Posted by TexasChic on June 21, 2006, at 18:03:15
In reply to Not PBCing you :) » TexasChic, posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2006, at 17:14:00
> I guess I'm just troubled, because I can't see how anyone can really know these things about others. They're inferences at best. No one really knows what's in another's heart, mind, or soul.
Too true.
> Surely no one would get offended because they consider themselves one of the uptight, rude, brainless people?
> They might feel offended if they thought they were being labelled as such. Many labels have derogatory or otherwise critical views embedded in them. That doesn't make the labels themselves wrong, but applying them to another group can lead that group to feel put down or offended. And even "uptight, brainless, rude" people, whoever they might be have feelings, don't they? I ask again, if you thought you were being labelled as such, how would you feel?I didn't see it as labeling as much as grumbling about the rude people in the world. But since you read it otherwise, I guess that means it must of been ambiguous, which we want to avoid.
> Could this possibly be one of those 'reword situations' to let the poster know his comments might be misunderstood?
> I suppose it could be, but actually Dr. Bob considers a "please rephrase" as more serious than a PBC, since it requires an action on the poster's part.Wow, I didn't know that. Shows how much I know.
> I appreciate your thoughts.
I appreciate being appreciated. :-)
I was very leery about posting this last night, I'm a big time confrontation avoider. But I felt like I was the only one getting what Michael was trying to say, so I thought I should speak up.
-T
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