Posted by Gabbix2 on January 18, 2006, at 22:27:46
In reply to Sorry, I have to disagree, posted by Emily Elizabeth on January 18, 2006, at 18:18:42
They're interesting points, and at first I wondered too.
But.. I've seen to many relationships (In these cases it was the man, but I know that there are women too) where there was no respect, and it was her *job* to pick up the underwear and the socks and whatever else was too much trouble to put away, and then listen to the complaints, and swearing when things couldn't be found.For some reason many times I've seen kids follow dad's example, I guess cause if mom's picking up after everything and always tired, then dad's the fun guy. I've seen it end up like the family has sided against mom.
Maybe they shouldn't be married, maybe that's the problem. However that's not the issue here, when someone acts so disrepectfully, and they aren't listening, sometimes it's a way to have yourself seen as a person again.
And putting things in a box for a week doesn't really work, or it didn't for us.
It's not permanent enough, and quickly forgotten.
My mom threw out things we left on the floor,
and you know I'm not saying "well if I could deal with it so can they" but hey.. I was 10 I knew how to pick up after myself, and it only took a week..
It must be really hard having the person identity superceded by the *mom* identity.
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