Posted by All Done on February 4, 2007, at 0:55:51
In reply to Re: Please rephrase - alesta, posted by Kath on February 3, 2007, at 20:30:56
Hi, Kath. I'm not gg, but maybe I can help?
> To me "I found it maddening" IS an "I" statement.
You wrote "I" found it...but by doing so, you were calling "it" maddening instead of describing how "I" (meaning you) felt.
> So - in order to "reflect your feeling" - and just to clarify (I'm not trying to be difficult), would one say "I felt mad"Yes.
> or "when I read that I felt mad"Yes.
> or "I felt mad when I read that" ?Yes.
> Thx for clarifying & sorry if I'm dense.You aren't dense. It can be hard to navigate the civility rules around here.
> I'd like to say, & I hope this is OK:
>
> After I read that initial post, I felt really upset about some of the things that were said.This works, too, but it's where I'd stop.
> To me they seemed...Again, you're talking about "they" - meaning the posts/words/statements written by someone else? Instead, you have to focus on your internal feelings about what was written, not on describing what was written.
I hope this helps and, if anyone else can clarify better or if I got something wrong, please let me know, too.Laurie
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