Posted by Partlycloudy on September 5, 2013, at 10:08:55
In reply to Re: Nowhere else to put the words, posted by alexandra_k on September 4, 2013, at 22:55:59
I am visiting my sister in California, so I have ample opportunity to post and keep in touch. Her home is set up so differently from mine (OK, much healthier) with no TV in the living room. It's off in a corner of the house and they only watch it in the evening, if then.
A change of routine is great for me to stand back from my situation and help put itin perspective. I know who is waiting for me back home. I know he not only misses me, but loves me too. It could be that a solo time away is just something that I need to recharge and renew; and that is fine with me.
I am not trying to assign blame, or coerce him into counseling if it would drive us further apart. But if go back home with a clearer state of mind and connection to my partner, then this is better than any amount of therapy that would be the equivalent of us jointly battering our heads against the walls.
I am optimistic and feel more myself. The remodeling of the kitchen is SO intrusive . There is no way my spouse isn't adversely affectly as well, even as he can't articulate the effect it has on him.
Thanks for posting.
PC
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