Posted by karen_kay on January 17, 2007, at 20:26:45
In reply to Sometimes people really suck, posted by jammerlich on January 17, 2007, at 15:36:29
that's me, like your friend. (sorta, how you explained it). someone calls me and i say 'i'm busy so i'll call you back later.' i even set a time. and right after the words leave my mouth, i know i won't. i do this in numerous situations. returning phone calls. 'oh, this is a short visit, so i'll stop back by.' 'kk's newphew's birthday! yeah, i'll be there.' 'sure, sign her up for girl scout meetings.' well, you get the idea.
and, you know what? i forget them. every single time. because i overcommit, and on days when i feel ousy, i'm lucky to get teh kids to school on time, let alone show up for a birthday party. and i try so hard to appear normal, like everyone else who's able to keep all this stuff straight in their heads. and that jsut makes it worse.
and, i've always been a 'friend-blower-offer'. i've always made plans with them, only to never follow through. but, i've always been there for the big, important stuff... graduation, weddings, funerals, the stuff that counts. (and i know that the everyday stuff counts just as much. i really do, but i'm just being honest on how i see and justify it.)i've lost contact with my friends for years at a time, then one day call them and expect them to be happy to hear from me. i alwyas figure 'that's how i am.' and they all know i am like that. and they make jokes sometimes about it, but i've told them i'm flighty and i don't think i can change that. so, i make a point now to check in at least every 2 months if i don't hear from them. (ok, i can think of 2 people i haven't, but that's not bad.)
sorry, don't think i have any useful advice. jus thoping maybe you could see the other pov? then again, this could just be jibberish :(
poster:karen_kay
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