Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 19, 2008, at 9:03:22
In reply to Racism *trigger, posted by Deneb on February 19, 2008, at 0:14:04
Hi Deneb:
I agree with CS through and through. It is hard, especially dealing with a parent who may hold racist beliefs. I believe you are from Canada, and we are certainly not immune to our share of racism up here too. I personally have experienced it in other's racist attitudes towards minorities at work, school, within my family, etc. Since you are the age you are, I don't think you have to listen to your mother's beliefs if you don't want to. Have you taken any sociology or social science courses in university or college? They can go a long way in helping to explain and understand racism, and how to react to it. Besides, you don't need your mother's approval to have certain friends.
As CS pointed out, a good tactic is to walk away when racist remarks are made, and refuse to even discuss such comments. The main, most important points are a) you have a new friend and b) he has offered to tutor you (for free...which of course I know you are very grateful.) You are in that period of your life when you are making the transition from home to the 'outside big bad world', and it is very hard, I know. Especially when your parents still see you as that little kid. But, don't wish it away to fast. I sort of did, and it seems like I just flipped the page and here I am a year and so away from being fourty. I had a bit of a rough start when I was in my early start...well maybe more then a bit..heh..but now I look back and wish I didn't push at time so hard.
Please take good care of yourself....
Jay
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