Posted by TexasChic on February 12, 2006, at 16:26:14
In reply to 1st time in years *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on February 12, 2006, at 6:56:31
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can't even imagine how I would deal. You sound like you're stronger than you know.
Its not hard to understand why women blame themselves. When I was going to church (and this doesn't mean all churches are this way) I was taught that the woman was responsible for causing the man to lust after her. It was a sin if a women showed a part of her body that 'caused' a man to lust. I remember in junior high having a special class at church where they separated the boys and girls, and we got a lesson called "The Bellybutton Brigade". Just the fact that this was only taught to girls gave the impression that it was the girls fault. Add to this little things like my brother could wear shorts but I couldn't, and its no wonder we get it in our heads that its our fault.
But its just not true! This is a warped and disturbed way of thinking. I don't care if I'm standing buck naked in front of a man, dirty dancing and singing "Give it to me Baby", he will NEVER have the right to FORCE himself on me! NEVER. Period. That's it.
You never hear of a guy getting raped by another guy and people saying, "Oh, well, he was ASKING for it. Did you see what he was wearing!? What did he THINK was going to happen?"
-T
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