Posted by alexandra_k on September 5, 2013, at 16:48:31
In reply to Re: Nowhere else to put the words » alexandra_k, posted by Partlycloudy on September 5, 2013, at 10:08:55
I remember when I was staying with friends and actually did typically have time alone in the house during the day when they were at work. And then they decided to get the piles fixed which meant that for 2 weeks there were noisy tradesmen in the house yelling at each other, talking about women etc, coming and going from a hole they cut out of the center of the open plan area. It was totally invasive. Very stressful, as you say.
Do you have a space at home that is just for you? A woman-cave or similar? Is there a space that could be set up like that? I wonder if therapy could help with the boundary thing... With respect to your being able to set up areas and / or times where you can do your thing and where he leaves you alone to do your thing. Or perhaps you will have that with the remodelling done.
Television is hard... I think I prefer not to have one. Still watch shows on the computer etc... Or set up an external monitor to watch something. But makes it more of a 'special event' rather than turning on the box out of habit and just ending up watching some crap just because it is on. My father was a big TV watcher. I remember visiting him... Every evening was spent in front of the TV watching whatever he wanted to watch... I don't see how that was supposed to be fun for my stepmother... Or my stepmother and me...
Jo was big on conversation. Which was why we didn't have a TV. So everyone would sit in the living area with their personal device (computer, i-pad, phone) watching youtube vids and playing computer games etc... Still not really talking. But then, half the battle was people trying to get a little privacy / personal space from Jo, I reckon. And she couldn't seem to refrain from ongoing commentary about whatever it was that was occupying her... Sigh... Why are people such high maintenance?
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