Posted by fallsfall on December 23, 2005, at 7:19:50
In reply to I'm afraid of getting blocked *trigger*, posted by Deneb on December 23, 2005, at 2:33:33
> Whenever I see other people get blocked, it reminds me of when i was blocked and it makes me upset.
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I think that most people are upset at being blocked. Thinking about being blocked makes you anticipate being upset. I assume that you don't want to be upset, so you don't want to be blocked. Is that right?> I'm thinking of an evil thought right now.
So you recognize that this thought is not a particularly productive one.
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> I want to say that if I ever get blocked again, I'll kill myself to get revenge.
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I know that you AREN"T saying this right now - it is just something that you WANT to say. Why do you want to say this? What do you hope our reaction would be? What are you trying to get us to understand?> I think I'm one of those people who will kill themselves in prison.
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> I think I would rather die than be locked up.
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> I hate that blocking is like prison for me.So this is good - you are describing for us IN WORDS why blocking would be hard for you. It would make you feel like you were in prison. It is interesting to me that your metaphor is that you are not allowed to move, while in actuality blocking allows you complete freedom - but it EXCLUDES you from participating here.
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> I don't think people will like me very much if I kill myself because I don't like being blocked.No, killing yourself won't make people like you.
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> I don't think I ever learned to accept punishments. I never got punished when I was little.
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Should you have been punished? Did you often do things that should have been punished? Why weren't you punished? Are you saying that you want to learn to accept punishments? If so, then perhaps being blocked is actually HELPFUL for you (also known as a "therapeutic opportunity") because it will give you a chance to see that you can be punished, but after the punishment is over, that things can go back to the way they were. That you can be forgiven for misdeeds.> I wonder if I really will kill myself over something so trivial. Anyways, I'm risking my life my participating here sometimes.
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You do have a choice about your actions. You can (perhaps with difficulty, or with help) control your actions. But it sounds like you don't think that you CAN control your actions. Maybe you need to learn ways that can help you control your actions. Do you think that would help?> I think people might not like me saying these things.
Why do you think that people might not like hearing this? What do you think their reaction will be? What do you think they will feel? This is a time when you are considering controlling your actions in order to get what you want (i.e. people to like you). This is a good thing.
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> I know nothing and no one can make me kill myself, but I still have those bad thoughts of revenge.What does revenge do? How would getting revenge help you?
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> I know it doesn't make sense. My being dead doesn't hurt Dr. Bob. I'll be the ultimate loser.Yes. And I don't think that you want to lose.
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> But, what if, what if I get so upset that I really do it? I don't trust myself when it comes to intense emotions.
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You would like to learn to control your actions when you have intense emotions? Talking about your emotions like you are doing here is an important first step towards that. You are doing a good job! Talking instead of acting is a good way of controlling your actions.> I better come back as a ghost.
What advantage to ghosts have?
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> DenebDeneb,
You are thinking very hard about this. That is really good. I like that you are trying to understand how things happen and what they mean. And it is true that often talking about something helps us to control our actions.
Good job!
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poster:fallsfall
thread:591511
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20051215/msgs/591526.html