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Re: My parents told me I'm lazy *trigger* Deneb

Posted by laima on January 11, 2007, at 14:32:06

In reply to Re: My parents told me I'm lazy *trigger* ClearSkies, posted by Deneb on January 11, 2007, at 13:31:26

Deneb, I don't even know you and I am still positive skipping a class doesn't mean you are lazy! Lots of people skip some classes, for all kinds of reasons; loads finish their 4 year college program in 5-6 or more years, and everything ultimately is absolutely fine. Once you finish, no one even cares or notices.

I think sometimes people like parents want to help but don't know how, they come to the wrong conclusion or just blurt out the wrong message, the wrong way. Were your parents immigrants? Mine were, and they often liked to talk about how much they sacrificed for us kids and how hard they scraped and struggled, how easy we had it by comparison and how ungrateful we were. Their world growing up was so different from mine, that I never thought they could fully fathom mine.

You skipped a class- you'll go back to class. It's not ideal, but it's no disaster. I say go back to class, and depending on what the situation is, either talk to another student to find out what you missed, or tell the instructor you are sorry to have missed, but you'd like to catch up with whatever you missed. If it's a large lecture, they might not even know. If you can believe this, some of my undergrad foundations courses were so huge, that some kids only showed up for the tests, and everything turned out alright for them (except that some of the other students resented them.)

Trust me, I skipped so many classes in college it was ridiculous. So did a lot of other kids. I even flunked a couple for not showing up- but once I got the degree, it just plain never mattered. Ever. Not a single soul ever asked me about the specifics of what I did or didn't do in college. All they ever cared about was that there was a degree. And why did I skip in the first place? I was depressed, or overwhelmed, or thought of something more fun to do, or slept in too late- all kinds of stuff. I was even so silly that I attended the classes I liked, and blew off the ones I didn't. I foolishly even listened to the campus bohemian types who talked about how going to class was "so bourgeoisie". I remember talking to a counselor at the student health center after I blew off a quiz- and the counselor shrugged and said, "So you blew it off. That happens all the time. Big deal, but go back to class and don't miss the other quizzes". I'm quite sure no college instructor is shocked by people who miss class. I vote that it's not a disaster at all.


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