Posted by agent858 on March 16, 2006, at 23:59:01
In reply to Re: My childhood panic attacks » agent858, posted by Deneb on March 16, 2006, at 23:19:55
> ((((agent858)))) I wish there was someone to comfort you and love you whenever you get in a bad place.
Babblers are pretty good at that :-)
It can be hard sometimes though. Sometimes it feels like all the love in the world isn't enough... But it is what helps. And a little bit of time... And then I am in a better place to accept the help that is offered.
> That gives me hope. Maybe past hurts can still be healed.I think so. I still grieve. But I think I grieve less than I used to. And it doesn't feel so very intense so very often any more.
> That's great that you found caring people and now you've internalized them.Mmm. Sort of. Still need teh external support. But then I think everybody does really.
> I still need to learn how to comfort myself.
Yeah. I'm not very good at that at times either. I think it helps wehn other people care about us... Then we learn how to reciprocate that and care for them... And then we learn to internalise that and care for ourself too. Quite often I still have to think 'be gentle with yourself like i would be gentle with another person who i care about' and it can be hard... But that is what helps. Helps when other people help too... But it gets easier to take the bits of help that are offered and then really take that in and take it on board and try and tell yourself the messages that they are telling you... just about saying those things to yourself too.
> It's too bad things like that don't get noticed by people. It makes us feel so alone to suffer in silence.
yeah.
and... asking for help appropriately... is something that has to be learned too...
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