Posted by Tabitha on June 13, 2009, at 21:04:59
In reply to Balancing acceptance and change, posted by Deneb on June 13, 2009, at 19:03:46
> I want to not feel bad emotions so intensely, but on the other hand, it is part of who I am.
I think you just captured why you're having a hard time with the idea of change. It sounds like you believe your emotional spirals are part of your identity. So naturally you'll feel attacked when someone suggests you change them.
Part of getting better for me was starting to separate my identify from my symptoms & coping mechanisms. Change is still scary, but it's less threatening if you can think of "you" as separate from those things.
Does this make sense?