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Re: I'm getting desperate again... :-( *trigger* » Tamar

Posted by Deneb on September 27, 2005, at 22:27:49

In reply to Re: I'm getting desperate again... :-( *trigger* » Deneb, posted by Tamar on September 27, 2005, at 8:08:28

> Have you done no study at all, or just too little?

I've just done too little. :-(

> If you’re doing some, how many hours per day?

I go to all my classes (I used to skip them a LOT). I think I average 1 hour of study a day? :-(

> How many hours do you think you should be doing?

Maybe 3 would be good.

> If you’re doing none at all, what are you doing instead?

When I'm not studying, I'm usually just doing nothing...sometimes I lie on the bed, sometimes I surf the web, read posts etc. I haven't been sleeping my days away these couple of day though...phew.

> Are you distracted by other things you enjoy? Or are you procrastinating because you’re afraid?

I think I procrastinate because I'm afraid and then I just don't want to think about things anymore so I pretend they don't exist.

> Maybe you’re actually doing plenty, even if it doesn’t feel like enough.

I wouldn't get an A right now if there was a test here right now.

> If necessary, lower your standards. Do you really need to do well? Or do you just have to pass? If you just have to pass, then aim for passing.

Well, the first tests aren't worth as much as the second tests, but I still want to do really well. I just need to pass, but I still want to do well. I just need to pass because I've already screwed up my chance for grad school, at least for now. I'm such a loser...

The pdoc I saw two times in high school was wrong...I don't have a boyfriend (or any friends for that matter) and I'm not doing well in school. :-( I'm much lower functioning.

> And also… if you fail, it’s not the end of the world.

I've already failed before and it never gets easier for me.

> Be honest with yourself: what do you expect of yourself?

I expect to get As and Bs this semester. I aim for As.

>What do you think other people expect of you?

Nothing, my parents don't expect much from me.

> When you need to study, start with something that interests you, and spend at least half an hour on it, even if you feel you know it thoroughly. It should give you some impetus to move on to something you find less exciting.

That's a really good idea. I was able to get some studying done today, not enough, but better than nothing. :-)

> If you’re really struggling with procrastination, perhaps you can talk to someone about it. Maybe a sympathetic professor? Or are there learning advisers at your institution?

I'm terrified of talking to professors...it's horrible. In high school I *never* raised my hand to ask or answer a question. I had/have horrible social anxiety. Even just attempting to raise my hand in class sent my heart racing and my face blushing. I would think that I was going to just drop dead from a heart attack.

Thanks so much Tamar for all your suggestions of what to do and the questions to ask myself. That was really kind of you to do that for me. I'm sure lots of people could benefit from your advice. Thanks again. :-)

Deneb

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