Posted by Deneb on May 26, 2008, at 17:30:57
In reply to Re: I had a fight with my sister again » Deneb, posted by Dinah on May 26, 2008, at 17:02:41
> Deneb, you've seemed more upset than usual lately. Is it because you're therapist is gone?
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> I understand that you're angry and upset. Your sister isn't being the sister you would like to have. Dr. Bob upset you. And your therapist left you for vacation. I'd be angry too.I don't know Dinah. It's probably the combination of things.
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> But I can't think how taking an overdose would be useful. Your sister and your mother just will not take it well, or sympathetically. How, in reality, do you see your sister responding to it? It wouldn't do to be less than you're best at work when you're trying to climb the corporate ladder.Yeah, it's not helpful. I know I can't really hurt myself. Work is important to me right now and yeah, my sister would just have more fuel against me. I have to be responsible and mature, that's why I thought of taking sugar pills. But that's kind of silly, perhaps I should write in a journal for read or something.
I actually searched online to see if I could buy cheap sugar pills. It seems like they're not as cheap as candy. I think I'm better off popping Skittles. That will be a waste of candy though.
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> Instead of taking an overdose, can you think of a more practical and helpful way to communicate how you're feeling? And a more helpful way to moderate those feelings?I think I'll read a book for a bit. Writing here helps too. I feel kind of better now. I could play with my hamster, but she's sleeping.
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> I do hear how upset you are. Both about this and about lots of things.
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> Maybe it would help to journal some of those feelings? Or to say something to your sister about boundaries and the expectations of civility, even in the family? Sometimes when I want to hurt myself, it's because I'm so very angry. If that's what's happening with you right now, might it not be better and more practical to express your anger in a productive way?I think there is definitely an anger component to my distress. Sometimes I feel like I want to "get back" at people by hurting myself. It doesn't make much sense.
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