Posted by ClearSkies on October 25, 2007, at 9:05:56
In reply to bad day, posted by jammerlich on October 24, 2007, at 19:26:08
> i think maybe my problem is grief. i noticed the link for that board last night and have been crying, on and off, ever since. grief for the marriage that never was what i believed it to be, for plans that will never be, for a lost T, for loss of the security being married gave me, for a lost childhood. the sadness is overwhelming right now.
> bad day.
I think that (our visit notwithstanding) last weekend would cause you grief, being with a group of people who are so bitter about their life experiences. Remember how you couldn't relate to them? - your sweet disposition and compassion set you apart from the pack. A bittersweet lesson, but an important one in my book.
I think it's important to allow yourself time to grieve over these things before you go forward. And I think it's a wonderful thing that you didn't really find much in common with the group. As my T is fond of saying, "be gentle with yourself" and just watch how you're feeling; don't judge it.