Posted by Tamar on August 9, 2005, at 13:54:20
In reply to Re: What about eye contact? » Tamar, posted by happyflower on August 9, 2005, at 10:11:23
> > Yeah, that's usually a good indication. Except perhaps in therapy, where I suspect normal rules of eye contact don't apply... (Either that or my former therapist liked me more that I dreamed of in my wildest fantasies...)
> >
> So why do you think therapy is different? Are they suppose to pretend to flirt with you? It seems like it would cause more trouble than it was worth. But a T could flirt with you if they are attracted to you. Maybe your T really did like you! lolI think therapists use eye contact as a means of establishing trust. I noticed that my therapist would maintain eye contact until I looked away, and I often thought (between sessions) that I’d like to challenge him by holding his gaze until *he* looked away. But I never had the confidence in session to do it. And it seemed to be usually when we were talking about difficult things, so there was no flirtatious content to the conversation.
I think a T could flirt with a client, but he’d have to be pretty sure that she wasn’t hoping for a dangerous liaison!
Tamar
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