicidal, the reasons that had made perfect sense to me then just don't look right now.

Call a friend, a hotline, someone. Reach out--there are many people who can help you, if you let them. I am concerned, I care, and I understand. The group on this site also cares, and can offer some assistance.

Please respond...we are all trying to help each other here. Sometimes you just need to take it one day at a time, and let the next day happen.

Take care, and know that you are cared about, as well.

Carol

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by Patty on March 6, 1999, at 9:35:29

In reply to Re: suicide response, posted by Carol on March 5, 1999, at 6:43:00

Dear Wrestlingmom,

I sure wish you would let us know how you're doing. I've been keeping you in my prayers and hoping that things are looking brighter for you now. Please let us know that you are okay!
(((((hugs))))

 

Re: suicide...wrestlingmom, we care!

Posted by Elaine on March 6, 1999, at 15:18:19

In reply to suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 4, 1999, at 18:35:20

You came here because you thought you found a place where people might care. WE DO. We are here to support each other. Talk to us and let whoever can empathize share with you. I, like many others, have been suicidal. At the point I was about to follow through with it, a sense of self-preservation came through and I knew that if I didn't pick up a phone right then, I would be too tempted to end it. FIND THAT SEED OF SELF PRESERVATION AND KEEP GOING! None of us are saying it is easy, but there is always *something* that makes it worth it. For me, it's as simple as my cat, because I really don't have family or many other people around me. Please let us know how you are doing and how we can help! I long to feel that people really care about me - I hope you can take heart in those that have come to rally behind you at this site. May God bless you and strengthen you during this time.

 

Re: suicide

Posted by wrestlingmom on March 17, 1999, at 14:17:26

In reply to suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 4, 1999, at 18:35:20

To all those caring people who responded,
I am still here. Although I want to die, I know I can't. I have too many responsibilities. What I need is a place to hide from the world. I can't just go to bed as some of you suggest. I tried that and I get too many questions. Thank you again for your kind words.
Wrestlingmom

 

Re: wrestlingmom

Posted by jane on March 17, 1999, at 16:14:47

In reply to Re: suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 17, 1999, at 14:17:26

I am so glad to hear from you again. It sounds like you feel really overwhelmed. Pls keep in touch and let us know if you are under the care of a doctor and/or talking to anyone. Be kind to yourself - jane

 

Re: wrestlingmom

Posted by dave on March 17, 1999, at 17:26:08

In reply to Re: wrestlingmom, posted by jane on March 17, 1999, at 16:14:47

> I am so glad to hear from you again. It sounds like you feel really overwhelmed. Pls keep in touch and let us know if you are under the care of a doctor and/or talking to anyone. Be kind to yourself - jane

I agree, I am very happy to see that you are ok.
Hold on, things will get better. People do care
about you. Even though I have feel much worse
than I do now, I dont recall the the things
people said to me that helped me get thru it.
I wish I could because I would tell you those
things now but I think most of all just dont
lose HOPE.
Sincerely
dave

 

Re: wrestlingmom

Posted by Elaine on March 17, 1999, at 22:39:52

In reply to Re: wrestlingmom, posted by jane on March 17, 1999, at 16:14:47

I cannot tell you how happy and relieved I was to see you post again! You have come to the right place; so many have been in their own individual versions of where you are. You truly are not alone. Are you getting help - therapy, meds, etc? If not, please do so, it will make so much difference. Is there somewhere you can "get away from the world" in small ways? A walk (or just sitting)in a setting that relaxes you, going to Starbuck's (sorry, I'm from the great coffee drinking city of Seattle), taking a bath, even sitting in your car away from the hustle and bustle? While you keep yourself going with responsibilities, can you start learning the "responsibility" of taking care of yourself as you do others? Just start with something very small, once or twice a week, and build from there. I know pleasure probably isn't easy for you these days, but please find ways to take care of wrestlingmom - including finding a therapist and psychiatrist - and things will gradually start to improve. Please keep posting here and let us know how you're doing and what kind of help you need.

 

Re: suicide

Posted by phyl on March 17, 1999, at 23:29:21

In reply to Re: suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 17, 1999, at 14:17:26

> To all those caring people who responded,
> I am still here. Although I want to die, I know I can't. I have too many responsibilities. What I need is a place to hide from the world. I can't just go to bed as some of you suggest. I tried that and I get too many questions. Thank you again for your kind words.
> Wrestlingmom

Wrestlingmom--Don't know the details of your situation but can only say I've been to the edge of the final leap before. Luckily I didn't take the plunge. You do matter! Please let us know if we can assist in any way, i.e. passing along info from web sites that might apply to you, or just continuing on with reassuring words. You really do matter to us. Please stay. I can't stop you but I can let you know that I care about you. Take care. Be extra gentle with yourself, you are only human. --phyl

 

Re: suicide response

Posted by Dr. Bob on March 18, 1999, at 1:01:57

In reply to Re: suicide response, posted by jane on March 4, 1999, at 19:54:59

> Please CALL someone, anyone...

I don't mean to pick on jane, this is a natural response. But -- by posting here, wrestlingmom *was* calling someone...

Bob

PS: Of course I'm glad to see her back, too!

 

Re: suicide

Posted by Christine on March 19, 1999, at 11:29:21

In reply to Re: suicide, posted by wrestlingmom on March 17, 1999, at 14:17:26

> To all those caring people who responded,
> I am still here. Although I want to die, I know I can't. I have too many responsibilities. What I need is a place to hide from the world. I can't just go to bed as some of you suggest. I tried that and I get too many questions. Thank you again for your kind words.
> Wrestlingmom

Way to go Wrestlingmom.
I am so glad to see you back on the post.
I agree with Dr Bob.by posting again you are calling someone!
In fact you are calling a lot of us.
I know it's not easy to express what we feel,
But this is a good start.
Take care of you'r self.One day at a time
you are in my prayers!
Christine

 

Re: suicide

Posted by Patty on March 19, 1999, at 20:43:56

In reply to Re: suicide, posted by Christine on March 19, 1999, at 11:29:21

Dear Wrestlingmom,

I'd been away and hurridly scanned to see if you had responded - lo and behold there you were! Prais the Lord! I don't know your age, but can assumer, perhaps, that you have young children to care for or a job outside the home so going to bed is probably not a reality for you. However, sometimes depression simply sends us there whether we have time or not! If you're able to battle that aspect of your depression, then I'd say you have a very strong will! Good for you! I agree with the others with regard to doing things for yourself and taking care of yourself. I always thought it was good advice to "find islands of happiness." Might not get to stay there long, but something that provides and oasis for awhile. Please be sure you have a good doctor, are on the right medications, and please keep in touch - we care about you. Still in my prayers. Hugs, Patty

 

Re: to wrestlingmom

Posted by Elaine on March 25, 1999, at 23:46:58

In reply to Re: wrestlingmom, posted by Elaine on March 17, 1999, at 22:39:52

Wrestlingmom - How are you doing?


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