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Re: Can we talk about touch? » Daisym

Posted by Kath on March 18, 2007, at 16:21:28

In reply to Can we talk about touch?, posted by Daisym on March 18, 2007, at 0:34:36

Awwww. I'm sorry.

What about 'virtual hugs' ((((this kind)))

You know, I KNOW they're not real, but when people do that, it always feels nice. Just wondering because I was going to give you one, but didn't want to trivialize your feelings.

And yeah....I know what you mean....sex is totally different.

I am very happily remarried. BUT in my former marriage there was lots of cuddling sleeping. We'd spoon against each other. Whoever turned, the other person turned & spooned again.

This marriage (13 years old now) is with someone who wasn't married before & who WANTS TO SLEEP. He's used to sleeping alone & THAT's what he wants to do ..... sleep!!!!! And to him, that generally doesn't include much in the way of touching. CERTAINLY not spooning!!! :'(

SO ....that's been a huge adjustment for me.

I have read that Caesarian section birth folks need WAY more holding; touching than normal birthed people. I was C section so maybe that explains what I feel is a big need for holding.

I have a friend & we will say "hey wanna cuddle?" if we're at either person's house. She is single; & I'm cuddle deprived, so it works...felt really weird at first, but now it's comfortable.

But for you, who is also uncomfortable about being held, it poses quite a challenge.

I send you my loving thoughts anyhow.

Kath

 

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