Posted by alexandra_k on September 9, 2013, at 20:14:03
In reply to Back home in a more orderly state of mind., posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2013, at 19:50:30
Glad to hear that you are doing better. Sometimes... Articulating the 'worst case' (if that makes sense) helps you see that things actually aren't there. I mean... Sometimes the courage to face the thoughts. Like your thinking that actually you could see a lawyer and see about a divorce... Is an important part of the process of perhaps your deciding (and being happy with your decision) that you actually don't want that after all. It can be nice to face some of the dark, hidden stuff, sometimes. Because of that, I think. Then it loses some of the negative power over us. That hidden corner of our mind wasn't as bad as we thought it was. Not sure if this makes sense or resonates at all... Sometimes I think that can be what is hard about people 'taking sides' on lines of thought... It restrains our freedom somewhat to come to our own decision. Make up our own mind.
I am glad that it is good to be home. I remember when we had re-pilers through... It truly was awful... Things lifted considerably once they were gone. Because... It wasn't THEIR house anymore. We didn't have to worry about keeping them happy (so they would do a good job and not rip us off too much) etc...
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