Posted by Kath on July 19, 2008, at 20:45:26
In reply to Re: 90 Days to get another job » Larry Hoover, posted by TexasChic on July 19, 2008, at 10:08:27
Dear TC,
I am so proud of you for sticking up for yourself in the meeting. Obviously, I'm sorry you had to go through it all & that you have to deal with such a person as your 'boss'.
I SO hope that you get the University job. It would be wonderful for you to get out of the current job REALLY quickly. How soon (in answer to their 1 question) could you start? Can you give 2 weeks' notice? or what is your situation?
I hope you keep your excitement about looking for a job. The FACT (yes, FACT) that you got that reply from the Univ. shows you that you have skills/experience that are valued. Even if you don't get the job, I hope you absorb (like a sponge) the important 'feedback' that you have value that's being recognized. And keep your confidence up - you've told us you're good at your job; work hard, etc. Please don't loose that knowledge about yourself.
Am I right in interpreting the situation this way: you filed a "confidential" report & within days she 'wrote you up'??? The's how I perceived it....& if so - makes ya wonder what they think "confidential" means!!
Anyway, I think going in to work day to day will be hell! Maybe for now, you can "act as if" (in your own mind) you're going to get the Univ. job (or one just as good if not better) - that you are a damned good worker & have good skills, etc & that you're just going day-to-day where you are until you get the job where they'll really value you, etc. Sort of have it like a little secret in YOUR mind - that you know this & they DON'T.
Yes - as to assertiveness possibly bringing forth anger. My experience with blossoming assertiveness was that it was sort of like a pendulum....my pendulum had been over at one side, then instead of swinging to the middle & sitting there, it swung over the the other side (more like a little agressiveness than assertiveness) then sorta settled back more in the middle. There are still times when I can be on either side of middle, but more times when I'm nearer the middle.
I send my support & love, Kath
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