Posted by Meri-Tuuli on February 10, 2007, at 4:36:59
In reply to Spending, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 10:51:47
I've been thinking about this lately too. What do you buy when you spend?
I don't have any problems per se with money (in fact I'm quite good) but I get weird obsessions and currently I had a mini-obsession trying to find the perfect demin skirt, which is pretty bizarre considering that its -15C/5F outside and I won't be able to wear it until March (with tights, I think Americans call them 'pantyhose'?)
Anyway, somehow its to do with self esteem. I often feel that I'm never good enough or pretty enough or whatever and I think that at least if I have attractive clothes at least then I'll be sort of 'good enough'. I somehow can't explain it properly. Or if I'm wearing nice clothes I feel abit better about myself. But the thing is, I never judge other people on what they're wearing so I don't know why I care so much about 'looking nice' etc. I always feel slightly inadequate and somehow that makes me buy clothes that well I don't really need. Its never really an issue with money because I'm fairly modest but that money could be put to better use......well I dunno.
I hope I'm making sense!! Yeah somehow buying clothes I don't need is linked to self esteem, but I'm not really sure how or I can't explain it. Perhaps this could be whats driving your spending?
Kind regards
Meri
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