Posted by finelinebob on November 23, 2006, at 17:55:37
In reply to Shall I sign up at matchdotcom?, posted by corafree on November 9, 2006, at 2:12:53
el-oh-freaking-el!
I have a lifetime membership on Match.com because I beta'd for them back in '94 or '95 or so.
Met the greatest mistake of my life through M.c. She's on her way to becoming a classical by-the-book Freudian analyst ... G_D help the wealthy of NYC. I was manic at the time, so I didn't realize my mistake until it was too late and I'm so terrible at extracting myself from such abusive situations -- well, at least I USED to be.
Anyway, in one of her kinder moments while chastizing me for not responding to her treatments, she said I should have listed my DX in my profile.
Pardon me, but I have to stop typing a few moments because thinking about that "advice" coming from HER makes me bust a gut laughing....
Anyway, in my MySpace profile I have my academic degree initials and my DX initials and let people figure out which is more important for themselves.
And yeah, I've been thinking about updating my M.c profile to say the same thing. If some woman sees the rest of my profile and is interested, then I figure she's going to know about the "rest of me" soon enough if the interest is mutual. I'm getting too old for posing, well past too old for that matter, and if someone can't deal with my honesty, my openness, and my if-you-can't-accept-me-for-who-I-am-then-take-a-hike attitude I'd rather that she not waste my time, my money, and/or my emotions on her shortcomings.
I am who I am because of all of who I am. You get the package or nothing.
If you're strong enough to consider putting yourself on display for a dating service, I'm not saying be as in-your-face as I enjoy being, but I am saying that you should take pride in yourself, what you've accomplished and where you are taking yourself. If you're ready for Match.com or eHarmony (gag!) or LavaLife or JDate or True or whatever and you are just looking to get out and meet some people, play your cards close to your vest and have a good time -- grow from the experience. If you should meet someone special, tho, you have absolutely nothing of which you should be ashamed. If that other person can't cope when you are ready to open up? Give them a week or two. If they still can't cope, then that is THEIR shortcoming and you deserve better. Leave them behind, learn from the experience, shed a tear if you must, but move on stronger for having taken those steps.
My $0.02
flb
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