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RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 22:04:49

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by Mrs. C on May 18, 2004, at 21:54:22

I am also praying for all of us tonight.

anxious babe

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by Anakin on May 18, 2004, at 22:22:32

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 22:04:49

If it makes you feel any better...
Can I just tell yas I spent 1,022 dollars at the dentist today. YES ONE THOUSAND TWENTY TWO DOLLARS. I am sick. SICK >>>> I was also embarrassed because i DINT HAVE 1022 dollars!!!! I had to call boyfriend for his credit card. ONE THOUSAND TWENTY TWO DOLLARS
ON ONE TOOTH!!!! IF YOU ADD IN THE ROOT CANAL AND EMERGENCY ROOM we are talking 1700$. This is such bulltofu.

ALSO had about ten kids out of my one class today so I decided after lunch since it was a reasonable number of kids, we would go for a walk around the block, to relax and enjoy the sun and get some exercise...
Ok, boy throws pen at girl. Hits girl in the lip. Lip is bloody, not real bloody, but there is blood. This girl aint a takin none o this and goes after him. They are fighting on the STREET. Where there are cars and people. I am alone, outside with twenty children. I grabbed that girl and swung her around, and apparently, the other kids said she hit me, although I didn't feel it. I left her go and she went back after him, picks up a handful of dirt and whips it at him so it hits me because she misses him. I regrab her and tell someone to go get help. I started screaming at her, i DID not go to school and pay thousands of dollars for a career to break up fights on the streets or anywhere else for that matter...Then I started to hyperventilate and shake so bad I think I scared the youknowwhat out of the rest of them. I was crying as well. It was ridiculous. I had kids all over the place on the road by the road...THIS IS RIDICOLUOUS. Luckily, four of my kids ran up to the school and got help. Otherwise I would still be rolling around getting beat up by sixth graders.Did I mention I grabbed a boy on my way outside that was readying to fight? huge boy, I didnt even know.Yesterday, I had a boy punch a girl in the face and make a cut in her face from her glasses. I hate it that I cry when this happenes, but what would you do? Should I be embarrassed that i cried again for the second time this year? I feel like a fool, but I can not take this. I should not have to deal with this. I am ashamed and embarrassed, but how do you handle this stuff calmly? If i didnt cry I certainly would have sworn or said something I wasnt supposed to...HELP ME FIND A NEW CAREER! I think people not on meds would feel fit to be tied right now!




 

RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by Zena on May 18, 2004, at 22:23:29

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 22:04:49

It is nice to know I'm not alone. Sunday I got up early to fix a cassarole for lunch, set the timer on my oven, put cassarole in ref & off to chuch I go. When I got home I opened my oven to check the cassarole & quess what? I forgot to put it in. Duh!!!! Drives me crazy. Thanks for praying for all of us. We need it.
Zena

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by Zena on May 18, 2004, at 22:30:50

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by Anakin on May 18, 2004, at 22:22:32

Anakin,
I was a dental assistant for 15 yrs. & never needed any major work. After I retired I had to have 2 bridges & we don't have dental insurance. So I know exactly how you feel. Ouch!!! But having your own teeth is better than dentures or partials.
Zena

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 22:39:55

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by Anakin on May 18, 2004, at 22:22:32

Hi Anakin,
It sounds like you work in my school district. I am not a teacher but I work for the president of the teachers union in New Haven, CT and we have been experiencing episodes like this all week - what is wrong with these kids. I give you a lot of credit because being a teacher in today's society is tuff work. You guys deserve to make a lot more money because you have a tough job.
I have a teacher tell me a least once or twice a week that they didn't go to school to break up fights etc...I hope you have a better day tomorrow. 6-8 grade seems to be the worst age to teach for some reason.
Good luck
anxious babe

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic » anxious babe

Posted by Simus on May 18, 2004, at 22:57:12

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 22:04:49

> I am also praying for all of us tonight.
>
> anxious babe

You are so sweet, babe. So glad you came to join us!

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic

Posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 23:04:49

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic » anxious babe, posted by Simus on May 18, 2004, at 22:57:12

thanks simus, you guys are great!
babe

 

RE:: Help please for Mystic » Anakin

Posted by Simus on May 18, 2004, at 23:57:13

In reply to RE:: Help please for Mystic, posted by Anakin on May 18, 2004, at 22:22:32

> ON ONE TOOTH!!!! 1700$.

Yep, it's absolutely outrageous. I went through a similar thing as you, and then some. One molar: I paid for a couple of fillings first over the years. Then the toothache started, but not as a toothache - as a headache. I grew worse and worse until about the forth day I figured out what was causing the "headache", which by then was so bad that I was up all night and banging my head against the pillow. Double doses of Advil and Tylenol together didn't touch the pain. So I called the dentist in the middle of the night. He said to go to emergency and get a shot of novicane. So I drove myself there, got a typical ER doctor, got a shot in the wrong place in my jaw which did no good, but I didn't trust him to keep trying. (Still got the bill, by the way. lol) Anyway, I was sent for an emergency root canal the next morning. I told them to yank the tooth, but they wanted to save it. So I got the root canal, and they put a temporary packing in until the doctor could do a crown. The temporary packing fell out the next day, but they said that was OK. But apparently it wasn't, because the day before the crown appointment, what was left of my tooth split in half. So I told my dentist to yank it. But he wanted to save it. So he built up on what was left. Eventually, the whole thing broke off at the jaw. Well except for the roots, of course. Then I had to have oral surgery for them to go in and dig the roots out. When that healed, I got an incredibly expensive bridge. LOL Somewhere out there is a yacht that I am part-owner of. Talk about being in the wrong profession! =)
>
> I am alone, outside with twenty children. I grabbed that girl and swung her around, and apparently, the other kids said she hit me, although I didn't feel it. I left her go and she went back after him, picks up a handful of dirt and whips it at him so it hits me because she misses him. I regrab her and tell someone to go get help. I started screaming at her, i DID not go to school and pay thousands of dollars for a career to break up fights on the streets or anywhere else for that matter...Then I started to hyperventilate and shake so bad I think I scared the youknowwhat out of the rest of them. I was crying as well. It was ridiculous.

You are right, they were behaving rediculously. I have a sixth grader, and she has a wholesome regard for what Mom and Dad would do if she even sassed a teacher, let along beat one up. Honestly, I wish there would be criminal charges brough against some of these violent kids in schools. They at least need a ride in a police car once in a while so they can get a really close look at their future. I know you can't really do much legally to a sixth grader, but if the parents got drug down to juvenile court often enough, maybe that behavior would stop.

> I hate it that I cry when this happens, but what would you do? Should I be embarrassed that i cried again for the second time this year? I feel like a fool, but I can not take this. I should not have to deal with this. I am ashamed and embarrassed, but how do you handle this stuff calmly? If i didnt cry I certainly would have sworn or said something I wasnt supposed to...

You did well, certainly better than I would have done...little brats! Your job is like working as an unarmed jailer in a prison with no jail cells (no restraint for them and no protection for you). It is an incredibly high-stress job, and you have my sympathy.

> HELP ME FIND A NEW CAREER!

Can you perhaps move to a lower grade? Or maybe teach in a special setting, like a computer lab, etc.? Can you talk to your supervisor and ask what is out there in your school district?

> I think people not on meds would feel fit to be tied right now!

You are right! I will be praying for you. God bless.

 

RE:: Help please » mystic

Posted by Simus on May 19, 2004, at 0:18:55

In reply to RE:: Help please, posted by mystic on May 18, 2004, at 18:40:34

Mystic,

I am sorry to read that you are having such a rough time with this increase. Can you get back in to see your doctor soon, or possibly even call him and tell him what is going on? Maybe you should be supplementing the 10mg Lexapro with another drug instead of increasing to 15mg (?). Please don't go too long before you get help. Let us know how you are doing.

I will be praying that this situation stabilized quickly. God bless.

 

RE::: Anakin

Posted by mystic on May 19, 2004, at 6:54:18

In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16

Wow that is terrible Anakin talk about a bad day...You dont need a new career you need a new job...Those children are horrors my goodness you deserve a medal not embarrassment..You do the best you can but with the things that you tell us you are doing a great job with what you have to deal with .....Dont be embarrassed because you get upset I was upset reading it..Please just try to relax and give youself some credit because you deserve it those kids are holy terrors!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Meds or no meds no one could handle them..You were trying to be nice and take them out instead of staying in the classroom dont forget that...

Oh yes and the Rct and post and crown oh yes I work for a dentist and that really stinks..But the person at the front desk shouldve told you what the total cost was going to be before you had it done not that it wouldve made any difference because you needed it anyway but most dentists dont tell you those things and then the poor patient is like WHAT...I tell everyone what there insurance is going to pay and what they will need to pay and I usually let them pay 1/2 at the first visit and 1/2 at the next...I;m very sorry you were surprised that isnt nice..

I hope that you had a restful night and you are feeling better this morning but in NO WAY should you blame yourself for what those little stinkers do they should be ashamed of themselves but unfortunatly they wont realize that until another 30 years if even then...You do a great job your a great person and you need to remember that every day...Take care and let us know how today goes..Lots of Love and Hugs...your friend Mystic

 

RE::: Everyone

Posted by mystic on May 19, 2004, at 6:58:02

In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16

Thank you everyone for your prayers and thoughts I really appreciate them..Simus I am so med phobic that adding something else brings on terrible feelings for me..I have only been on the 15 for 5 days today so maybe I just have to relax and try to go with it...I have to work late tonight and just hope I get through the day..Thanks again everyone this is the best place to be for everyone these are the best angels in the world..thanks everyone..Your friend..Mystic

 

RE::: Everyone » mystic

Posted by Simus on May 19, 2004, at 8:22:32

In reply to RE::: Everyone, posted by mystic on May 19, 2004, at 6:58:02

> I am so med phobic that adding something else brings on terrible feelings for me

I can relate to that. I used to sit and stare at a bottle of new meds for a few days before I could get the courage to take one. And even then I would usually start with 1/4 ore 1/2 on the first day. I understand wanting to wait it out on 15mg, but if you keep getting worse, or at least don't get better, please try something else. I only say this because somehow I got the courage to keep trying until I found something that worked for me. And I pray that your fear doesn't keep you from getting to the right meds/dosage for you.

God bless.

 

RE::: Everyone » mystic

Posted by want info on May 19, 2004, at 8:52:36

In reply to RE::: Everyone, posted by mystic on May 19, 2004, at 6:58:02

hey mystic i didnt see this til just now...but it sounds to me like you are just anxious about increasing...it may be that anxiety that's getting to you and not the actual meds. i am lowering from 20 to 15 bc i felt 20 was too much for me. i did wait it out on 20 for 6 weeks though. also im starting my period today and feel headachey and anxious...are you around that time?
EM

 

RE::: Everyone

Posted by Anakin on May 19, 2004, at 14:54:14

In reply to RE::: Everyone » mystic, posted by want info on May 19, 2004, at 8:52:36

yalls so nice and made me feel better. Today was fine, but there were several kids :missin:) I am glad to hear it is bad other places too. It make e realize it cant be me...

 

RE::: Everyone

Posted by anxious babe on May 19, 2004, at 15:03:35

In reply to RE::: Everyone, posted by Anakin on May 19, 2004, at 14:54:14

Don't worry anakin - it is definetely not you. These kids are terrible today and it all boils down to no Respect in the home. If they don't learn respect at home then how could they apply it any where else in there life.
These kids don't respect their parents so how could they respect their teachers, peers etc...

I am glad you had a better day today.

take care,
anxious babe

 

RE::: Everyone

Posted by ednababish on May 19, 2004, at 17:34:02

In reply to RE::: Everyone, posted by Anakin on May 19, 2004, at 14:54:14

Anakin,
I don't know what you teach, but I teach college and they have no respect either! So it's not you; but I believe that they are just clueless and that the best way to deal with it is to explain how things should be done gently.
Edna

 

RE: Simus

Posted by mystic on May 20, 2004, at 6:11:28

In reply to RE::: Everyone » mystic, posted by Simus on May 19, 2004, at 8:22:32

Hey Simus...Hope that you have a great day..I had a good day yesterday was very busy so that was good...Just taking it one day at a time...Thanks for the support...luvya Mystic

 

RE::: Lexy

Posted by mystic on May 20, 2004, at 6:12:32

In reply to Redirected Lexaproers, posted by jlynne on March 13, 2004, at 1:31:16

Hey Lexy...Are you home yet??>..We have missed you a lot lot lot lot...Hope that you are feeling good and you had a great time...Your friend Mystic

 

RE:: Anakin

Posted by mystic on May 20, 2004, at 6:13:41

In reply to RE::: Everyone, posted by ednababish on May 19, 2004, at 17:34:02

Hey Anakin glad to hear yesterday was better...Hope you are counting the days until school ends...you should get a medal!!!..have a great day ...Mystic

 

RE::: Hey everyone

Posted by ednababish on May 20, 2004, at 8:31:11

In reply to RE::: Hey everyone, posted by anxious babe on May 18, 2004, at 12:01:23

Anxious Babe,

I can sympathize with your dismay over figure flaws--all of which look worse in the PMS mirror. Incidentally, all department store dressing rooms are equipt with this mirror. I hate my breasts, my upper arms, my flat butt, and my especially my belly, which was no prize before my daughter was born and is even less of a prize now that she's a year old. But I also know that I wear a size six--through sheer perseverance, eating right, having a weakness for healthy snacks like popcorn and fruit, and from working out with weights three to four times a week, and getting at least 30 minutes of cardio from walking my dogs everyday. I also know that I am five foot six, 130 lbs. which is way over the model ideal. But real women come in all sizes and shapes--go to the pool at the YMCA and see if I'm not right. Look at the other moms, look at the prepubescent girls and look at the grandmas--I've noticed that women are only shaped like swimsuit models during their child-bearing years. I remarked to my husband that we women look sexy only so we can re-populate the race; and then we're the ones who also think beyond just the sex. I also work out at the Y, and sometimes I am the youngest one in the room (at age 39). I see older women who are working out not to look good but to feel good.

Think about what your body can do--it can bring forth new life, it can carry you from point A to point B, it can give you sexual pleasure (God and lexapro willing). The longer you take lex, the better you will feel about yourself, I promise. I used to be so self-conscious about my appearance that I wore long sleeves year-round; I wouldn't put on a swimsuit; I didn't even own a pair of jeans. Now I wear a bikini, not necessarily proudly but I see others who look like I do in one, so I'm okay. My husband and my ten year old nieces have some cellulite; I'm okay. Natural is better--and you can cover a multitude of sins by keeping your head up, smiling, using a little self tanner, and acting as if you have every right to wear that swimsuit.

If it seems like I'm preaching, I'm sorry. I'm trying to convince you and everyone else who feels inadequate--myself included. The media sets a ridiculous standard for us to live up to--and I say look at real women for your inspiration. And join your local YMCA--it's a great support system, a great gym free of model types, and a great family organization.

Love to all,
Edna

 

RE::: Hey everyone

Posted by anxious babe on May 20, 2004, at 10:21:39

In reply to RE::: Hey everyone, posted by ednababish on May 20, 2004, at 8:31:11

Thank you Edna...that is the truth and I was never one to complain or care about my figure - I was always a size 5-7 and very happy with that. I now am a size 10 and really that doesn't or didn't bother me because my husband always says that I am beautiful and so is my body even though I think he is blind half the time.

I think I got a little down in the dumps because of my body type right now and trying to find clothes for the summer - I am 5 4' 136 pds and I have no boobs, a big butt and big thighs - so what do they call it? Pear shaped LOL :) very small frame on top and big on the bottom. I have no waist at all, but my butt is so plump that anything I buy is so big in the waist and it looks ridiculous. I need a size 4 for tops and a size 10 for bottoms.
I am very active but not as active as I should be - I am going to make it my business to take some time out for myself and do some jogging and weights.
The media does set ridiculous standards for women today and I realize that, but thank you so much for your advice - It really makes a difference. My goal is to get down to 120 pounds which was my pre-pregnancy weight, so I am going to set that goal for myself today and if I get there or close then great but if I don't then I will still love myself at 136.

Love to all,
anxious babe

 

RE:: Anakin

Posted by trucker on May 20, 2004, at 10:29:40

In reply to RE:: Anakin, posted by mystic on May 20, 2004, at 6:13:41

anakin don't know how ya do it! i myself would been fired or quit by now. you got the strength and the love of teaching helping you and the grace of GOD working with you as well hang in there and love and prayers are going out to you from me and this thread. summer soon and they will be someone elses problem.. maybe a tranfer to a smaller town and school could work... just an ideal
trucker

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> Hey Anakin glad to hear yesterday was better...Hope you are counting the days until school ends...you should get a medal!!!..have a great day ...Mystic

 

RE::: Hey everyone

Posted by ednababish on May 20, 2004, at 11:14:40

In reply to RE::: Hey everyone, posted by anxious babe on May 20, 2004, at 10:21:39

Look at Jennifer Lopez--sounds like you and she have very similar statistics.

 

RE::: Hey everyone

Posted by anxious babe on May 20, 2004, at 11:34:57

In reply to RE::: Hey everyone, posted by ednababish on May 20, 2004, at 11:14:40

Yeah that's what my family says - only if mine was as firm as hers. (smile)

 

RE:: to anxious babe

Posted by bride2be on May 20, 2004, at 19:12:51

In reply to RE:: mystic, posted by bride2be on April 9, 2004, at 20:22:46

honey we are in the same boat. i am 5'2 and 135 with a j-lo butt too! it is really annoying and i always wear a medium top (i have c cups) and like a 400 bottom! just kidding, but for real, i know exactly how you feel. if you ever need to smile, write me and i will make you laugh about it. i know how you feel. when i buy bathing suits the top is always like a medium and the bottom is a large or extra large! i hate it! but that is us and we should be proud to be healthy and have all the yo-yo's in our life. if you need me, let me know! SMILE! --BRIDE


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