Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on December 30, 2008, at 13:27:38
In reply to Re: More Womin..err...women probs..Gals (guys?) help! » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by seldomseen on December 30, 2008, at 11:02:41
> What's the difference between womin and women? I don't understand the subject line of your post.
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> IMO, if she is no longer interested, she should just come out and say "I don't think this is going to work out". But, unfortunately, the brush off and fade out is considered by some to be acceptable behaviour.
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> Personally, I know I would be disappointed if a guy cancelled the first meet and greet at the last minute (I mean unless (1) he was literally on fire or mortally injured in some way, (2) Dead, or had a death in his immediate family or (3) There was a natural disaster in his immediate vicinity.). Of course, I'm very much "once bitten twice shy". To me, the start of the relationship is when everyone should be on their best behaviour - including me. For me, it's an essential time to start building trust. Maybe she is like that too. I don't know.
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> However, I would just come right out and say so. I don't like the "games" either.
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> Seldom
>Hi Seldom,
Thanks very much for your post. About the subject line..it's just proving that us men are much more stupid then women. :) Well, it's actually just totally meaningless. Sorry.
But, about me "chickening out" when we where supposed to meet, I gave plenty of advanced notice. After I calmed myself down, I offered any day, at her own convenience. Maybe you are right though..I dunno. She emailed me today and suggested next week sometime. So, I will make sure I go through with it. I guess it is no surprise that I have "avoident personality disorder"..ha. Following through on some things, for me, is like anticipating getting major dental surgery without the anesthetic. These words from a song called 'Epiphany' by Staind explain much of it..
"I am nothing more than
A little boy inside
That cries out for attention,
Yet I always try to hide.."But, I will put on my "Bravest Face", and see what comes out of this. Despite it all, I am actually a very, very people-friendly, easy-going guy. How I got all "f*^$ed up", well I've got my story too. But I can get beyond that, as I do know meeting women requires that. We'll see what happens!
Thanks,
Jay
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