Posted by caraher on February 9, 2007, at 13:39:52
In reply to Hard time making friends, posted by DannaB on February 9, 2007, at 10:56:59
I'm like that too. I did a lot of therapy homework practicing things like making eye contact with strangers and saying "hi"
So I found cognitive-behavioral therapy useful for that. You kind of have to force yourself to go just a little outside your comfort zone, frequently. Comment on the weather to a cashier. Don't expect to accost some stranger and have a new best friend. If you slowly expand your comfort zone you'll start finding friends easier to have.
Also, don't compare. I'll bet you'd find that most of the "friends" of people you know really have a fairly superficial relationship to one another. That's the norm. If you have 3-4 good friends that's probably an exceptionally large number, even though it may not feel like it!