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Re: Scarves and love » Tamar

Posted by Deneb on March 30, 2006, at 15:49:37

In reply to Scarves and love » Deneb, posted by Tamar on March 30, 2006, at 7:24:34

> Hi Deneb,
>
> I think perhaps I may have replied to your question about the scarf without having seen that Dr Bob had already said somethnig about it. I can't remember exactly what he said, but I'm pretty sure I hadn't seen it when I replied to you. Sorry if I caused confusion.

I wrote:

Is it okay to give Dr. Bob a gift at BabbleFest?
Well, is it?

It's not going to be an expensive gift.

Do you think he will accept it? Will I make a fool of myself if he doesn't?

I'm in the middle of making the gift happen right now.

Deneb

Then Dr. Bob wrote:

Thanks, it's nice of you to think of me, but I'd rather that time and energy went into making it a fun party for everyone.

Bob

Making the scarf won't take away time from making the party fun for everyone. I don't think Dr. Bob will mind that much if I give him a scarf I made. AuntieMel told me about the same thing. It'll make me so very happy if he'll just accept it. If I were him, I would just accept it. I don't expect anything from him. I just want to give him something I made.

> After all, if he really did accept it and then disposed of it without your knowledge, then that would be an actual rejection of your love. But if he declined to accept it while still indicating that he values you and your feelings, perhaps that’s better. Perhaps it would indicate that your love is important to him without needing to be symbolised in a scarf.

Hmmm...you're right. I would much rather Dr. Bob be truthful and decline my scarf rather than dump it in the trash.

>I’m pretty sure he won’t reject your feelings of love.

I hope so. He doesn't have to accept my love, but as long as he doesn't actively reject them, I shouldn't be upset.

Deneb*


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