Posted by Declan on July 25, 2006, at 3:19:41
In reply to Re: Any words of wisdom to help me through this? » Declan, posted by Kath on July 24, 2006, at 20:54:40
Would I talk about it? Yes I would, but that's me. I've been through it and so I have all sorts of things to say about drugs. I would seek to steer things in a generally postive direction, especially with regards to meth, for example.
I would not be aiming to control his drug use (since that is clearly impossible) but I would just be interested anyway, being opinionated about all this.
The nonexploitative thing is mainly that he should not exploit you, but maybe it can cut both ways.
It helped me with my drug addiction when people I loved let me know in a subtle self-disregarding way that they cared about me. Which is just normal good manners. I'm not keen on tough love, but having said that, drug use is not an excuse for bad behaviour. It is an excuse for being unwell though.