Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 12, 2006, at 14:22:59
In reply to 1st time in years *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on February 12, 2006, at 6:56:31
Wildcard,
I'm SO sorry for what you went through. What some human animals can do to another is horrible.
I would like to share something with you. I'm no fan of the Catholic church, but some of the individuals within that church have said some very special and inspiring things.
St. Augustine wrote "City of God". In it he describes the fall of Rome. When Rome was being overtaken, part of the process of demoralization was the r*pe of the women of that city. Many of the women, feeling they had done wrong by having this happen to them committed suicide.
St. Augustine wrote to them that though two people had been involved in the act, only one was a sinner. The women had been *involved* but were unwilling. The only sin was on the man who had forced the act.
It's the same today. So many women feel guilty, or as if they had done something wrong. They might intellectually know that they did nothing wrong, but they still feel as if they did.
PLEASE remember that there were two people there, but only one committed any sin. It WASN'T you. The acts that you committed afterward were a defense mechanism. Some women try to prove they were bad by doing bad things. Some women try to prove it wasn't their fault. Almost all feel some guilt. Almost all feel that they were somehow at least partly responsible. But none of them are responsible. There is ONLY ONE sinner. It wasn't you.
You've done nothing shamefull. You are a beautiful creation with much love and tenderness. Your beauty can't be tainted by the ugliness of another person.
(((((Wildcard)))))
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