Posted by SLS on April 22, 2009, at 17:16:01
In reply to I feel absolutely unvalued, disregarded, taken for, posted by obsidian on April 21, 2009, at 20:47:21
Hi Obsidian.
See if any of my BS sounds right to you:
Sometimes it helps to stand back from a situation and ask yourself how you benefit from it. What is it that the job gives you? How does having this job enhance your life? Survival is a noble goal.
Maybe it would help for you to be selfish. How can you exploit this job so that it is in your own best interests to continue with it? Is there upward mobility within the company?
Maybe it's not in your own best interests to continue with this particular job. Again, be selfish and exploit having a paying job while you search for something better.
In the meantime, look for humor in the workplace. Even if you don't share your humor about the company with your coworkers, you can certainly keep yourself entertained. Is there any way for you to make your job more fun? If it is your coworkers that represents the biggest problem for you, perhaps you can put into perspective what these people really mean to you. Probably nothing. Don't worry about pleasing them. Please yourself first. You are well worth the effort to make yourself the focus of your attention. In the end, it is your quality of life that matters most. Can you exploit this job to enhance your quality of life? If not, then...
Sorry to write so much. I think this is such a critical issue for you that I thought I could help out a bit. If I didn't appreciate you, I wouldn't have bothered. You are intelligent and likable. That's why I tend to read your posts when I have enough energy to do so.
My self-esteem comes from within. I appreciate myself. I take the time to take inventory of what virtues I have that *I* appreciate. You don't have to be perfect to have self-esteem. Much of my self-esteem comes from the understanding that as a human, I will never be perfect. I just try to use all of what little God gives me to work with in the moment. To know this helps me to appreciate my human strengths and accept my human foibles.
Do you feel somehow different from everyone else? If so, in what ways do you feel different?
- Scott
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