Posted by Monkeyoga on October 30, 2005, at 1:20:31
In reply to Re: I can't decide if I hate it when this happens » Monkeyoga, posted by fairywings on October 23, 2005, at 23:35:49
Thank you all for your advice. I sorta followed all of it, even though some of it was contradictary. Abbey, your post about breaking it off entirely made a lot of sense. I was getting attached and the more attached I got, the harder I would crash when she left (or rejected me). So I finally admitted this to myself and had a good cry, which seems to have flushed out most of the negative feelings associated with my attachment (I don't know how else to describe it). I backed off a while to get some perspective and by the time I talked to her again, I felt I was ready to be her friend. In fact, we just got back from a haunted hayride type thing with a mutual friend and his "date". It wasn't my idea, and I thought I wouldn't be able to enjoy it because it was a "date" type event and we're not dating, but I was wrong. We had a great time. She's really a lot of fun, and it continues to be the case that the more I get to know her, the more I want to get to know her. As of now we're tentatively scheduled to see a concert in a couple of weeks and if she sticks around we'll probably do more. Of course, that's a big "if"...
Anyway, thanks again for your support and kind words. I'm glad y'sall (that's Philly-speak) are around.
-Jamie
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