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Re: dealing with crap rainbowbrite

Posted by Poet on August 29, 2005, at 21:58:04

In reply to dealing with crap, posted by rainbowbrite on August 29, 2005, at 0:09:24

((((Rainbowbrite))))))

I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad.

As you may know I have trouble talking in therapy, so I understand your reluctance to see anyone. Sharing secrets is hard and trust for me is slow to build, but it's there. You deserve to feel better, remember that, okay?

I hope doing yoga helped ease some of the pain.

You have therapy experts here on babble, we'll help you get through that first visit. Let us know how you are doing.

Poet

 

thanks Angela (nm) Angela2

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 30, 2005, at 0:55:39

In reply to Re: dealing with crap, posted by Angela2 on August 29, 2005, at 18:52:47

 

Re: dealing with crap fallsfall

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 30, 2005, at 1:32:29

In reply to Re: dealing with crap rainbowbrite, posted by fallsfall on August 29, 2005, at 19:39:02

> It is very hard to make that appointment and meet with someone for the first time. But they really do want to help you, and they don't judge you. You have been through a lot, it is reasonable for you to get some help with this. Try to just push through to get into an appointment?
>
> Anything we can do to help?
>
> Falls.


thanks Falls,
I dont know, I may have overwhellmed myself. I dont know what I am supposed to do. My options are to go to speak to a greif counsellor or go find a therapist which I could then see for other issues. Not sure Im ready for that. I meant to make a phone call today about this but I just avoided it instead. I realize that the longer I put ot off the worse it will be.

What I would like to know is...what will it be like? To get over stuff what do I have to say and how long do I have to go speak to someone for and how detailed do you need to be?

 

Re: dealing with crap Poet

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 30, 2005, at 1:58:27

In reply to Re: dealing with crap rainbowbrite, posted by Poet on August 29, 2005, at 21:58:04

> ((((Rainbowbrite))))))
>
> I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad.
>
> As you may know I have trouble talking in therapy, so I understand your reluctance to see anyone. Sharing secrets is hard and trust for me is slow to build, but it's there. You deserve to feel better, remember that, okay?
>
> I hope doing yoga helped ease some of the pain.
>
> You have therapy experts here on babble, we'll help you get through that first visit. Let us know how you are doing.
>
> Poet

thanks

I went for a long walk today, it was helpful.
I just dont like thinking about it, I guess the reason I hesitate with therapy. Tomorrow I am going to make some phone calls.
I may not be up to this, I dont know...I confuse myself.

 

Made a call

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:39:03

In reply to dealing with crap, posted by rainbowbrite on August 29, 2005, at 0:09:24

but I really didn't like the guy. He sounded...um.. I dont know, not for me I guess...too emotional maybe.

 

Re: Made a call rainbowbrite

Posted by Fallsfall on August 31, 2005, at 12:56:59

In reply to Made a call, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:39:03

Good for you!!!!!

If he doesn't feel right on the phone he won't feel right in person. Can you make another call?

I did a post once on finding a therapist - but the link is on my other computer. I'll post it next time I am on that computer.

The second call will be easier than the first one was.

(((Rain)))

 

Re: Made a call rainbowbrite

Posted by Annierose on August 31, 2005, at 15:10:05

In reply to Made a call, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:39:03

Hi Rainbowbright -

I agree with Falls. The first step is always the hardest. There are good therapists out there. You're gut will tell you which one feels just right. I'm glad you're trying this out once again.

 

Re: Made a call rainbowbrite

Posted by alexandra_k on August 31, 2005, at 15:57:09

In reply to Made a call, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:39:03

Yeah...
You might want to make another call.
Or you could go and see him once and see how it goes.

It can take a bit of time to find someone who suits you.

Good on you for doing that :-)

 

Re: Made a call rainbowbrite

Posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:04:12

In reply to Made a call, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 12:39:03

I'm proud of you Rain, really proud. That first call is a really big step, if he wasn't right that's okay, you'll find someone who is.

 

ugh :-(

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 18:23:00

In reply to Re: Made a call rainbowbrite, posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:04:12

this is making me physically sick

 

thanks you guys

Posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 18:28:11

In reply to ugh :-(, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 18:23:00

its really helpful. I hope I manage to do this, it is making me sad thinking about it. Im worrying that its going to make me depressed. But Im still working on it. I have more names.

 

Re: finding a therapist

Posted by Fallsfall on August 31, 2005, at 20:45:23

In reply to thanks you guys, posted by rainbowbrite on August 31, 2005, at 18:28:11

Here is an old post. We can talk about your choices if you want.

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031213/msgs/290414.html

 

Re: finding a therapist

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 1, 2005, at 1:19:36

In reply to Re: finding a therapist, posted by Fallsfall on August 31, 2005, at 20:45:23

that was helpful to read. I think CBT is best suited to me but Im not positive. (No, actually retail therapy is;-)) CBTs the shortest therapy I think. But I dont know if that is right for this situation. My negative experiences with therapists is part of the reason this is so difficult. I have a list of names to start. I think I will play eenie meenie miny mo with it. I have to make another call tomorrow!

 

PAYMENT

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 2:31:46

In reply to Re: finding a therapist, posted by rainbowbrite on September 1, 2005, at 1:19:36

do they do it per session, in advance or can you pay late? or does it depend? is it unusual to pay ahead for sessions?
thanks

 

Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite

Posted by fallsfall on September 2, 2005, at 10:02:21

In reply to PAYMENT, posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 2:31:46

Generally you pay at the end of every session.

If you have insurance, you may just need to pay the co-pay at the end of the session. Depends on who submits the insurance claim (you or the therapist) and how your particular therapist does it.

My experience is that they generally do NOT bill after the fact. You are expected to pay that day.

Handing the check (which I made out in the waiting room before the appointment) to my therapist at the end of the session gives me a way to say thankyou, and to even things up a bit (because they have just spent the whole session on your issues, it feels better to give something back to them).

 

Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite

Posted by Annierose on September 2, 2005, at 12:00:29

In reply to PAYMENT, posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 2:31:46

Hi Rainbow -

I do think it varies with each T as Falls said. Both my T and my daughter's T give me a statement at the end of each month. But I do the paperwork for the insurance, i.e. I pay the full amount to both therapist and get my portion back from the insurance company.

Finding the right therapist for you will be the bigger job. I would tell the therapist you are interviewing your past experience, both the good, bad and ugly.

Good Luck, once you find the right one, it will be well worth the journey!

 

Re: PAYMENT

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 23:06:49

In reply to Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite, posted by Annierose on September 2, 2005, at 12:00:29

ok thats good to know, I spoke to one who suggested prepaying. didnt sound right.

 

Re: PAYMENT

Posted by Pfinstegg on September 3, 2005, at 7:21:13

In reply to Re: PAYMENT, posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 23:06:49

For me, there's a bill lying near the head of the couch on the last day of the month! I mail in the payment to him, and get reimbursed by insurance myself (not a lot-25 visits per year). I would find it strange to end a session by paying him right then, as often the moments of leaving bring forth strong and poignant feelings from my younger parts, which he and I both want them to express, even though I may be going out the door physically as they do!

 

Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite

Posted by alexandra_k on September 3, 2005, at 20:50:38

In reply to Re: PAYMENT, posted by rainbowbrite on September 2, 2005, at 23:06:49

> I spoke to one who suggested prepaying. didnt sound right.

I imagine the reason for that is probably in case you turn out to be a no show. If they are keeping that time slot free for you they want to make sure you pay them for it.

Have you checked out what you can get from insurance / your uni services. Big universities tend to have better services...

 

Re: PAYMENT alexandra_k

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 4, 2005, at 12:19:18

In reply to Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on September 3, 2005, at 20:50:38

> > I spoke to one who suggested prepaying. didnt sound right.
>
> I imagine the reason for that is probably in case you turn out to be a no show. If they are keeping that time slot free for you they want to make sure you pay them for it.

ahh, I must sound like a no show lol

>
> Have you checked out what you can get from insurance / your uni services. Big universities tend to have better services...

yeah, not much. They have their own services. I havent checked what their availability is though. Oh, maybe I should just go there. I had just wanted to keep all that out of school.

 

Re: PAYMENT Pfinstegg

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 4, 2005, at 12:49:48

In reply to Re: PAYMENT, posted by Pfinstegg on September 3, 2005, at 7:21:13

> For me, there's a bill lying near the head of the couch on the last day of the month! I mail in the payment to him, and get reimbursed by insurance myself (not a lot-25 visits per year).

thats pretty good.

>I would find it strange to end a session by paying him right then

It sounds like it would be strange, I think I like the once a month idea.

 

Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite

Posted by alexandra_k on September 4, 2005, at 15:32:21

In reply to Re: PAYMENT alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on September 4, 2005, at 12:19:18

> ahh, I must sound like a no show lol

or maybe they just get a fair few of them.

> I had just wanted to keep all that out of school.

yeah, I understand that one.
you do have all the usual confidentiality stuff.
but it is also true that people you know from uni could see you coming and going from there.

 

Re: PAYMENT

Posted by gardenergirl on September 4, 2005, at 17:08:13

In reply to Re: PAYMENT rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on September 4, 2005, at 15:32:21

I pay my pdoc before each session, and then they file it with my insurance. After I met my deductible, then I start getting reimbursement checks back. But she requires the payment up front all the time.

It's a cash flow thing as much as anything. And it saves on bill collecting expenses.

gg

 

Re: PAYMENT

Posted by 10derHeart on September 4, 2005, at 18:35:04

In reply to Re: PAYMENT, posted by gardenergirl on September 4, 2005, at 17:08:13


I give my T. a check covering my co-pay at the end of each session. He does all the insurance filing for the rest of his fee.

I'm used to the little ritual, and in some ways, it helps me. It's a few minutes to chat and to bring myself further out of "therapy mode" if things have been intense. More time to dry the tears and breathe. I think it also helps remind me of the reality that this is his job, and I do have to leave, on those days where I want to stay there and curl up on his couch.

I have a lot of those days :-(

 

appointment

Posted by rainbowbrite on September 6, 2005, at 20:12:47

In reply to Re: PAYMENT, posted by 10derHeart on September 4, 2005, at 18:35:04

I have one, I hope I show up


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